Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5

Original poster

To think little girls in the supermarket should mind their own business???

122 replies

fireflyfairy2 · 21/09/2007 21:35

There we were.

Stressed to the hilt in Tesco this evening.

DD had been OK all the way around, but it was chockers & I could hardly move the trolley.

Now, I'm not one of these parents who actually care what other people buy.. couldn't care less, it's their kids they are feeding, not mine.

Anyway, we stop by the cereal & I throw in a box of shreddies & a box of weetabix. dd asks if she can have 'special' cereal for the weekend. We do this, on the weekday mornings she can have sensible cereals such as shreddies or weetabix but at the weekend she can have something sugary that she wouldn't normally get.

So I said yes, she could have something different. She asked for coco pops. Just at that minute.. dd with cocopops suspended in mid air... we heard a screech..

"Ooooohhh mummy... that little girl is naughty! She is going to be so hyper! Loook mummy, she has that bad breakfast... she will be hyper!!!"

Her mummy said in a voice that I probably wasn't supposed to hear "It's ok pet, she's the one who's teeth is going to fall out!"

I swear.... why the hell do people think they can judge freely?? If they had dared to look at my trolley they would have saw the brown bread, the brown rice, the wholemeal pasta...

Anyway, I said, in as soft a voice as possible, while forcing a smile at the little girl "No, she isn't naughty, she likes this cereal at the weekend as she never eats sweeties. She won't get hyper & she has beautiful teeth"

The mother said flippantly "You're lucky!"

It put me in such a bad mood! And to top it all off, when dd heard the woman say her teeth would fall out, she refused to get the feckin coco pops!!!!

OP posts:

pagwatch · 22/09/2007 17:49

Kimi.
Love your son .
Poor DS1 used to get really upset when people reacted badly to his brother so we let him make some business cards with what he wanted to say on them.
Many local adults were presented with a very serious little 7 year old who handed over a note saying " that little boy is my brother and he tries very hard to just be a normal kid but he has autism and it is hard because he gets frightened. Please remember your manners and don't stare".
their reactions were often quite shamefaced but it made my DS feel so much better - less frustrated and helpless.

Blandmum · 22/09/2007 17:49

ds (7) and not possessed of complex social skills (as you know gess! ) sared at a chap in a motorised wheelchair yesterday. When we were out ot earshot I explained that the bloke probably got fed up of people staring.

Ds understood. It isn't rocket science, is it?

pagwatch · 22/09/2007 17:51

gess - YEP. DS1 has pointed out though that at nearly 11 DS2 is the stereotypical gorgeous boy with ASD. DS1 thinks girls often check him out in THAT way and then getthrown if he stims or does something odd.
...sorry people COMPLETE hijack now!

kimi · 22/09/2007 17:55

Oh PW that is priceless.

gess · 22/09/2007 17:56

oooh Treating Autism do badges which say something like "Please be Patiend I have Autism". Am going to get one (prefer than the alternatiives I have seen).

MB- your ds is a sweetie.

pagwatch · 22/09/2007 17:58

Gess. Part of me still quite likes the t-shirt with
"I have autism-Whats your problem?"

newy · 22/09/2007 17:58

This made me laugh. I feel sorry for the mother having such a precocious and annoying daughter. She has made a rod for her own back and it will come back to bite her on the arse! Also like the phrase 'she didn't lick her bad manners off a stone'.

Blandmum · 22/09/2007 18:01

and friend of mine uses the phrase ' Do you ever get invited back to places? ' to nasty spoilt brattetes

gess · 22/09/2007 18:02

I like that Pagwatch- where did you see that?

Donna Williams gave me some good wording for cards. Will try to dig it out.

EricL · 22/09/2007 18:08

It's not the girls comments - it's the mothers response that is the killer. That is shocking. As previous posters have said - tthis little girl has obviously had this issue recited to her many times and is just repeating what she has learnt.

pagwatch · 22/09/2007 18:09

Sorry gess, can't remember but i am pretty sure it was a home made print shop job. Made me laugh out loud.

