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To feel like we are just existing now

792 replies

Ghostlyglow · 12/06/2020 07:58

In a miserable, joyless world of queues and masks. A couple of friends have lost their jobs this week. Where are we going with this?When will it end?

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ShebaShimmyShake · 14/06/2020 19:33

@TheGreatBritishLockdown

ShebaShimmyShake or maybe that lockdown or not, I always had to feed and look after my kids and holding a full time job, so what else is new? Wink
Oh my God. I actually think this is a genuine question. Apparently lockdown changed nothing for people with jobs and kids.

Who wants to tell her?

HelloMissus · 14/06/2020 19:34

thegreatbritish but it’s a complete lottery what a school does or doesn’t do.

How does it help me if my foster children’s school was not open at all until last week?

Even now they can only go part time.

jakeyboy1 · 14/06/2020 19:36

Actually I didn't personally have to feed my kids before, not often anyway as they had most of their meals at school. I now feel like a 1950s housewife cooking for everyone whilst working a 50 hour week and trying to homeschool.

TheGreatBritishLockdown · 14/06/2020 19:42

ShebaShimmyShake
yes, we get it, you lost your "me time". We all have. We all spend our evenings planning for the next school day so we can juggle work and homeschooling.
Some of us are less resentful and clearly more organised than others, but we all have time to waste on MN, so none of us are that busy, are we? Wink

Mascotte · 14/06/2020 19:50

Maybe @TheGreatBritishLockdown could become the Joe Wicks of lockdown advice to improve slatternly parents?

countrygirl99 · 14/06/2020 19:56

The people I know who aren't coping well with lockdown are aged 81 to 93. Between them they have experienced extreme poverty and war. My 93yo dad lost school friends to diphtheria. He joined the army at 15 and had too scrape up the pieces of his best friend after a bomb hit him. He also contracted typhoid when he was in the army in the Middle East and saw active service over a number of years. But clearly he is a complete snowflake to some of you judgemental cunts as, now he is in constant pain and nearly blind, he is really struggling with lockdown and would rather take his chances with covid.

LookOnTheBrightSide1 · 14/06/2020 19:58

Shabbashimyshake and mascotte

You both seem to be ganging up on TheGreatBritishLockdown with your sarcastic and snide remarks. Is this what Mumsnet is about? The Great British Lockdown has made some useful points and to be honest from reading the last few pages of comments ShabbaShimyShake is becoming a bit hysterical. That's just my view from looking at that persons post.

ShebaShimmyShake · 14/06/2020 20:03

@TheGreatBritishLockdown

ShebaShimmyShake yes, we get it, you lost your "me time". We all have. We all spend our evenings planning for the next school day so we can juggle work and homeschooling. Some of us are less resentful and clearly more organised than others, but we all have time to waste on MN, so none of us are that busy, are we? Wink
Oh good God. I know you must have heard that something was going on because of the screen name, but you actually have somehow managed to miss it. No wonder you've been lecturing posters who've been struggling, you don't actually know what happened or what they've been doing. And to think I thought you must have been living in a sensory deprivation chamber before!

I'm afraid the bad news is that your official Superior Person status has to be revoked, because you haven't actually been doing anything to make yourself Morally Superior after all. You may actually find yourself down in hell among the rest of us lesser mortals. It's ok. I've got enough Factor 5000000 for you as well and I'll take my turn getting jabbed with tridents so you can have a break.

LookOnTheBrightSide1 · 14/06/2020 20:04

TheGreatBritishLockdown

You make some sensible and useful points. I don't know why ShabbaShimyShake is targeting you with some quite ridiculous comments. She has also in some comments told someone to 'fuck off' . Lovely! As you point out, this person has been on MN for hours by the look of how many comments she has made so has time on he hands. I have noticed a couple of other commenters who have joined in their sarcastic remarks and agreed with ShabbaShimyShake in her sarcastic comments to you which I think are uncalled for.

ShebaShimmyShake · 14/06/2020 20:05

You both seem to be ganging up on TheGreatBritishLockdown with your sarcastic and snide remarks. Is this what Mumsnet is about?

How long have you been here?

I'll admit I should have looked back to remind myself of the names of the other posters I was initially addressing, though. I just didn't care enough and still don't. Sorry, but I already established a while back that I was a Bad Person.

