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To think little girls in the supermarket should mind their own business???

122 replies

fireflyfairy2 · 21/09/2007 21:35

There we were.

Stressed to the hilt in Tesco this evening.

DD had been OK all the way around, but it was chockers & I could hardly move the trolley.

Now, I'm not one of these parents who actually care what other people buy.. couldn't care less, it's their kids they are feeding, not mine.

Anyway, we stop by the cereal & I throw in a box of shreddies & a box of weetabix. dd asks if she can have 'special' cereal for the weekend. We do this, on the weekday mornings she can have sensible cereals such as shreddies or weetabix but at the weekend she can have something sugary that she wouldn't normally get.

So I said yes, she could have something different. She asked for coco pops. Just at that minute.. dd with cocopops suspended in mid air... we heard a screech..

"Ooooohhh mummy... that little girl is naughty! She is going to be so hyper! Loook mummy, she has that bad breakfast... she will be hyper!!!"

Her mummy said in a voice that I probably wasn't supposed to hear "It's ok pet, she's the one who's teeth is going to fall out!"

I swear.... why the hell do people think they can judge freely?? If they had dared to look at my trolley they would have saw the brown bread, the brown rice, the wholemeal pasta...

Anyway, I said, in as soft a voice as possible, while forcing a smile at the little girl "No, she isn't naughty, she likes this cereal at the weekend as she never eats sweeties. She won't get hyper & she has beautiful teeth"

The mother said flippantly "You're lucky!"

It put me in such a bad mood! And to top it all off, when dd heard the woman say her teeth would fall out, she refused to get the feckin coco pops!!!!

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southeatsastras · 21/09/2007 21:37

that's awful. people are right odd

TotalChaos · 21/09/2007 21:38

YABU in respect of the little girl, but YANBU in respect of the mother who shouldn't be encouraging bad manners.

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 21/09/2007 21:38

Id have rammed her with my trolley

silly mare

gess · 21/09/2007 21:38

OMG! Yep you encountered a mad one!

LadyVictoriaOfCake · 21/09/2007 21:40

mother was a judey cow. little girl should have been told to shush by her mother.

mine also get cereals like that on weekends occasionally. but i think i may have to make pnacakes tomorrow.

fireflyfairy2 · 21/09/2007 21:40

I know, the little girl didn't lick her bad manners off a stone. It was obvious she was just repeating what she had heard!

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mytwopenceworth · 21/09/2007 21:40

It's not the child's fault, it's the mother. Who sounds obsessed. That little girl is being HAMMERED with the good food/bad food message and will probably end up with massive food 'issues'.

PSCMUM · 21/09/2007 21:41

can't believe you give your kid cocopops.

ledodgy · 21/09/2007 21:41

Pmsl some people eh! I love coco pops atm I love them mixed with oats it's my new pregnancy craving.

FluffyMummy123 · 21/09/2007 21:42

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PSCMUM · 21/09/2007 21:42

ha! got you there didn't I?!

mum prob has anorexia or similar healthy attitude to eating, her poor little dd is probably going to inherit it too.

i'm all for healthy eating, but really.

fireflyfairy2 · 21/09/2007 21:42

PSCMUM I don't give her them.

She gets them herself whilst I'm having a lie in.

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ledodgy · 21/09/2007 21:43

My dd has ready brek without sugar all week and dp puts golden syrup in it for her at the weekend!

ledodgy · 21/09/2007 21:44

FF makes sure she doesn't spill them whilst switching the sky box onto cbeebies.

chankins · 21/09/2007 21:44

Nothing wrong with cocco pops occassionally as a treat! We should be teaching kids that everything is ok in moderation - I tell mine what is healthy and what isn't, but that its ok to have unhealthy things sometimes for a treat. Some parents I know are like the bleeding food police - I want to tell them to calm down and think it through - the odd treat is FUN !

CantSleepWontSleep · 21/09/2007 21:44

Well if the other girl's mother had told her these things to stop her from wanting 'special' cereal, then I think it's great that she had taken it on board. Of course her mother needed to reinforce her message, regardless of whether it was in front of you or not. It's really quite different from judging you per se.

YABU.

Nightynight · 21/09/2007 21:45

that would really have annoyed me too. Somehow, I think the mum's going to get her come-uppance from her dd one day.

mm22bys · 21/09/2007 21:45

Some little girls are just like that - when I was in hospital after having DS1, and completely and utterly exhausted, DS1 was crying and I didn't see to him straight away. Next thing I know, the curtain round the bed opens, and the little girl from the next bed sticks her head in and says "mummy that lady's letting her baby cry". I could have strangled her!

Really YANBU. The daughter may not be at fault, but the other mother needs to pull her head in and not be so judgmental. How on earth can she possibly know what you normally feed your child?

tortoiseSHELL · 21/09/2007 21:45

lol, ds at age 3 would point at people on bikes and VERY LOUDLY say 'that person is very stupid, they're not wearing a helmet, they're VERY SILLY, THEY WILL BREAK THEIR HEAD'.

fireflyfairy2 · 21/09/2007 21:46

I think it would be a sad sad world when a small bowl of coco pops at the weekend is forbidden.

I don't buy biscuits [I am losing weight so find it easier not to have them or crisps in the house] so the coco pops really are the only sugary thing she would have on the weekends. Though if we go to MIL or my parents they do have something.

I just think the mother must be drumming bad/good food rules into the girl.

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Nightynight · 21/09/2007 21:46

but cantsleep, its also important to teach your children not to shout out criticism in teh supermarket. When my children did it, I was suitably embarrassed and tried to shut them up.

unknownrebelbang · 21/09/2007 21:47

I refuse point blank to buy cocopops.

I'm afraid the boys wouldn't get a look in!

maisym · 21/09/2007 21:47

just hate this food police attitude - you were very polite in your response. Yanbu.

pointydog · 21/09/2007 21:48

YABU

I would have revelled in that sort of comment being levelled at me

southeatsastras · 21/09/2007 21:48

children are very self confident now, they'll just say what they think (or what they've heard).

my sons like frosted shreddies. but they clean their teeth.

i love coco pops