To ask how much childfree time you have per week?

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Just got back from a day out with DC's. DP stayed home as he works Saturdays and I was going with my parents. I at least expected the hoover to be put round a bit. Nothing. His excuse was that Sunday's are his only child free time apart from when he's at work.
My understanding of most people with small children is that they rarely get any dc free time, apart from work. Who's right? Also if he insists on dc free time, then surely I should too!

Usually 32 hours a week when I'm at work. But I wont count that right now.

Currently it's about 6 hours a week. I get an hour a day of me time, usually when dd2 is napping and DH will do something with DD1. I tend to go for a run, have a bath or a shower or have a lie down in bed.

Dh get about the same at the moment but he chooses to take his me time when we have all gone to bed and he can watch all the crap TV he likes but I dont.

At the moment none. Before lockdown I was getting school hours child free time minus time for appointments and dc being off ill.

Just now? None at all. One kid who wakes up early and one who is still awake after midnight.

Used to get from 5 in the morning until about 4 in the afternoon but they're off school and I'm off work so....
You'd think being teens they'd be in their rooms all day but they've become rather clingy lately.It's like they have to be with me all the time. Youngest gets up early and eldest goes,to bed late so virtually no alone time, occasionally they let me have a shower alone but no guarntee.

At least 51 hours per week. 26 hours daycare; 4 x 1 hour naps on non-daycare days; 21 hours after bedtime 7:30-10:30pm. Weekends are pretty flexible. We like doing things as a family but one or other of us might have more work on and are given the free time we need.

None. Not a single minute. I can't even pee or have a bath in peace. DS also won't go to bed before 9pm every night (he's 6) and even then he keeps coming in and out of my room. It's like he's checking in. He then won't sleep in his bed, so he ends up in mine. I then get no sleep as he's fidgeting and kicking me in the head all night.

When they sleep.

I'm furloughed just now so very little, an hour through the day when ds sleeps then by the time he goes to sleep at night which is around 10pm im straight to bed then he's awake again between 5-6.
My dp thinks that as he physically goes to work he doesn't have to lift a finger at home but that also applied before lockdown when I was working 30 hours a week & adding to that an hour a day for childcare pick ups&drop off

When I poop.

Wait, no. The 10yo came into the bathroom today.

Normally both of us work full-time but I work weekends, so we both do two days of childcare and DS is in nursery for 3 days a week. Apart from workhours I get an hour in the morning when I walk the dog before work, and I go for a short run 3 times a week (when DH walks the dog with DS). We both also get maybe 1-2hr in the evening after bedtime.

Childfree - under normal conditions, weekdays when I'm at work (8hrs) (if you don't count colleagues as children); under CV-19 it's weekdays while our son is at school (6hrs). Other than that it's 2hrs spread over the weekend while I go food shopping. One visit to the hairdresser every other month. And one overnight every other month when our son goes to specialist respite.

This week I had 2 hours not including the couple of hours I get each day in between them going to sleep and me going to sleep. One of those hours was for a work zoom call. Usually though I have all the time they're at school, some of which is spent working.

Usually 10pm -7am. Just when I need to sleep.

None. But I'm a single parent, and nex hasn't seen the dc since lockdown

At the moment the only child free time I have is work BUT I work in a reception class so actually my 20 minute break in the staff room is it!!

@ArthurMorgan that sounds crazy, I think you may need your own thread!!

Under normal circumstances, my DH would take out DD for a decent outing on about half of Saturdays (the other half either I’d take DD or we’d all go) and her takes her out for 90 minutes early on Sunday morning. God, I’m missing those at the moment!!! We’re both teachers, so during school holidays he’d normally take her out for lots of short outings e.g. to the playground, he’d take her if he was going to the garden centre etc.

Basically, he takes her out for at least a short period of time every day that we’d all be at home together, because he recognises that when we’re all at home, she prefers to play with me, so I don’t get downtime, but he can go to the study and get something done or relax and she won’t bother him.

I do use a lot of the time he takes her out for either work or housework, so I still wouldn’t say I get a lot of “me” time, but I appreciate the quiet!

I have to admit, when I take DD out for most of a day, I don’t particularly expect him to do much with that time. If he’s not normally the one that hovers (which I’m kind of assuming your DH isn’t) then I suppose you could write him a list before you leave?

At the moment we get time to exercise, food shop and one lie in a week each.

In regular times we both go out with friends for dinner & drinks but infrequently. We get our evenings

10pm - 6am 😂 at present.
When partner home a little more (offshore).
When not covid much more!

During lockdown, absolutely zero unless I go for a 6am run or am at work (in a school, so still with other people’s DC!) oldest goes to bed at 9pm so not a lot of evening left by the time they are upstairs.

Two hours a week, when I go food shopping. it's my favourite two hours of the week

Currently not a great deal of time. Maybe when I have a shower? Sometimes I even get followed for that.

In normal times I’d say maybe 5 hours a week. If I go out a bit more, but that doesn’t happen very often.

The way we do it is try to make it even so if I get time to go to the gym my husband will take time to do his hobby. But even then he takes a good chunk of time whereas I rush back as I feel guilty.

I have one kid that goes to bed later than I do and one that wakes up earlier. Although sometimes I wake up at half five and manage a solo cup of tea. Sometimes I have enough energy when DH gets home from work to manage a quiet walk around the block. This week that amounts to about 2-3 hours. If the kids were younger I'd have lost my mind over the last ten weeks but fortunately these days they can occupy themselves for a good amount of time and I can read, does this count?

Under normal circumstances the kids go to school and I only work part time and mostly from home - so bloody heaps and that is how I like it.

Also my daughter is a night owl (unlike me) and doesn’t go to bed till 9 so not much time to relax!

I did home school so 1 hour when had a bath but just sent bk to school as both key workers I'm wfh still anyways I get 9 til 5 now as inlaw gets them but I am working