LookOnTheBrightSide1 · 14/06/2020 20:09

ShabbaShimmyShake

I think you are going to far with your targeting of TheGreatBritishLockdown, on the verge of bullying. If anyone is coming across as superior on these comments it seems to be you. You seem very angry . TbeGreatBritishLockdiwn has made some useful points and has not told someone to 'fuck off' which you have done to another poster on this site.

LookOnTheBrightSide1 · 14/06/2020 20:11

ShabbaShimmyShake

Please get some help. You appear very angry and ganging up on people like you are doing to TheGreatBritishLockdown is not helping your state of mind😓

ShebaShimmyShake · 14/06/2020 20:12

has not told someone to 'fuck off' which you have done to another poster on this site.

I don't recall doing that, though I do recall saying "fuck all that" in response to general lockdown moralising earlier in this thread. If you think I've been abusive somewhere, report the post.

LookOnTheBrightSide1 · 14/06/2020 20:28

Shimmyshabbyshake

You have just told someone they are going to hell. Clearly you feel very strongly about the Lockdown but for your own peace of mind I think you should log off Mumsnet for a few hours. Re-read your posts and you'll understand why your reactions are a bit extreme. I've just logged on to this thread in the last half hour and can see you are bullying and encouraging others to do so towards TheGreatBritishLockdown.

ShebaShimmyShake · 14/06/2020 20:37

Oh Gawd. I thought it was pretty obvious that the hell stuff wasn't serious. I appreciate that people might not find it funny, but I really didn't think anyone would believe I was truly threatening people with hellfire and damnation. I'm not even Christian. And I said I'd go there first, remember?

I can't believe I'm having to explain that posts about Factor 5000000 and eternally hot coffee weren't supposed to be taken entirely seriously. Well, ladies, now you know why they won't let me on the Now Show. Goodnight and God bless...and it really, really, really is OK to be finding lockdown hard. No, really, it is.

lisajane1966 · 14/06/2020 23:02

Whatever you feel about this, be grateful you or your children, husband, mother are not medically vulnerable - not got covid not on a ventilator or dead. All you whiny gits out there you are alive and breathing, just wait it out and shut up. I get this I will die I am grateful for the lock down what ever the restrictions.

Endless11 · 14/06/2020 23:08

It’s possible to find lockdown emotionally difficult, and follow the rules, and want to protect vulnerable people, and be devastated by the deaths that have taken place. And be willing to carry on with social distancing for as long as it takes.

Mental health and how it is affected by lockdown is a real thing however - not just people whining.

pigeon999 · 15/06/2020 06:49

Wow this thread took a turn for the worse! Confused

LaurieMarlow · 15/06/2020 07:00

or maybe that lockdown or not, I always had to feed and look after my kids and holding a full time job, so what else is new?

Are you just being a GF or are you actually so thick that you don’t get it?

I mean, I’d normally guess the former, but the amount of truly stupid posters on here seems to have exploded of late.

CheerfulYank · 15/06/2020 07:09

I don't know what to think anymore. Everything here in my state has opened back up a bit and I'm scared yet just kind of numb and resigned. My kids won't go back to school til September anyway (American schools are off June-August) but who knows what that will look like. They're at the school based childcare now.

Honestly I was being more careful and then I went to the protests in Minneapolis and it kind of felt like, fuck it, I guess.

Moomin8 · 15/06/2020 07:11

YANBU

I know people who say they are never going to leave their houses again. With that sort of existence, may as well be dead anyway 🤷🏻‍♀️

Moomin8 · 15/06/2020 07:19

Nah I’m excited to see what next week brings, with most of the high street reopening things will start to feel a bit more normal & less restricted

It won't be though. Instead of long queues outside supermarkets there will now be long queues outside M&S, Waterstones and so on. Who the fuck can be bothered with that?

Moomin8 · 15/06/2020 07:20

Ps I have a nail appointment booked for 4th July ! We can live in hope Grin

pigeon999 · 15/06/2020 07:22

It was quite grim for a while, lets be honest, but shops open today here in England, we can see people again, the sun is shining.
It is not going to magic away all the anguish of the last few months, nor the MH fallout, nor the possible job losses, people are feeling tired and fatigued with it all but we are making slow progress out of this crisis now.
We are emerging and the last lap of the marathon is always the hardest.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 15/06/2020 07:51

I won't feel that we are emerging until I can sit in a friend's house if it rains, don't have to queue to get into shops, don't have to wear a mask to go to the hairdressers etc. Until then nothing is going to feel remotely normal unfortunately.