Not invited..aibu to be hurt?

[hammy345]

Il shorten this as much as possible.
Also name changed as my other threads have too much personal info.
Last year my good friend (or so I thought ) introduced me to her friend.(gay and I'm bisexual )
We got on well but she's a player.
Now we all start going out together and I start sleeping with her and going out for food etc.
My friend got jealous of me joining the group so cut me off and the invites with them stopped.
Me and this girl continued to text daily for 10 months.
Tonight she's having a party (ex friend will be there ) and she's texting me showing me (lights,DJ machine ) etc she's bought.
I'm not invited
I feel hurt
I'm good enough to text every day
All day..but not good enough to be invited.
I had a little cry because I have feelings for her.
If she really wanted she could say to her friend (my ex friend ) she's invited me and deal with it.
I'm just hurt
I feel not good enough
At one point I thought me and her were becoming a thing.

[Thingsdogetbetter]

I don't think it's confusing at all. This woman has told you she's not into having a gf, and you will only ever be a FWB. You refuse to listen and hunt for clues this might chsnge.

She continues to interact with you as a FWB (albeit with lots of texting - so the friendship side is close at least). Unfortunately, you are grasping at straws and reading more into normal FWB interactions because you so desperately want there to be more. But you can't create a relationship from your wants or hopes.

FWB can go on lovely dates. They can be great at keeping in contact. They can have deep conversations. That's all possible in a purely fwb situation. It does not mean it's developing into more. It's been a year, she's still being clear she doesn't want you as a gf, and your still refusing to listen.

The ex friend situation is almost a red herring. You think her dumping ex friend would be a sign she wants more. That's why you're giving it so much head space. But even if she sees through ex friend and ditches her and 'chooses' you, she'll still be choosing you as a fwb, NOT as a potential gf.

Let her go. You cannot wish a relationship into reality. No one has that power.

[hammy345]

She is living her life how she wants.
I know that
I think because I'm the total opposite of her,I couldn't understand how she wanted to sleep with randoms /get off her face rather than be settled down.
I guess in 40 years If she hasn't changed
She ain't gonna start now

[GruffBelow]

Honestly op, please just listen and stop all this. Your previous threads have gone the same way. People have given you lots of good advice, you ignore it, keeps repeating yourself until posters get sick of it and stop posting. You then post again a few weeks/months later going on about the same thing. I remember several threads you have posted about this same topic.

Please, get some help. You need to talk to a professional because this is verging on obsession. Who cares about the date. It is very obvious from the many threads that she is not that into you. Have some respect for yourself, get some help and move on with your life.

[sonjadog]

It sounds like she told you clearly who she is and what she can offer you. Try to accept that at face value and not wishful think what you would like to hear into her words.

[hammy345]

It's correct tho,you can't make someone want to invite you.
They either do or they don't
She didn't
That's it really
I'm gonna move on,think I deserve someone who wants to see me.

[MouthBreathingRage]

I'm gonna move on,

Move on from this teenage nonsense, or move on to the next thread about it. If the former, best of luck.

[ddl1]

She shouldn't be having a party at all!

[ChocolateQuiltedShitPig]

I haven't RTFT but I don't see the issue. She rightly values her friendship more than a FWB situation.

Why would she want to invite you and risk animosity. You aren't dating.