Those cards were a godsend for me when people woul;d stand around shouting at me as DS went into meltdown somewhere. He would scratch and bite my face trying to keep me looking only at him as people would be saying 'blah blah, can't you control him...that boy needs a smack...could you take him outseide ( many different security guards)...and ( my fav) people like you shouldn't be allowed to have children". I just used to wave some cards for then to take and often they would then leave us alone. Although sometimes we would get a crowd as they assumed we were filming or something ....."and, scene !"

RubberDuck · 22/09/2007 18:17

When ds1 went through his policing the world phase, he also used to be quite prone to grabbing stuff off shelves and dumping them in the supermarket trolley without me noticing, so I had a strict rule that he could take nothing off the shelves.

Unfortunately, he thought that had to apply to every kid in the supermarket between the ages of about 2 and 10. And he would tell them off quite loudly despite my desperate shushes and reminders that other families had other rules.

Worse, 9 times out of 10, other kids would immediately obey when ds1 would shout crossly "PUT THAT BACK!"

I stopped taking him to the supermarket except in emergencies for a while after that...

lindenlass · 22/09/2007 18:20

Ripeberry - fruit sugars are about a hundred times better for you than the refined sugars and sweeteners in the sweet food that is being discussed here!

DumbledoresGirl · 22/09/2007 18:22

Ooer are people really this judgemental? Heaven knows what anyone would think seeing my trolley of food. I buy coco pops every week

Actually, I loathe little children who open their mouths and spout out all the prejudices they have heard from their parents. I think little girl in OP should have been severely reprimanded. Precocious, precious, rude little madam.

milliec · 22/09/2007 19:18

Message withdrawn

thebecster · 22/09/2007 19:32

I think it's most likely that the mother genuinely believes that coco pops make her daughter hyper, and when you said that yours doesn't get hyper eating them it was a genuine 'lucky you'. If she's got a hyper kid, she probably was feeling a bit threatened by the proximity of a hyper-inducing-food! The kid does sound a bit OTT, so maybe she is prone to getting hyper...

MrsArchieTheInventor · 22/09/2007 21:38

I first read this post this afternoon and I've seethed over it ever since.

First, what the hell's it got to do with anyone else what's in your shopping trolley?!

Second, what the hell's it got do to with anyone else what you give your daughter to eat?

And third, why oh why did you feel the need to justify buying Coco Pops by saying that you also had brown rice, brown bread, wholemeal pasta in your trolley too?

It's easy to come up with retorts after the event, but I would have said something like "how rude" or "what's it got to do with you, you rude little madam?" or "when I want to take parenting advice from a precocious little brat I'll know where to find you".

I'd love to know which Tesco it was just so as I can avoid it knowing that a cloned Dr (of shit) Gillian McKeith shops there!!

RosaLuxembourg · 22/09/2007 23:03

Oh God I hate this thread, because I can just imagine my DD2 being the little girl in questions, she sees the world in black and white and is incredibly judgemental. Many children do go through this phase, they find it hard to understand that something that is ok in one situation is not ok in another or vice versa, and of course they have no tact so they broadcast their conclusions.
I think you are overreacting tbh, what does it matter.
My children are allowed coco pops in school holidays but not in term time - but if I did happen to be buying them and someone passed comment, I really would not be bothered.

LittleBella · 22/09/2007 23:33

Not only AYBU, you are slightly mad.

You were thrown into a bad mood by comments made by a child?

What?

Why d'you care?

LieselVentouse · 22/09/2007 23:48

i would have had to follow her all round asda swoling at her - but thats just me and I wouldnt be able to let that go

LieselVentouse · 23/09/2007 00:12

sorry "scowling"

ELF1981 · 23/09/2007 00:14

I remember a little boy screaming "ewwww, she still wears nappies" when I put a pack of nappies in my shopping trolley.
I just stood open mouthed while he went to his mum screaming "she wears nappies" and pointing at my DD. The mum didn't tell him to be quiet or even point out that at my DD's age they are in nappies (she was just under 12 months).

Reinforced my love of online shopping.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5