Men staring at my breasts

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I'm just fed up of pretty much every man I pass on the street staring at my boobs. Should I put up with this?

With the weather having been a little warmer, naturally I've wanted to wear things a little cooler. But I'm not going out with my tits spilling out! Just crop tops, etc.

Can't we expect better?!

Well. It's just a body part. What if they just looked at your legs. Would that be different? Honest question

That is a rather naive comment. If it was "just another body part" like a hand or a knee joint why do people sexualise them then?

Also: if I see a woman with huge nice boobs... I look too

So do I (but with envy)

I stare at boobs too.

I must admit I have checked out men, but not ogling to make a man uncomfortable, or fearful, or attacked. Checking someone out is part of a flirting dance that is a two way mutual thing.
Perving and ogling, even though you can clearly see by her body language, the woman is not comfortable since she has not indicated any interest, is like a sexual attack.

Once, I actually tried to complain about a man following me around and ogling at me, licking his lips when he could clearly see I was uncomfortable, making those exaggerated disgusting kissing faces and pointing at me. He was a teacher at my dc's primary school, the LT/ safe guarding team referred me to social services and the teacher remained at the school, and sniggered at me when ever he saw me. Because he had won. The LT and safe guarding staff were middle aged women.
Men get away with it, because women hold them up and blame the woman

And on that occasion I also posted on Mumsnet, the safeguarding team found my thread, printed it out and used that as evidence of my fragile mental state. They gave it to the social worker. Luckily the two social workers that turned up at my house were professional.

Ive looked and I'm not into women.

I don't get the issues, some people like it when people look, some don't.

I don't care either way. They are boobs, nothing special. I dont feel any more or less annoyed than if someone looked at my arm. They are just breasts.

I have no problem objectifying David Beckham's ass. No problem at all.

Star please don't stare at women's/ girls chests.

You don't get why a man staring at a woman's chest is different to staring at her shin?

Sure you don't.

Why did page 3 features breasts then?

I don't get the issues, some people like it when people look, some don't.

So if it makes some women feel uncomfortable or upset fuck them eh?

And bearing in mind that it starts when you're very young.

Exactly ShinyFootball. It's extremely disingenuous and unrealistic to say that a woman's breasts are just like any other body part.

This thread is pretty unusual for Mumsnet but I have seen a few recently like this.

The idea that women and girls who feel uncomfortable when men do certain things, should ignore their discomfort because some women feel flattered when random men leer at them is very odd.

The idea that women and girls who feel uncomfortable when men do certain things, should ignore their discomfort because some women feel flattered when random men leer at them is very odd

Like WorraLiberty I'm having some difficulty believing pretty much every man is doing this

Pretty muchevery man?

Blimey

There's a difference between general people watching or normal human interaction, and leering or ogling.

Leering / ogling is harrassment and unacceptable.

Just looking at other people when you're out and about is normal. If someone catches your eye for some reason - maybe they're stunningly pretty, have brightly coloured hair, extremely tall, have an unusual outfit, or stand out in some other way - it's fine to look and observe as long as you're not staring or being a creep. When walking along the street you'll look and be looked at (assuming you're watching where you're going and not staring at your phone). That's what happens when you're out in public among people.

I really doubt every man OP crosses paths with leers at her. I'm very sure too many do, but I imagine an awful lot are just normal, everyday human encounters.

Well said Lockheart

I never said every man was doing it Dido

I said 'The idea that women and girls who feel uncomfortable when men do certain things, should ignore their discomfort because some women feel flattered when random men leer at them is very odd'

What do you think of that statement?

There was a hot tanned muscular man in the park today with no top on, and all the women in the park stared openly and lustfully as he walked through the park.

I can't believe your still debating this.

Leer is a very leading word.

Get back in your box if you can't stand human contact. Even eye contact offends you!! FFS! 😂

Why is that men that leer at women, seem capable of controlling their behaviour when a man that is with the woman glares at them? One of my exes would shout at them, "Oi, you never seen a woman before?' And similar phrases. And yet they can't seem to control themselves when I clearly object

I have cup FF boobs. I could wear a binbag and men would still stare at them. My oldest friend who is flat could wear the lowest cut top without a glance. I don't think it's the clothes. I think some men find it okay to stare at breasts. We need to teach our sons not to do this.

I cannot believe some of the replies on this thread!! God

OP, of course yanbu - men should not stare at your breasts. It's demeaning, rude and offensive.

and to the pp that says by way of justification that all men like breasts - wtf?!

Crop top.

You’re obviously gorgeous and they can’t take their eyes off you. Get over yourself.