DS coming downstairs on his own?

[chihuahualady]

Not really an aibu but interested in what other parents think.

DS 3 has been coming downstairs on his for the past two weeks and putting the tele on usually helps him self to a piece of fruit as well.He comes down about 6:30 me and OH and DD usually wake up around 8-:8:30.

I'm fine with it but just wondering what other parents do, would you wake up with him and go down? I'm just no good when I'm tired so that extra 2 hours is needed.

Absolutely no way would I let a three year old downstairs, alone for 2.5 hours.

What if he got your keys and got out? My two year old is more than capable of that.

What if he choked?

Dd is 5 and has recently started doing the same. Ivd be reluctant for her to do it much younger esp when eating due to the choking risk. Can you leave something for him that sess of a risk than fruit such as a soft brioche or similar.

I think 3 is too young to be unsupervised. He should be coming in to you when he wakes up.

I’ve just started letting my 6 yo get up and watch telly on his own, help himself to a bit of easy breakfast etc. 3 yo could still feasibly choke, or get into other trouble in the house.

Sorry, meant to say that dd does it for 30 minutes max too, I think 2 hours is a little too long as well

Main thought is what if he choked? What if he spontaneously decided to mess with something dangerous? You might think they wouldn’t but how can you be certain?
Probably sounds harsh but I’ve accepted getting up early is part of parenting and I feel tired!

Only started because I had COVID 19

He’s too young to be unsupervised for such a long period. Could you get him to stay in his room for another half hour or so?
Otherwise you are just going to have to go to bed earlier at night!

Far too young to be that unsupervised for that long.

A 3 year old should not be left unsupervised for that length of time.

If you need a certain amount of sleep, could you go to bed earlier?

He normally just takes a banana to be honest and I leave his juice in the fridge for him the night before.

We have the camera downstairs so I would be alerted by any loud noises.

Thanks everyone I did think he was a little young but because he seems content I have just left him.

Oh my god, a 3 year old? This is insane. Of course he is too young to be left alone for hours on end. Yabvu.

I'm not sleeping well at the minute I have tried but just can't fall asleep until at least 2.

My first thought was choking too, I have a 3yo. To young, to long IMO. But it’s up to you, my 3yo would be bouncing on my head after 5 minutes.

Can’t he/she watch tablet in bed with you instead?

No way what happens if he grabs say an apple and chokes on it. I nearly died at that age because I hot a massive chunk of apple stuck in my windpipe. My mother performed the heimlic manoeuvre and saved me, who would do that if your child was choking? You could wake up and find him dead. Far too dangerous. Let him play in his bedroom if you must assuming it's a safe space but do not let a small child run free where they could seriously hurt the self.

@Stripeytopgirl he started of doing that but now he just goes straight downstairs he doesn't even come into us anymore.

Dd is 4 No way would I let her do that. God knows what I would come down to🤣.
When she gets up early she comes in beside us till one of us get up.

I wouldn't have let mine at 3 but I'm impressed he can work the tv himself! Mine are 5 & 6 and they come down to watch tv or their iPads but they're not allowed to eat on their own as I'm too worried about choking

Can he get his juice from the fridge himself? He sounds super self sufficient which is impressive for his age! Maybe I am doing to much for mine 🤔!!

I don't even know how I could stop him he has learnt to do a lot of things by himself he is very self sufficient 🤣

Absolutely no to eating on his own, I never ever let my young children eat unless I'm in the same room due to choking.

Too long for his age, especially if you're all asleep, maybe bit different if you were awake and alert listening out for 30 mins or so while you stayed in bed. It's a long time for a little one to be on their own without any company.

My own DD has been going down on her own from about 4.5 years old and she's only allowed to have water to drink.

I think 3 is too young. I have a 3 year old he has very little concept of danger and is able to figure out how to pull a chair to stand on window sills and the kitchen counter etc.

Could you and your other half take it in turns to get up with him?

Mine aren’t allowed downstairs on their own. They’re not tall enough to turn the alarm off.

my nearly 3yo gets a banana and iPad in bed with me for an hour. I keep the volume low and she knows how to choose the CBeebies programme she wants.

choking is not a loud noise.

You stop him by getting up with him...