AIBU to be so upset and angry about DSs Dad moving to Australia?

[FirTree31]

I only posted about another matter (school) yesterday so I am sorry to be asking for advice again.

My ex partner, DS2 (5 years old) Dad, told me last night he is moving to Australia to "make money so that when he dies he has some money to leave him". His brother lives there. DS2 has tics (which GP said yesterday would now be classes as Tourettes as tics persisted over a year) and his own behavioural challenges which can be severe. Apparently tics only happen in our home and I need to get it "sorted". DS loves his Dad and would be so upset, I can't imagine how much worse his behaviour and anxiety might be. Not to mention the backdrop of what is going on right now.

Ex said he is not being selfish, that he needs to make money, he looked down on me for working PT after spending 5 years at uni. Says he doesn't get to go on holiday, says he feels trapped.

I can't properly articulate to him how devastating I belive this would be for our son, partly because I'm finding it very difficult to empathise with him. He has a job, he has friends and family, he has a house(although he rents). AIBU to think this is ridiculous?

If your ex is going to move to Australia (perhaps it won't be as soon as Christmas but who knows?), I think it would be best to discuss plans properly for when he will be seeing his child. You won't be able to stop your ex going so best to think about how it will work. You will need to discuss the increase in CM because you will be looking after your son for most of the time rather than around 60% at present. Is he planning on having video calls with your son? How will you go about transportation between the two of you for visits?

Lots to discuss before it happens. If he has a brother with a company and four houses then I presume he will sponsor him so does that make it more likely he will be able to settle there?

This is so sad. He doesn't want to be in your son's life and you can't stop him.

At this point in time, there is no way I will facilitate him abandoning his child.