Hi everyone. Thanks for your input/encouragement.
Winnie, you aren’t far off with Bermuda. Hope you’d understand I’d rather not identify exactly where I am.
So we did a conference call with the helpful female colleague (I’m just going to call her HFC) and the Manager. We are a very very small (less that 20 persons) team with few people onsite so we don’t have an HR department. The CEO is rarely around and works across two locations and hardly visits our buildings. I’ve only actually spoken to him once in person. The team Manager is older than us, I think nearly 50, but isn’t all that mature and is the one that really dictates the laidback incestuous sort of hipster environment. I’m going to sound mean but he’s the typical sort of guy that’s never settled down, bachelor sort that’s never grown up or took on responsibility and work is his life and his social life. He’s always wanting to mix with us outside of work, only dates women between 18 and early 30s...hopefully I’m painting the picture here!
I informed him there was another issue which was why I was involving HFC and that I have sent him our statements via email. I explained I no longer want to do 1to1 work with Creepy Colleague and that I’d encourage him to read the statement as to why. Manager tried to force me to say there and then and HFC said, “I can say it if you’d prefer” and then I ended up sharing my statement on screen as Manager was quite insistent. I saw him read it and his face when he got to the relevant bit. He sort of winced then sighed and went “Yeah...that’s not really ok. And while I encourage closeness as a team and even physical closeness like hugs, it’s against our policy at the moment for him to touch you like that. I’ll have a word.” Then he tried to move on swiftly.
HFC was quite angry and said “A word? Is that it? Awkward are you happy with a word? I’m not sure I would be.” Then outlined her concerns.
I said I would prefer to have it logged officially and for the “word” to be more formal, perhaps a meeting with the senior members of the team.
Manager said “Look, I think he’s harmless and is just a bit of a dick...”
Wait for it 
“You probably just looked a bit vulnerable in that position and the thought crossed his mind out of curiousity rather than perversion. I doubt the guy has a perverted bone in his body, scuse the double entendre there haha haha!”
HFC blew her stack. Manager said “You are probably unaware HFC but your tone right now is quite aggressive. I’d encourage you to step back and let Awkward and I work through this ourselves.”
I replied that I wasn’t confident we could work through this ourselves and I would prefer that going forward it was dealt with as officially as possible rather than swept under the carpet and I wanted some more input from senior members, not just him.
He then, I can only describe it as this, started to guilt trip me, talking about the “lasting implications for the closeness of the team and how CC was right about making things awkward and that I shouldn’t hold an innocent enquiry made in the spur of the moment against him as I might be viewed as not being caring towards the team as a whole.”
I asked for an appointment to speak with the CEO. He said “Look, I’d really encourage you not to do that. It’s escalating things way out of proportion.”
HFC again got angry and said that in the UK I’d now have a case for constructive dismissal as he’s not guaranteeing a safe working environment.
Manager said “On the contrary, this is about everyone having a comfortable happy environment.”
Anyway, it went on for a bit. He encouraged me to “take the weekend before making a decision”
The “meeting” was ended. I instantly emailed CEO.
CEO is having a virtual meeting with me on Monday. He’s also emailed HFC to ask if she could provide some form of minutes for the meeting with manager but luckily the whole thing was recorded anyway
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CEO said I can have a rep attend virtually if I want and explained they pay someone external to do HR and he will also attend virtually. So I’m a little more hopeful now as it seems formal and professional.
Also, it’s all happened over the weekend so Creepy Colleague hopefully won’t have a clue.
I don’t want him to lose his job or anything I just want it logged and him told to never do that again.