What would your reaction be to this conversation?

[mooching]

If you came down in the morning and you spouse said the following:

I've started coughing so I've had to register for a CV test. I'm afraid until I get the results we'll have to self isolate, me for 7 days and you and the kids for 14.

AIBU to ask if your reaction might have included asking how I am, rather than being irritated and saying 'what?' And me having to explain that that is the government's guidelines. He walked off and only about 10-15 minutes later did he ask if I was feeling ok. I pointed out I thought helps reaction was a pretty selfish one.

He says it's my fault for the way I presented it and I think he possibly has a point. I was also aware (and it seems from his reaction that I was right) that he wouldn't know what the self isolation guidelines were. Also, I am ok so perhaps I'm wallowing in self pity?

You've done exactly the right thing as per the guidance, I cant believe your DH has no idea about the guidelines after 3 months.

Hope you are ok @mooching.

Are you really off the hook with isolating if negative? The tests have a really high false negative rate. I thought you were supposed to isolate anyway. And the tests were also for reasons of monitoring it in population. Plus if you have a non covid cough virus don't want to spread it and make others have to get tested/isolate.

That isn't a rant at you op just if that's the rules I'm confused.

Can’t believe how empty it was!

Slightly scary that someone who has been researching and reading for risk assessments doesn't realise just how low the incidence of the virus is in the general population. Barely anyone has it and there's loads of test centres for not many people. Most tests are coming from routine care home testing which get posted.

That’s because no one has it anymore

You do realise that Britain has a higher rate than all of the other European countries combined?

Higher rate of what exactly?

Death from Covid 19.

That doesn't mean that lots of people have it out in the community though. The current estimate is 1 in 1700.

How are you feeling today?

Do you report in Zoe?

It sounds like your relationship is a bit strained anyway? Maybe that's something you need to take a serious look at (when you're feeling better) and consider whether it might be time to separate?

His response was shitty, but given he was barely awake, you presented it as a 'done deal' and your relationship doesn't sound exactly warm & nurturing I'm surprised that you were surprised.

As for people not knowing the guidelines. I agree, lots of people don't, but I'm not sure what more can be done if they're not engaging with the news?

Hope you get your results back soon. Did the test feel like it was done well? I'd still be concerned if it came back negative and I'd still isolate (kids too) and encourage DH to as well, see how the cough goes and maybe book another test.

You sound hard work op. Sorry I think if he saw you last night and you were fine and then this morning you’re talking about tests and isolating I can see how that came as a shock to him (I accept he wasn’t with you last night but still).

I think you sound pretty stressed and lonely. Hope your DDs are asking after you and making sure you're ok x