To wonder if my dp should be willing.....

[CagedBirdwithoutAKey]

....to look after my 3 dc a little more while I work from home (high-pressured job) - he doesn't work

It's mainly the kids constantly asking for food, drinks, arguing etc., and my head's literally battered with it all

I honestly don't know what to expect from a dp when the dc aren't his?

@Grobagsforever thank you

Makes me laugh how unsupportive women are to each other

Sorry you're stressed OP, but if you don't live together and they're not his DC then I don't think he's under any obligation to.

Have you asked him to help? Would this be on a 1 day a week basis or something?

I don't think it would be unreasonable to ask him for 1 day a week, or 2 half days a week of help.

My husband has a "big job" I was laid off on 17tj March (zero hours contract hospital worker) with no furlough. I do all of the housework and childcare because I don't have a job.

But they're not married, don't live together, and they're not his children.

I think it's more complicated than the OP. One question for me would be do the OP and her partner see this relationship becoming closer and living together? If so, then the idea that they're not his children so he has no responsibility for them isn't going to be a good one going forward.

If it's only ever going to be FWB, that's different.

Also has the OP asked him and he's said no? if so, why? Given the social bubble policy, if OP is on her own with three DCs, he could now move in. Would either of them want that?

This is more intricate than just they're not his, and about more than just the here and now. There's a wider context.