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AIBU?

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Aibu to think this may have ruined a friendship?

399 replies

Barobee · 20/06/2020 17:00

TL;DR friend’s boyfriend won’t get his car out of my garage and it’s pissing me off.

Longer version: two years ago a good friend asked if her boyfriend could store his car in my garage. It was supposed to be for three months max as he had just exchanged on a house so would be able to store it in his new house’s garage once it had completed.

I said yes as she’s a good friend and I don’t mind being helpful.

Two years on and the fucking car’s still there. I texted at the beginning of June to ask if it could be moved by mid June because I wanted to paint the garage and turn it into a room where DC could hang out a bit. Friend said she would tell him he needed to move his car. Two weeks later, at friend’s suggestion as he had shown no interest in collecting the car, I texted again to ask when he was coming. No joy.

I’ve just texted again today and said if it’s easier can she just give me his number so I can deal with him directly. Now the reply is that she’ll give me his number later because she’s got another child visiting.

At first I was annoyed at him, partly because I sometimes think he treats friend quite badly, but now I’m beginning to think that they are both taking the piss (him more than her) and this is going to impact badly on our friendship. AIBU and what can I do?

OP posts:
CoraPirbright · 23/06/2020 18:17

I think backseatcooker’s message is a good one.

I’d add an addendum to it regarding smashing a window and letting off the hand break to move it if they don’t get their rude, ungrateful, rude, piss-taking, rude arses down tout fucking suite!!

mussymummy · 23/06/2020 18:36

You asked peoples advice but are refusing to listen to it. Why? Why are you so afraid to stand up to these so called friends, why cant you understand / accept these people are not your friends but are royally taking the utter piss out of you despite you excuses about his dying relative, / loan etc. You seriously need to grow a spine. Dojt ask for advice if you are consistently going to ignore it.
And you have still not answered my question as to how good a friend this person is, if you have not seen her in the two years you have been hosting her boyfriends car then you are not a friend. Stop being such a doormat and making ridiculous excuses for these people

slipperywhensparticus · 23/06/2020 18:49

Do you not know anyone who can get it out onto the road? Put out a request on Facebook?

ComeBy · 23/06/2020 18:56

Have you given him a last chance deadline?

NinkiNonkiNikau · 23/06/2020 19:57

You need to be assertive- you are giving friends friend all the power here.

Jigsawpuzzles · 23/06/2020 21:22

The main thing that’s a disappointment here is that you want the work done in the garage for your son and now he’s waiting longer. This is like letting someone live in your house for free, it’s a whole space you cannot use. Your friend is not your friend she is just using you, if she was a friend she would apologise or at least sort something. Not one person has said your BU and yet you still don’t do anything about it.

crispysausagerolls · 23/06/2020 21:25

Rearranging the jobs is pointless, because the car will be there when he’s finished the other jobs too. You are just putting off the inevitable

Janus · 23/06/2020 21:49

Wow, I am a complete pushover and even I wouldn’t be taken this far! Check on the car for finance and then say tomorrow it is going whether they collect it or not. I lost my only key once and a company could come and move it to a garage for me (I found they key in the end!). But it can be moved even without a key.

KentuckyBlueberry · 23/06/2020 21:53

And you have still not answered my question as to how good a friend this person is

Who on EARTH do you think you are?!?!? 😂😂😂😂

Morphsplaydoughpoo · 23/06/2020 22:02

@KentuckyBlueberry

And you have still not answered my question as to how good a friend this person is

Who on EARTH do you think you are?!?!? 😂😂😂😂

The most important person with the most important opinions and questions of course! There's such a lot of pushiness and nastiness on here sometimes Hmm
KentuckyBlueberry · 23/06/2020 22:11

@Morphsplaydoughpoo

The most important person with the most important opinions and questions of course! There's such a lot of pushiness and nastiness on here sometimes

Oh yes totally. GrinGrinGrin

And they’re complaining the OP lets herself be pushed around! Blush🤔🙄🤦🏼‍♀️

Morphsplaydoughpoo · 23/06/2020 22:16

The OP doesn't have to answer your questions though Kentucky, someone who avoids confrontation doesn't need more confronting as to WHY they haven't told you exactly how good of a friend the friend is!

whiteblue · 24/06/2020 04:10

Wow, there's some really nasty, aggressive bullies on here. Not everyone follows the same path........
OP, you do what you feel is ok for you. Don't be made to feel demoralized by a load of bullying keyboard warriors.

Mypathtriedtokillme · 24/06/2020 06:55

Tell her he has till Friday to remove it or your selling it for scrap.

KentuckyBlueberry · 24/06/2020 07:05

Exactly

@Morphsplaydoughpoo

@whiteblue

ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal · 24/06/2020 07:14

Oh my god who do some of you think you are?! The op isn't here for your entertainment you know. Stop being fucking pushy and making demands!

KentuckyBlueberry · 24/06/2020 09:42

Just in case the thread's got a bit confused, they weren't my questions @Morph ! Confused I was quoting @mussymummy who I felt was badgering the OP a bit.

showmewhatyougot · 24/06/2020 10:32

Some people are so rude :(

Hope it gets sorted x

Greenpolkadot · 24/06/2020 13:18

The bloke is an idiot.
The tax must have run out by now. Get it out. Park it on the front and tell him to collect it.

Morphsplaydoughpoo · 24/06/2020 13:28

Oh I did know Kentucky, I got confused with the names, sorry!

ChillinInMyBacta · 24/06/2020 13:41

This thread is such a giggle. Thefriend obviously knows her boyfriend has no intention of reclaiming the car, and has done everything short of doing a midnight flit to ensure OP's cooperation through misdirection. Not such a great friend to be manipulating your passivity. Does the boyfriend even exist anymore, you obviously haven't sighted him for years.

cakewench · 24/06/2020 14:18

OP, update your friend now that the builder has started his work, and that he’s avoided the garage so far but will need access ASAP as you’ve booked his time.

Say if the car isn’t gone tomorrow, or the next day (whatever, xyz timeline for your builder) that you’re having it towed. Then DO IT. I assume you’ve already sent an ultimatum but you need to repeat it now.

Follow through, do not make empty threats, but don’t let this car take over your life. Your friend isn’t the friend you think she is if she’s happy to ignore your requests like this.

WhereYouLeftIt · 24/06/2020 14:30

And when you have it towed, it should be towed to the address of its owner. For him to deal with.

tinytemper66 · 24/06/2020 15:47

OP I hope I am wrong but you will still be writing about this in a few months.

cameocat · 24/06/2020 15:56

Can handy man help you get the car out and onto street?

Can you call citizens advice bureau for your rights?

This is beyond ridiculous.

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