To ask what advice you would give to the 28 year old yourself?

[Loosingitbitbybit]

Any advice relating to anything really, work, relationship, health, family...
I know everyone's story is a bit different and I'm not asking for magic answers but I'm 28 and a bit stuck. Can't put a finger on exactly what is I'm struggling with but I just like to hear others stories and see if I can relate to them or help me in any ways with my life.

Don’t marry the boring, ‘safe’ bloke. You aren’t too old to find someone else and have a bit of fun. Even if fun bloke has a mid life crisis and buggers off, at least you’ll have had a nice time in the meantime. And there’s no such thing as ‘safe.’

Keep yourself employable if you choose to be a sahm even if it means doing very part time hours.
It's very difficult to get back in if you don't.

I'd say you can move job. Wish I hadn't got so comfortable where I am now. Esp as they've now shown they don't care about loyalty

These are great! Thank you !!

Never underestimate the value of financial knowledge, you can make a little money go a long way if you understand how to.

Don’t compare your self to others , your success and value should be determined by you. You gain nothing by making comparisons.

Be kind. You will feel better for it and people notice it.

Look after your skin, you live in it a long time.

You only fail when you repeat your mistakes as you didn’t learn the lesson from them. If you learn something it’s not a failing.

Travel and adventure can teach you more than you anticipate and you never forget what you see and experience.

Exercise - you will always feel better for it.

Be flexible with plans and life - it never turns out how you planned.

Have relationships with people who have the same values as you. Looks fade, but agreeing on money, religion and how to raise kids is pretty fundamental.

Anger and bitterness only affects you. It’s like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die.

And
: 1. don't take anything for granted. 2. you can have it all, just not all at the same time. 3. be brave, be kind, be honest. (and a bonus thing to remember: you can't make everyone happy, but you can make everyone mad.)

Stop eating so much chocolate

Don't spend so much money on a wedding for the enjoyment of other people.

Don't always put yourself last.

Have my babies young - I will definitely want them and I will want more than one.

Travel more - see everything and periodontist travel

Don't be scared - go after what you want

Don't mess with your hair - it will break off if you bleach it all excessively

That's an easy one.

That house you are going to buy, don't do it, it'll be an expensive mistake, go with your gut feeling. The neighbours are complete arseholes and you'll be having a right set to with them by the second week of being there.

So the advice is, go with your gut feeling and you won't go far wrong.

Buy a house and keep paying pension. If you can pay a bit more on mortgage too. It will get better x

Choose a better paid career

I would tell myself to go for the career you really dream of even if it takes some time. Travel as much as you can and do not settle for men who use you for your financial security. Put yourself first and be kind to others but do not compromise your principles for anyone

Following. Im also 28 and in a rut.

Don't panic that you won't get married/have children. Enjoy this time for what it is, you will settle down later and wish you had enjoyed it not spent it worrying about the future

I wanted to marry and have kids. I’m 36 and I haven’t. I wish I’d got my boundaries sorted, been emotionally healthier/got therapy earlier and dated with a mission to find the man I should marry and have children with in my late 20s. The idea that my family could have been complete by now and instead it’s looking increasingly unlikely to happen at all is torturous.

If you don’t want kids of course none of this applies!

Also start clean eating, really taking care of my body with diet and exercise and not to put on two stone. I’m almost unrecognisable 8 years on as the same person due to weight gain and letting myself go.

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And DON'T TELL A SOUL!

Don't marry just because you feel everyone else is - you have lots of time to travel and explore before settling down.
I wished I had volunteered and travelled like I said I would in my mid 20s instead of bouncing from relationship to relationship and getting validation from being with someone instead of learning to be on my own.
I also wish I had pushed harder in my career at the time rather than bumbling along - I was well respected and wish I had used this more.

I was doing great then. I was playing the long game getting things in place to leave my partner. The advice I'd give is to myself at 39 re the sudden weight gain at the time. I did lose a lot of it gradually over a couple of years but i stayed a size bigger and now I'm in the awfully boring position of trying to lose the weight i piled on during lockdown. Until age 39 I'd never had trouble with weight so these two experiences of it have flored me. Please may i finally learn this lesson!!!!

Be sensible with money. It only gets harder as you get older and with no savings / pensions in place and a poor credit rating everything is so much harder.

Stay employed, however you manage to do this. Aside from anything else, it is great for retaining a sense of "you"

Be aware that all the years you could eat and drink what you want and still remain lithe will end

Also - don't let yourself get more than half a stone overweight before tackling it.

If you take time out for caring responsibilities try and keep contributing to your pension. You might have budgeted to live without your salary for a while but your pension fund is not growing as it should be.

I’m 28 and also in a rut. Feel like I’m at a crossroads (cliched I know)!

Travel more and have fun (after coming out of a ltr).

Work isn’t worth stressing about. If you don’t like it look for another job.

I would advise my 28 year old self to start threads on the internet asking people what advice they would give their 28 year old selves, in order to get good advice that I could then apply to my own life.

Keep working hard, it’ll pay off. Make sure you’re saving monthly even if it’s small amounts.
Don’t worry about turning 30 and not hitting all of your ‘things to do before you’re 30’ list. You still have time to do those things.
Enjoy the lie ins and decent tits!