DH holds his knife like a pen

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It drives me nuts.

It's pathetic that it irritates me the way it does. I don't nag him. I don't even bring it up (once ten years ago I did point out it wasn't the correct way, he asked what it was to me, I said it drives me crazy but that that's my issue)

It drives me silently crazy every day.

I'm ridiculous, why can't I just let it go?

Only a right-hander would say this

Nope, I'm saying it too. This is why I hate the wrong way round being called the left-handed way.

If it’s driving you silently crazy everyday you need help

@Zhampagne

Again, same as *@DappledThings*, if chopping an onion or similar I use the knife in my left hand. If carving meat with a fork and carving knife I will often hold the knife in my right hand as this is familiar from thirty-five years of cutlery use.

What @SimonJT won‘t appreciate as a right-hander is that most left-handers have a degree of ambidexterity from a lifetime of fitting in to a left-handed world. Most of us are perfectly capable of using cutlery in the conventionally correct manner and do not need a right-handed saviour to defend us.

Sorry, obviously that should be ‘right handed world’

My ex held his knife and fork in fists, makes me shudder

OP:

Oh how embarrassing. Really!

When I met OH he had the most appaling table manners. Mostly using his fingers I actually saw him ripping steak apart with his fingers.

He will still rip a Yorkshire pudding apart then use it as a dipping tool in the gravy, but we are at home so dont complain much

He has started recently to enthusiastically and noisily sucking each of his fingers. When he did it while out it was time to have a word

I am left handed and was taught to hold my cutlery the 'correct' way as a child. My mother said it would bother her if I was sawing up and down with the knife in my left hand. Even 60 years ago people were apparently bothered by this. I also hold a biro correctly and write across the page - I don't understand why most left-handers hold it inside their fist and work their hand and arm along the top of the line. Life is a mystery sometimes but it doesn't keep me awake.

www.debretts.com/expertise/etiquette/table-manners/table-rules/

My MIL does this and endlessly keeps moving food around her plate. It drives me crazy!

I also hold a biro correctly and write across the page - I don't understand why most left-handers hold it inside their fist and work their hand and arm along the top of the line

Ditto

I watched aghast in a cafe where a young woman was basically using her fork to hold her food while she chopped at it with a knife.

So fork in left hand held vertically prongs on their tips through the food. And then sort of held around the handle. It was dreadful. A bit like the picture!

Do people also become enraged when they're in the presence of people with disabilities who have to eat in an "unconventional" manner?

I can't use a knife and fork . I can only eat with a fork held in my right hand because I am disabled yet my disabilities are invisible so you'd have no idea. Perhaps I shouldn't eat in restaurants?

The way some of you are so bothered about a left handed person switching their knife and fork is a bit pathetic really.

Not much going on at home?

DS eats his food off his knife. I don't say anything.

Actually hopeishere that is (not quite like on the foto) correct in other cultures and there are rules telling you how close the knife may come to the fork.

I am sure I disgust a lot of people by holding my cutlery the wrong way round - but rather that than be really disgusting and drop food from my fork or spoon because I can't coordinate.
Or I'd make sure only to order food I can handle with the 'wrong' hand for the first and last time I'd share a meal with people who make this necessary.

Wouldn't even been another date once I learned that - never mind consider marriage!

some judgy posters on here today, it's obviously difficult for them to understand everyone is different and some people have to do what works for them.

The only person I've ever known to do it the wrong way round that I've actually eaten with is right-handed and just prefers it the wrong way round.

I'm right handed and I hold my knife in my left hand. It's not wrong, it's the way that I've always done it and is most comfortable to me.

If other people are offended by it then they're the ones with the problem, not me.

Did you know that the table fork was an Italian innonvation and was not commonly used in the UK until the 18th century.

Good manners and etiquette are about making other people feel comfortable Desmond so if anyone tried to make you feel bad about the way you eat......they wd be v rude.
By the by the thing that I hate the most is people wrapping their hands around their coffee or tea and blowing on it....

Op he is pathetic not you. Don't blame yourself.

I'm right handed and I hold my knife in my left hand. It's not wrong, it's the way that I've always done it and is most comfortable to me.

No, it is wrong. You just don't care it's wrong.

Dappled we live in a predominantly right handed society, so the dinner table would have been a place where your parents laid out your cutlery in the usual way. However I am sure no parent would force a left handed child to hold a kitchen knife in their right hand. Very dangerous.

As as child who was both left and right handed I was forced to use my right hand in primary school (70s). They made me sit on my left hand to stop me switching between them. I still do lots of things left handed today. When my children ride a scooter, one rides with their left foot and one rides with their right foot. Dh is left footed (football) but right handed. I can scoot with either foot, it doesn't feel odd to switch.

I mostly hold my knife like a pen when eating but also hold it in the palm of my hand when cutting food like chicken or steak. I don't break out the fish forks when I eat salmon though

Oh my good god why do any of you care about this?!

Vesper I did know that! It was referenced in a historical tv drama about this new fangled thing called a dinner fork, and I needed to know when we started using it.

It was classed as ‘feminine affectation’ of the Italians, British men would eat with their fingers and were proud!