Are a couple of pre rolled spliffs acceptable remuneration in this time?

[MoonBaby1]

Obviously lighthearted but also a dilemma.

We acquired a beautiful set of free bunk beds for our dc from a local selling site. Completely free. We don’t have much to offer in return and the guy looked like a lovely older middle class hippy type. We have a lot of decent weed on us.

I think it would be just what a bloke like him in lockdown would really want but dh isnot so sure.

Those that used to enjoy a smoke but have nothing on them in lock down. Wouldn’t this be a lovely thank you?

Chances are he will turn around and say he is head of the drugs decision in the local police, cause that’s Sod’s law.

I’m disappointed to see all the backwards attitude to pre loved items and also cannabis.

No one has spare cash floating about.

Err, yes they do.

I don’t understand why you have no spare cash floating around but plenty of weed..... unless you are growing it yourselves?

I would think a drawing/painting/note from the kids would have been much nicer and won’t cause offence to anyone.

sure they are, if he is also a saddo smoker, and you grow your own in a property you own.

illegal drug use funds county lines, gang violence, cuckooing and knife crime. Make sure you source your drugs ethically so the only people harmed are yourselves.

@carexfairex

As for the pearl clutchers going on about getting second hand beds whilst buying weed, get over yourselves. Far better to recycle instead of them going into land fill. I buy most stuff second hand, even my clothes as it's more ecologically sound.

So long as you are being ecologically sound never mind the cost to humans of the drugs trade

Well, as mine comes from a local grow and I know who grows it, your argument falls flat on its face. Just out of interest, where do you buy your clothes and electronics? Are any of them made by children? You don't know? Never mind then.

So this weed... is it worth more than a new pair of bunk beds?

Could this be a new currancy?

(I'm in the 'its a bit grim' camp actually...)

@yelyah22

"ImFree I'm interested, is it that you don't know of anyone who smokes, or that you don't know anyone who would talk about it openly? I don't personally smoke (can't, makes me throw up) but I know who of my friends/colleagues/acquaintances do and it's not a secret. Even the straitlaced barristers and doctors (shock horror)."

I don't know anyone who smokes weed no, and I've never smelled it on any friends either. Come to that, I can't actually think of anyone in our circle who smokes cigarettes either tbh. I do know one friend's husband was arrested for dealing marijuana in his late teens, so I suppose he might be the most likely to be still be smoking.

Interesting @ImFreeToDoWhatIWant! I wonder what the difference is then? I don't think it's a class thing (whatever class you'd count yourself as), because I know people in all classes who do it. Maybe it's a bit like if you know it's around, you're more likely to hear about it? I don't know hundreds of smokers, far from it, but I know a fair few people who'll have a joint out the back door after a dinner party and apart from a polite 'do you mind?' to me as they know I don't smoke, it's never been treated as a big deal - but then if they get the vibe someone isn't au fait they might not get it out?

I also honestly don't know anyone in real life who is anti-cannabis legalisation and it always surprises me a bit how vehement some MNers are about it - I completely agree with PPs who say that supply lines are an issue, but looking at e.g. Canada and some of the US states that issue seems to have been ironed out with dispensaries etc.

I would say oh thanks that's nice and pass them onto a smoking friend because I gave up years ago.

I wouldn't. Plenty of hippy looking people might have a partner in child protection or the police. It only takes one phone call and you'll be on the radar of social services.

@Moonbaby1

I think it would be just what a bloke like him in lockdown would really want but dh isnot so sure.

Such a patronising attitude.

I wouldn’t open with the offer OP, start a general chit chat about smokin and see how receptive he is. I’d much prefer a joint to a glass of wine.

Great idea! The worst he can say is no thanks...

Social Services DON'T CARE about weed. I know this from experience.

You sound embarrassingly indiscreet.

I hate weed, the smell is revolting. Trust me, I don't have to see it to smell it and you can hide it from your kids all you want, but trust me they know.

I don't like to think I am "backwards" but I've seen the effects weed has done to people.

My ex, who I was with for 9 years, used to smoke weed like no other.... honestly, it was so bad, he was hooked, he would easily flip his temper, become aggressive, always had to have his little spliff at the end of the day urgh.

My friend, Lord God, she was addicted, every single day, after class, she had to get it, her hands, red eyes, were itching for the weed.
It was so bad. Luckily, she fell pregnant, stopped smoking weed and after having her daughter, realised that she had to be a good role model and quit entirely. Now, she is finding ways to deal with her husband's weed habit.

I agree, I’m not backwards about weed either.

I grew up around addicts. My earliest memory of looking after adults is prior to the age of 2. It was a miserable childhood.

I’ve a close friend, a brilliant man, who developed psychosis through smoking weed at university and ended up on a 117 aftercare in permanent residential care after a lifetime of no mental health issues prior to smoking weed. His psychiatrists and care team say his psychosis is completely due to his smoking weed recreationally for a couple of years from the age of 19. He’s now in his 40s and it destroyed his life.

A couple of my friends who all smoked weed were anxious and paranoid most of the time after becoming reliant on it, stank of it, thought they appeared totally normal when in reality it was totally obvious that they were high - red beady eyes, slow reaction time, impossible to have a decent conversation with or good time when they were high (“nah mate, I’m great. Just relaxed. Couldn’t be better.”). Thankfully I’m now distanced from them but they have young kids now, have all married red eyed, paranoid as fuck, impossible to have a decent conversation with partners and I really worry that those little babies and toddlers will grow up having a childhood like mine with addicts who put drugs before their kids and think they are just being relaxed, fun parents and everyone else needs to chill out and “unclench” .

My friend, Lord God, she was addicted

Is that her real name? If so, it's a bit outing don't you think?

This is one of the most stupid ill thought out suggestions I have ever read on MN. Drugs are illegal. Supplying them is illegal.
To offer this kind man drugs because you think that he is "of a type" is dreadful and a crime and is making a terrible judgment that he too is a criminal.
Perhaps he is not the standard hippy drop out type that you suggest and did not have bunk beds to offer but was setting you up, "smoking you out", on behalf of the Police to confirm that you take drugs and are prepared to supply them.

If you kept away from drugs, perhaps you could have afforded to buy bunks for your unfortunate children.

I’m about to roll one now.