No my point is that she may not be a widow.
The widowing Community standards? The community may support parents, of children who are bereaved. Its very difficult and complex.
Its even complex when they are your ex. And tbe community may support that. But by definition, or by her own feelings on the situation, she may not be a widow. We dont know. But you seem so sure of the fact.
You are projecting your emotion onto the op and other posters.
As I said above the fact that their dad has died, doesnt mean she is a widow.
Her youngest child is over 4. She may not have been with him for years.
It also doesn't mean she has introduced kids fast.
At no point have I said that's a reflection on how the kids are feeling or that, that changes how the kids are delaing with this.
You are taking personal offence, adding bits in because you assume you and op are in the same position.
She hasnt said she is a widow. She hasn't said she feel like a widow.
And yet here you are being shitty with any poster that doesnt post what you want them to.
I am sorry you are having a hard time. But the op isn't you.