To ask how long it took you to conceive?

[SummerMeadows20]

Now I know the answers here are going to vary massively but if you didn’t have fertility issues, how long did it take you to conceive your first child?

I’m 33, DH says we should ‘get on with it soon’ as neither of us are getting any younger. Whilst I know that’s true, I still don’t feel ready. I still feel like I’d resent being pregnant and having a child, especially at the moment with all the Corona stuff going on.

But then I keep thinking, what if one, or both of us has fertility issues that we don’t know about and we end up having to try for years?!

Is there an average amount of time to conceive before it’s classed as a ‘problem?’

Are most people months or years?! The few friends of mine that have children didn’t seem to take long at all but I’m pretty sure that can’t be the norm?!

Aged 30 - first try
Aged 32 - first try
Aged 34 - second month

I got pregnant after one night of unprotected sex at 35. Had assumed I would likely have fertility issues as I've always had problems with periods etc.
It took my mum 2yrs to get pregnant with me at 28 though, and the same 3yrs later with my brother.

Our first DC was conceived on honeymoon at 31.

We naively thought it wouldn’t take long to conceive baby number 2 but there were a few issues. Got pregnant straight away and then had a mc, which was a real shock. Not sure why as 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in a mc. Got pregnant again 3 months later and had another mc. Got pregnant 4 months later to DC2 at 35.

Dc1 - first time
Dc2 - 8 months

I was going to refer to you the stats @BertieBotts quoted but see I don't need to :-)

Two things to add to that. First, "fertility problems" aren't always obvious. You could both have fertility MOTs and pass all the tests, but still experience problems conceiving due to unexplained infertility. I think up to a third of infertile couples never find out the reason. I didn't - nothing ever showed on any of our tests. The brutal truth is you can't know how long or short a time it will take until you try. However, the odds of conceiving within 6-ish months if not sooner ARE very much on your side.

Second, some advice I was given - by a fertility nurse, but it's good advice generally - is that if you are hesitating against the background of a ticking clock, 6 months either way won't make much difference but don't leave it a year or more if you don't have to. It is, as a previous poster said, also worth thinking about how many children you would wish to have and your age by the last child.

Started trying just after Christmas, conceived in March. I’m 33. I feel like time is still on your side for a couple of years at least (and even after 35, there’s no ‘cliff’ or anything like that - many, many women conceive easily and naturally after 35).

Baby 1 - first time of trying, aged 32.
Baby 2 - first time of trying, aged 35 - conceived due to Baby 1 having an unexpectedly early nap in the morning 😆

I’ve been very lucky - friends of mine have struggled. You won’t know how you’ll get on unless you try. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Took 18 months at age 27 after losing 2 stone to help with my pcos.

First month for DC1, 2 years and 2 miscarriages before DC2

Pregnant within the first month of using the NC app as contraception. But DH and I were talking about trying in the near future. I was 32.

First month for both, we were very lucky.

First month trying for our first. Currently pregnant with a "surprise" (had sex once).

I haven't read the whole thread so I do apologise if I have missed anything.

With our first child it took 10 months. I was 20.

Second child it took 3 years. I was 25. I used to drink a lot of alcohol while trying to conceive baby no. 2. I was depressed and deflated. I stopped drinking completely, less than 3 months later we conceived.

Don't put pressure on yourself. If there is anything I have learnt, it's not to push it. It will happen xxx

Good luck xxx

First 2 months, second 15 months

I have three children and got pregnant first month of ttc on all of them. I was classed as obese at the time(since lost weight) so if I was going to read the statistics the odds were against me.

It took 18 months for DC1. I then breastfed for two years and y periods didn't return for 15 months. It took 3 months after periods returned to conceive but i miscarried. It then took a further 5 months to conceive DC2. I have a three year age gap between DC.

Ds1 = 1 year. I did start investigations and the gp said that almost all he sees go on to conceive naturally within a year. I was aged 30.
Dd1 = 1 month.

I had the implant removed at 33yo after 9yrs of using it. It took 2.5yrs for DC1. We had tests and a referral to fertility clinic as all was normal and I fell pregnant whilst waiting for the appointment. It took 2months for DC2, when my periods came back 1yr after having DC1.

Depends how you define "fertility issues".
I have a uterine abnormality (bicornuate) and it took us almost 3 years with 2 losses before my son was born.

It's weird but we actually started trying earlier because I just had a feeling it would take us a long time and be difficult. And then it was.

I got pregnant in the first month at 32. I agree with someone else saying if you may want two children, it is better to aim to do that by 35.

I have one 6 yo now and certainly wouldn't want to be going through pregnancy again in my late 30s, though I appreciate many people do!

I also do have a couple of friends who have struggled to conceive their second children, who are both later in their 30s.

1st and 2nd child - straight away after coming off the pill, aged 24 and 26.

3rd child (currently pregnant) - 2 months after coming off the pill, aged 34

8 months, had a mmc then 8 months again

4 years

At 29 and 33 I got pregnant in the first month. The second time we literally only did it once. Don't assume it will take months!

(I'm lucky I know)

Ceara apologies if this is not the thread, but did you have karyotypes run? One (common ish) cause of infertility is a balanced translocation but the NHS consider it too unlikely to test for unless you have known family history or have sent off the remains of a miscarriage for testing and had it confirmed that way. It's crazy because if we hadn't known DH's family history we would never have got a test for it on the NHS because our miscarriages are too far apart and too early.