To ask how much childfree time you have per week?

[MermaidApocalypse]

Just got back from a day out with DC's. DP stayed home as he works Saturdays and I was going with my parents. I at least expected the hoover to be put round a bit. Nothing. His excuse was that Sunday's are his only child free time apart from when he's at work.
My understanding of most people with small children is that they rarely get any dc free time, apart from work. Who's right? Also if he insists on dc free time, then surely I should too!

[LittleRen]

About 2 hours a night right now

[mumofone2818]

in all honesty when she's in bed sleeping, can't rven run for a pee in peace without "where's mummy gone"

[Oblomov20]

I've always made sure I had a reasonable amount of me time. Else I would have gone mad. I used to book Ds2 into the gym crèche and then go and lie in sauna!

I think it's very important. I get lots now, but that's because they are teens.

[EmeraldShamrock]

When this is over i will have more time to myself with school and early nights, their routine is out of sorts.

[Sowhatywhaty]

I work 2 days a week so that's about it - I don't even get to sleep without a 3 year old kicking and wriggling over me all night.

DH has acknowledged since lockdown being at home with children is really hard.....I've had to listen to countless fucking monologues about his feelings and struggles of how hard it is on the days I'm at work. If I dared mention that if had a hard day with the kids before I was immediately shut down & called selfish 🙄

[Doje]

Not much in the week, other than after bedtime. I get time to myself when I go for a run - a couple of times a week. Normally that's when the kids are in bed, but in lockdown, DH is WFH so I've slipped out during the day.

DH will often take the DC's fishing for a few hours at a time at the weekend. He also every couple of months, will take them on a 'Daddys day out' where they leave about 11am and come home home about 5pm. Bliss. However. On the flip side, DH is a paraglider pilot which means on any given weekend when the weather conditions are just right, he disappears for the day and leaves me with the DC's.

[ginsparkles]

Currently none. I'm furloughed and at home with DD 24-7. Usually i'm away from her when I'm at work and on my day off during the week while She is at school. I don't often have time away from outside of that, but that is my choice. DH goes away for weekends sometimes but I choose to spend my free time with them. We both do what we prefer, I know if I wanted child free time, it wouldn't be an issue.

[Passanotherjaffacake]

We split the weekdays, I have the morning with dd and work in the afternoons and we swap. Then we both work in the evenings. We share the evening bedtime routine though. We both have about half an hour to shower and get ready in the morning. I still feel like really he has her for 4 hours and I have her for 20!

I take the dog and baby for a walk for an hour a day so that is dh’s alone time. He basically never cooks, cleans, goes shopping, plans anything for the family or does anything around the house apart from laundry though. Apparently that is for my free time! Also he spends quite a bit of his watching YouTube or scrolling reddit. He spends hours playing xbox and gets angry when he doesn’t have time for it.

At the weekends we each have a morning off and have the afternoons for family stuff.

I still do all the nights and the early starts though, but reading here has made me realise that I should be more grateful for what we have split.

I am the main wage earner though, by some margin, despite being part time now, and dh being full time, which probably helps to make my dh accept some responsibility. If he didn’t, I would have left I think!

I think all men should have to do solo house and childcare for a month to fully appreciate their partners. I gave up some of my maternity leave for that but Coronavirus got in the way and we were locked down before he could take any. Best laid plans.

[Passanotherjaffacake]

Hmm, sorry, that seemed to turn into a general rant! Xx

[TimeWastingButFun]

We're home all the time with them at the moment, apart from shopping once a week and helping out my elderly parents but we share the childcare equally and both get breaks. We definitely split it 50/50.

[Pleasegodgotosleep]

2 hours a week, 1 hour at supermarket and 1/2 hour drive each way.

[ToriaPumpkin]

Sweet fuck all right now. Normally though dh and I both WOTH and get equal amounts of time to do our own thing
It took a few years after the kids were born (8 and 6) to find a happy balance though.

[TimeWastingButFun]

@ myohmywhatawonderfulday are you Tinkerbell? 🧚🏼‍♂️

[IcanandIwill]

None. I'm knackered and running on empty.

[SimonJT]

When hes asleep.

[Autumnnightsaredrawingin]

Mine are 11 and 7. I work 5 days a week, school hours and term time only. I get no child free time at the moment, except when they’re in bed (and the 11 year old doesn’t often go to bed before me!). BUT they are now old enough that I can go upstairs and say, read my book for an hour without world war 3 breaking out. (Usually). Sometimes DH takes them out on a Sunday morning for a bike ride and then I would get a couple of hours. I find it okay now. When they were younger it was much, much worse. Later this year I am dropping to 4 days a week and I cannot wait to have a few hours again for me.

[managedmis]

About an hour a week if I'm lucky. Whilst supermarket shopping 🤔

[managedmis]

I think all men should have to do solo house and childcare for a month to fully appreciate their partners.

^

Yup. With a newborn and some sort of household emergency, like a burst pipe or something.

Oh, I didn't vacuum?

[ArchbishopOfBanterbury]

Just after bedtime. I'm working from home, and there's no nursery, so my tiny co-worker never leaves.

[morethanmeetstheeye]

Ha ha ha.
What's childfree time?

Never...

Stupid ex-to-be seems to think he 'deserves' to lie in bed until the afternoon most days as he works. So do I...

Figure that one out...

[EmeraldShamrock]

Understandably if you're a single parent or your partner works away but why are posters with a partner not getting a break?

[SleepingStandingUp]

reading here has made me realise that I should be more grateful for what we have split. well I don't think you should be grateful he does no housework, gets angry when he can't get his gaming fix and thinks your free time is for housework and his is for being 15

[SleepingStandingUp]

@EmeraldShamrock

Understandably if you're a single parent or your partner works away but why are posters with a partner not getting a break?

Becasue most of us are still in lockdown?

[FlyAwayLikeABird]

What's child free time? Mines when my childs asleep.

[StinkyWizzleteets]

Never. My ds wants to sit on my knee for every waking hour and as covid stopped building him a bedroom we bedshare every night. The hours between him going to bed and me going to bed I spend with my older child who loves her ‘mummy time’. I need a break. It’s been like this since March with zero respite.