To ask how long it took you to conceive?

[SummerMeadows20]

Now I know the answers here are going to vary massively but if you didn’t have fertility issues, how long did it take you to conceive your first child?

I’m 33, DH says we should ‘get on with it soon’ as neither of us are getting any younger. Whilst I know that’s true, I still don’t feel ready. I still feel like I’d resent being pregnant and having a child, especially at the moment with all the Corona stuff going on.

But then I keep thinking, what if one, or both of us has fertility issues that we don’t know about and we end up having to try for years?!

Is there an average amount of time to conceive before it’s classed as a ‘problem?’

Are most people months or years?! The few friends of mine that have children didn’t seem to take long at all but I’m pretty sure that can’t be the norm?!

I came off the pill in April 15 (before that I'd had the depo) and gave birth in April 16. I only had two periods before falling pregnant.

I had assumed (and hoped, for financial reasons) it would take longer.

We were lucky to conceive first month of trying but I know several people who took over a year so it really does vary. Do you think you’d like more than one DC at this point?

Took 19 months to fall pg first time for me. Periods didn't restart after coming off the pill. Had one actual period then got Pg.

I think I had one period after coming off the pill, and was then pregnant by the time the next one should have occurred.
However, I knew of so many friends who had not been able to conceive without medical support, I certainly felt at the time I was very unusual.

First one three months after coming off pill. Second one about 3 weeks after having coil removed. I was 30 with DS1 and 34 with DS2.

Someone one told me (on here I think) that you should think about how old you want to be when you have your last child and work back from there.

You could wait a few years and have a baby but if, for example, you want 2 by the time you are 35 then you might want to think about it sooner rather than later. Although saying that you might have one and decide after that you are done.

Truth is you will never know how long it takes you until you decide to start trying. I thought it would take me ages due to various problems but I fell pregnant first go. I know I'm very fortunate but if I knew I would get pregnant so quickly I would have waited another year or so.

2 years of determined effort, including 2 miscarriages

Conceived at 40 about four months after coming off pill and again at 42 after about four months.

Second month of trying for both of my dc. I was 29 the first time and 31 the second time.

I was 32 and it took just the once which was rather lucky seeing as I was single at the time. I was very very lucky to find myself pregnant with DS (now 17).

DC1 was a surprise after 6 months dating my now DH (I was 31) but when we decided to go for DC2 (when I was 34) it took 12 months to conceive.

I was 23 when we started trying. No fertility issues that we knew of. It took 16 months with DC1, 6 months with DC2 and "what the actual fuck" happy accident after MAP with DC3 🙈🤣❤️

It took 4.5 months when I was 35 to fall pregnant with DD.

First month. I didn't feel completely ready but thought it would take about a year so wanted to start trying. I have friends with similar experiences, some who tried for over a year and some who eventually had had IVF.

First at 35 in first month of trying. Second at 38 in second or third month of trying (used an ovulation monitor second time round). Hadn’t used pill since being in my teens which may have helped.

My husband and I are 10/11 years apart, him being older. I was 28 with our first and almost 31 with my second.

We got pregnant fairly quickly with both our children. I had never used any contraceptive (didn’t like the idea of it and didn’t want to possibly have to go through several to find the right one) and we used the pull-out method until we were ready to try to conceive. Think it took us less than a month with the first and pregnant the first time we tried with our second. I actually told the person who gave me my due date that it was off and I’d have the baby in October instead of September due to knowing my cycles tend to be longer than average.

7 months, we didn't 'try', I just stopped taking the pill and we carried on with life.

I honestly had no idea that trying was a big thing unless there were problems until I joined MN.

Married my DH a year after we began dating.

Conceived our one and only DC on our honeymoon 🤭 I was 28.

She’s now 18. Decided not to have more DC due to subsequent health issues (mine) and DH had the snip when DD was 8.

It took 11 months the first time. I was 28.

If you’re not ready, you’re not ready. Having a child is the hardest thing you’ll ever do, so only do it when the time is right for you.

Ihavebrillohair I think everyone gets on with life. What a weird comment. They don't sit on the sofa waiting for the stork!

How does someone else's fertility translate into your own speed of conception?

DC1 - Straightaway, age 33
DC2 - 2nd month of trying, age 35

Right.

10 years of fertility problems with ex... and no baby. First attempt with sperm donor on my own.