There is no such thing as "the terrible twos"?

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Not a TAAT but there is an active thread about how parenting a toddler is hard and many parents leave their child in the cot and just walk out for 5minutes to get a breather because they can't cope.

I have two toddlers of different ages, very close age gap, but have never yelled at them or put them in "time out", or felt the need to walk away from them because they're misbehaving and driving me crazy. They've never drawn on the walls, or poured a packet of flour on the flour, or gone in to my makeup bag and destroyed my lipstick.. all the stuff you see on Instagram from time to time with a caption "toddlers are dicks/arseholes".

I'm not a perfect mum, my toddlers are currently watching Hey Duggee and about to have pain au chocolat's for breakfast (!!), and yes it is absolutely exhausting having a toddler, but AIBU to think some of the blame with badly behaved toddlers does in fact lie with the parent and "terrible twos" in bullshit? Getting my tin hat on!

Actually my most well beaver child-easygoing baby and toddler, no problem as a teenager and complimented by everyone-was a dragon at 23. Just saying.

Oh dear. What is it they say? Pride comes before a fall.
I have a very feisty 20 month old. Refuses to do pretty much anything. She refuses many meals, refuses baths, refuses to get into her car seat... the list goes on. I naively assumed this was normal behaviour at her age. Thanks op for correcting me. I did raise my voice when she was slapping her baby brother, but do my best to remain calm most of the time. It’s a challenge.
We can’t all be perfect. You sound like quite a dull person if I’m honest.

😂 wait until they're 3&4. good luck op.

I didn’t have chairs in the kitchen. So no. DC didn’t climb. If they had climbed, yes I would have put catches on the cupboards as I did on the lower ones. It all depends on what you feel you wish to do in your house. Again, we are all different. You are ok with not having child locks, I wasn’t and would have had them.

I don’t think a 2 year old refusing to do lots of things is 100 percent of toddlers. Of course plenty are happy to eat, get into car seats etc. Plenty don’t slap their siblings either, but some do. It’s how you go forward to stop this that matters isn’t it?

I would like to join everyone.else in wishing that your third child is a fucking nightmate

Do you realise how obnoxious you are?

@ILikeyourHairyHands

It's always a treat when a relatively new parent comes along and praises their superior parenting skills.

Could it possibly be down to all children being different people?

My dd was a nightmare baby but she's very nearly 4 and has been quite a good toddler/pre-schooler. I don't think it's anything I've done!

If all parenting skills were the same, there wouldn’t be parenting classes for some. Yes, parenting skills matter but within that there is a wide variety of what’s ok. There are some parents who do need help and that’s long been recognised. If parents are worried they can seek help and surely that’s beneficial to them and their children. So when a child comes out with appropriate behaviour, the parents should give themselves a pat on the back. They have made w difference. Children pick up on parental expectations so of course most parent do a good job.

Loads of kids don’t, I didn’t. My own mother said I was the least curious child in the world. My own kids were the biggest arseholes going, both of them are bloody geniuses. Maybe your kids are a bit thick like me? Never mind.

Tantrums are in fact a normal part of development. Id be very concerned if mine never had any tantrums.

Now this is just misinformation.
I can't remember any of mine having a full on tantrum such as I've witnessed in playgroups, shops etc. and they've all grown up just fine.

Ha ha ha. Just wait. I suspect in time you’ll stop being so smug.

I’m not sure full on tabtrummimg is part of ‘normal development’ but it is a well documented phase for some kids. Pushing the boundaries and exploring their voice is normal and a very important part of growing up.

*tantruming

@Tadpolesandfroglets yeah mine never had full on tantrums but definitely pushed the boundaries eg being argumentative - asking why this why that, when we've gone out for a walk stopped dead and refused to walk any further, ignored instructions etc

Toddlers are people you get some nice ones and some dickhead ones.
Dont feel too smug though my toddler is generally so well behaved however in the last 6 months since 3.5 she has both drawn on the walls and flooded my house.

This thread is simply a troll! Its not even possible your toddler has never drawn on the walls or poured out a pack of flour or food or something. YABU and I don't believe you full stop.

It’s not about whether your child is nice or not! Are you saying a child isn’t nice because it tantrums or explores its boundaries? Plus kids, just like people have good days and bad days. I often think very smart kids may challenge more when they are little because they are frustrated they can’t communicate properly. Don’t think it’s to do with being ‘good’ or ‘bad’.

Sounds like your kids don't have much spirit. Are they ok OP?

I don't understand some of these comments like yours @JRUIN

My toddler has never behaved like the OP has suggested (drawing on walls etc) but why the nastiness?

Because @2007Millie I don't think it's normal for little kids to never do anything wrong. Also if OP's kids have never pushed any boundaries, how can she possibly be so smug about it when her parenting hasn't even been tested?

@MrsBobDylan Hahaha, your post made me laugh...throwing eggs and flour at you while your back is turned!! Some kids hey!

I love all the funny things that people have written on here about what there kids get up to.

As a Mum to at least one child who has ADHD I can honestly say the one thing I look forward to is all the funny stories I will have to tell when my kids are older.

I used to basically follow my daughter around and pull her up on everything but she still managed to do things like sneak silently round my house while I was asleep sprinkling curash powder all over her room, the lounge and her cot, sneak a block of butter out from under me while I was cooking and sit at the end of the couch eating it while I looked for her, draw under her bed when she was sent to her room, climb on things, get stuck in baby gates trying to slip through the bars, we even had to buy her a back pack harness as she would try so hard to pull out of your hand as you were walking beside roads etc that she dislocated her elbow a couple of times.

If you think it is 50% you as a parent who influences your child's behaviour then you are taking too much credit, some kids are just harder than others. You aren't a miraculously amazing parent, you are just a parent doing their best, the same as most of us.

OP if you are posting on the back of someone else's dark moments you should be ashamed of yourself. Those moments are when comments like yours will hurt the most and have their greatest impact.

You should lift a fellow parent up rather than kick them when they are down.