Men staring at my breasts

[comeagaintomorrow]

I'm just fed up of pretty much every man I pass on the street staring at my boobs. Should I put up with this?

With the weather having been a little warmer, naturally I've wanted to wear things a little cooler. But I'm not going out with my tits spilling out! Just crop tops, etc.

Can't we expect better?!

YANBU. There are so many sleazy cunts around.

I know we should'nt have to, but I cover any cleavage etc.

I like camisole/vest tops and adjust or knot the straps so they don't show any. They're cool but attract less bollox. I know we shouldn't have to though.

Another poster who posts and runs. Incidentally about boobs and crop tops and cleavage. My my.

You guys do know that there's some dude pulling the dick off himself reading this lol. You guys are silly sometimes.

30HH here and I haven't worn a vest in years. It started as a way to stop the stares but now I genuinely feel very uncomfortable wearing less than a t shirt. Even having my shoulders out makes me feel very exposed and I hate that negative attention has caused that. OP if you're stronger than me and want to wear what you want, please do. I hate that we can end up hating our bodies because of other people and you should absolutely just rock your body as it is.

I'm really amazed that so many women find getting 'attention' from creeps on the street makes them feel attractive.

What message are you giving your daughters Fgs.

I guess this thread gives you a bit of insight into the kind of role models some of these poor girls have, if this is what they have to aspire to it's no wonder we have so many brainless "grammers" knocking about in society.

This thread is gross. Have some self respect.

Yanbu. I don't notice on the street I wear baggy active wear, when the security guys collect their payslip in work lots stare at my covered breasts even in a polo neck, they usually take a piss without washing their hands on their visit too. No standard's 🤮

I'd rather be attractive and admired and still a feminist, than be a mirthless shrew.
What's a grammer? Do you mean grandma?
Not yet 😂

Interesting first post from a poster who then disappears ...

You guys do know that there's some dude pulling the dick off himself reading this lol. You guys are silly sometimes

Meh, so what? It’s an anonymous forum. If this is how a dude is getting his jollies, let him. Least he’s not ogling my chest whilst he’s doing it. Win, win.

God this thread is depressing. Poor ickle mens have no self control, they can't help but stare at boobies. For God's sake, give it rest. If men can't control themselves they shouldn't be allowed out.

Is it staring or a glance? I have a sizeable chest and may notice a glance but also may glance at other woman whose boobs are showing just because they are prominent, I'm not staring or getting a kick out it.

Gosh, thanks so much everyone for their comments. Interesting to hear the many varied views. I just felt a bit down about it this afternoon. Despite wearing jumpers the last few days! As some of you said, that doesn’t always help either. It definitely does somewhat, but I sort of feel like I shouldn’t have to decide what to wear based on what will bring fewer stares. I definitely am not dressed in a provocative way normally, just casual.

Does anyone ever say something to men in this scenario? I’m definitely intimidated sometimes and wouldn’t dream of talking.

And as some have pointed out, of course I was exaggerating when I said ‘all men’. But it’s definitely a lot!

Do you have particularly large/nice breasts with flat tummy, attractive face? If that's the package I think people will look in the same way people would naturally look at a nice sports car going past.

If you're more unremarkable looking then maybe it's just the horny men who aren't getting much lockdown tinder action.

Tbf crop tops are pretty revealing, if I was wearing one then I would expect to get looks/attention. Hence why I don’t.

Have you got 3 tits or something? If not then I highly doubt you've got a constant stream of men staring at them, unless they're hanging out.

Most of your tops are crop tops that show a bit of cleveage? Maybe if you wear less attention grabbing outfits then people won't stare?

OP perhaps you could post a link to the type of tops you wear? When I hear the word crop top it sounds like something a teen girl would wear, are you sure you mean crop tops?

Men have brains and control of their heads, eyes, hands etc

That is a very naïve comment to make.
It is human nature for people to look at things they find attractive. If I saw a beautiful cat or a lovely painting I would want to look at it.
It doesn’t mean that women have to hide their assets away. It does mean that they need to understand that some men will look.

Being rather minimal in the chest area, I have never had that problem. TBH if I had larger assets I would probably want to show them off.

You should be able to wear what you want without being ogled at really. Especially when it's hot! However, in reality I don't think you can expect that men can control where they look. I have the rule, look but don't try to touch me!

I agree @ProfessorSillyStuff

A significant proportion of women wear cropped tops because they want men's attention.

That is so true, especially among girls of my daughter’s age (nearly 20). It sends mixed messaged to the male populace though. Some women wear skimpy tops because they want to and some wear them to attract attention.

I must be hideously unattractive because men just don’t look at me at all

Do you have particularly large/nice breasts with flat tummy, attractive face? If that's the package I think people will look in the same way people would naturally look at a nice sports car going past.

You just compared ogling and intimidating a woman to looking at a car. You compared a woman to a car.

It beats the old "you'd lock your car up, so you should cover up and stay home to avoid rape" comments by a small margin. But not much.

The problem is the male gaze, not the woman's outfit. Perhaps the men should wear blinkers?

Are you suggesting wearing jumpers impacts your life?

I had to put up with that for most of my adult life , from men and women , but unless your gonna wear a burka there’s not much you can do about it. In the end I had breast reduction surgery but it was painful and expensive and I had post op complications that took 18 months to recover from. But I no longer get the attention and I can wear what ever I like.

I am guessing that a lot of people who think men staring at your tits is flattering, or believe women wear certain clothes to encourage attention don’t have daughters? Like my baby-faced 12 year old with a DD chest. That was when I really noticed how men treat women and stare at their bodies.

@HermionesMom

That's a bizarre interpretation. I was speculating that some people look at attractive women in the same way as they look at attractive cars. That's what lads bags business model was.

I'm not endorsing that but I'm saying that's what some people do. Feel free to disagree but I think attacking me personally is a bit weird.