To ask how much childfree time you have per week?

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Just got back from a day out with DC's. DP stayed home as he works Saturdays and I was going with my parents. I at least expected the hoover to be put round a bit. Nothing. His excuse was that Sunday's are his only child free time apart from when he's at work.
My understanding of most people with small children is that they rarely get any dc free time, apart from work. Who's right? Also if he insists on dc free time, then surely I should too!

I used to get my working hours and commute child free as my mom had DS but now I get the pleasure of working from home whilst looking after DS so I guess.... only whilst he sleeps and even then I can't leave the house (single parent with 0 input from his father) joys!

0 -not even a bath or poo without a kid in the room or my OH because he needs to ask a question exactly at that time!

None.

If he recognises the need for his own childfree time and achieves it, then you should be able to have some too.

I don’t pee in peace.

I probably get 3 hours a week which is when I walk the dog or go on a bike ride. Pre corona it was more because life wasn’t quite so intense, so I exercised more often with DS.

Never just in the house. I have to actively be doing something.

DH gets the same. Except I’m WFH with corona so it’s all a bit more full on for me. DH recognises that thigh and that’s circumstance rather than by design.

Also the dog gets walked more than 3 hours a week, but that’s when I take him without DS in tow...

Oh god I miss my commute time...never thought I’d say that

Paid work aside, I might go for a couple of walks a week by myself at the moment to get some space. We also have a couple of lie-ins each a week at the moment as there has been no school run. If I ever had time to myself in the house I would do chores. (In "normal" times my husband sometimes takes the kids out for a couple of hours specifically so I can clean, and I consider that me-time as I listen to podcasts etc while I do it.) Our kids are 3 and 6. Generally speaking I would say we get equal amounts of childfree time, but not a lot of it.

Very little. I’m trying to get 30 mins a day. My youngest is 10 months and only likes to sleep in my arms so it’s tricky. I know when they get a bit bigger I will get some more.

None, except when I shower and sleep.

Well, I'm divorced and ex has contact approximately 4 nights a month. My mum will always babysit if I want a night out too but obviously not at the moment!

Whenever I read threads like this I am always deeply thankful for the lock on our bathroom door.

Zero. Apart from doing the food shop.
I usually get one day a week free when I am off school and children are at work but at the minute I am working overtime, my day off, and children are going to school limited hours. I cannot wait for a bit of normality.

Did he say you can't have any child free time though or are you just shouldering that burden because you think you have to? When he gets home from work tell him you need some time out now and go out.
Both dh and I get very little child free time but they're a bit older (10+12) and not very demanding but either of us can say we're off out and just go.

My DS is grown up now but I did get quite a lot compared to some of the comments on here. DH always took over as soon as he got in from work (I was a SAHM), Bath & bed routine; I frequently had evenings out with friends, at one point I used to go for early morning walks before DH left for work, we 'tag teamed' at weekends so we each had free time 'to do our own thing'. DH would take DS away for camping weekends etc (I also took DS away to visit my parents etc without needing to drag DH along). DS went to a crèche when I went to the gym & he started nursery school at 2 for a couple of days a week.

So I was fortunate .... but I had him late in life, made my views absolutely clear to DH before I got pregnant and stuck to one child only .

When I am asleep as they are staying up later these days...

Well atm we're all with each other all the time unless I go to work (1 day per week) or food shopping. I only have 1 dc (8) though and they're no bother so when at home I get to do what I want- shower/ work out/ read/ watch a movie in peace etc. Dh will also do the same. Dc will play / watch a movie / play on slide/ do a zoom call with cousins that lasts hours!

Normally though I go to work, gym 3xper week, meet a friend one evening and then 3 hours on a weekend when they do a club. Dh and I try and get a babysitter twice a month and go out.

Right now, none!

Absolutely none at the moment.

Usually DH and I will maybe have a day & overnight off together every month or 2.
DH will have every other Saturday socialising with friends / at the football.
I will have a Sunday afternoon off while dh takes ds swimming & soft play. Occasionally go out with friends.

My understanding of most people with small children is that they rarely get any dc free time, apart from work. Who's right? Also if he insists on dc free time, then surely I should too!

Everyone should have child free time, and he's right to spend it how he wants, the hoovering can be done with the child there, no need to waste the peace on chores that can be done with the child there.

And of course you should have some, why would you think not?

None. I am at work full time with children and then come home and spend all my time with children.

During the time DS is awake (06:30 - 20:00) I get about 7h a week outside of work (37h). DH gets the same.

Of course at the moment we get much more time with DS because of lockdown, but the same downtime.

Right now the time that I am working 9-5 Monday to Friday. Except working from home so regular visits upstairs to climb on me and still doing lunch.

Missing my commute time. Partner is furloughed so looking after her downstairs during the weekdays, but still getting x box time. Doesn't do much in the evenings. I am doing bedtimes and early mornings. She is such high energy in the days and I can hear her playing up because she can't come up to see me.

I am exhausted to be honest and craving more than a 40min run on my own.

We have just changed routine as I was going insane. I’m an introvert and need time alone but have clingy kids.

I now get every second night off bedtime, from 7pm-9:30 (different aged kids) plus we both have the time after 9:30 but tbh I’m ready to sleep then.

Sometimes I’ll take a 1/2 hour at lunchtime if dh can get away from work.

And I refuse to use my child free time to do housework!

I go for a run on a weekend morning so as long as I can run for - an hour or so. Usually there would be work / school / clubs etc but obviously at the moment we are all together all the time isn't it LOVELY