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Original poster

To think little girls in the supermarket should mind their own business???

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fireflyfairy2 · 21/09/2007 21:35

There we were.

Stressed to the hilt in Tesco this evening.

DD had been OK all the way around, but it was chockers & I could hardly move the trolley.

Now, I'm not one of these parents who actually care what other people buy.. couldn't care less, it's their kids they are feeding, not mine.

Anyway, we stop by the cereal & I throw in a box of shreddies & a box of weetabix. dd asks if she can have 'special' cereal for the weekend. We do this, on the weekday mornings she can have sensible cereals such as shreddies or weetabix but at the weekend she can have something sugary that she wouldn't normally get.

So I said yes, she could have something different. She asked for coco pops. Just at that minute.. dd with cocopops suspended in mid air... we heard a screech..

"Ooooohhh mummy... that little girl is naughty! She is going to be so hyper! Loook mummy, she has that bad breakfast... she will be hyper!!!"

Her mummy said in a voice that I probably wasn't supposed to hear "It's ok pet, she's the one who's teeth is going to fall out!"

I swear.... why the hell do people think they can judge freely?? If they had dared to look at my trolley they would have saw the brown bread, the brown rice, the wholemeal pasta...

Anyway, I said, in as soft a voice as possible, while forcing a smile at the little girl "No, she isn't naughty, she likes this cereal at the weekend as she never eats sweeties. She won't get hyper & she has beautiful teeth"

The mother said flippantly "You're lucky!"

It put me in such a bad mood! And to top it all off, when dd heard the woman say her teeth would fall out, she refused to get the feckin coco pops!!!!

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Original poster
fireflyfairy2 · 21/09/2007 21:48

csws... do you think that saying
"It's ok pet, she's the one who's teeth is going to fall out!" isn't judging

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chankins · 21/09/2007 21:48

Tortoiseshell - that reminds me of my dd1 pointing at overweight people and loudly announcing that they must have eaten too much chocolate just like Augustus Gloop - you have to be so careful what you say ...

Desiderata · 21/09/2007 21:50

YANBU.

Sanctimony never goes down well, does it?

I'm interested, in a very shallow way, in what the mother looked like. Was she a little shiny-head with a blonde bob, size 8 and with no wrinkles?

Was she a good exponent of the NO COCO-POPS brigade, or was she something other than that?

ledodgy · 21/09/2007 21:50

The worst one is 'Mummy is that a man or a lady?' You don't answer because you don't have a clue either which makes said child repeat question louder and louder....

PSCMUM · 21/09/2007 21:51

actually, now i think about this, that woman could easily have been me, but not about coc pops, about NEstle, i taught the kids from really young about why we won't be having anything made by nestle, becasue they peddle their shit formula milk to mothers in developing countries where they have no clean water, and their babies end up ill and dying becasue of it. so i'm just not, no way, going to buy anything nestle, and the kids wanted kitkats, and so i explained. so now, if anyone gives them anything nestle, they look at me (easter is great for this) and say things like 'mummy, do you want to tell grandad about the boycott or should i?' and if we see people buying nestle in supermarkets, i have explained to them so many times that we can't presume the people buying the nestle are active supporters of baby killers! but everything is so black and white in their world, and if you teach them something, something to be confident and proud of, and to know for sure, and then they shout it out and you tell them to shut up...well, what are they supposed to do with all of that?!

CantSleepWontSleep · 21/09/2007 21:52

If that's why she's told her daughter that she can't have them, then no, it's not judging. She's telling her daughter not to worry about what other people are buying, which is the right message to be sending, and you've said yourself that she's tried to do it discreetly.

tortoiseSHELL · 21/09/2007 21:52

chankins - my most MORTIFYING experience was when ds1 pointed at a person with an eyepatch (a rather grumpy looking elderly man) and shouted "Mummy, Mummy, there's a PIRATE, a REAL LIFE PIRATE" I tried to sssh him, but no "BUT MUUUUUM - IT'S A PIIIIIRATE, CAN'T YOU SEE THE PIIIIIRATE?'

Needless to say we had a lot of talks about not making comments about other people, that went right over his head!

sparklygothkat · 21/09/2007 21:52

I buy cocopops for my kids sometimes, they have never had a filling and their teeth are beautiful. They eat lots of fruit, and veg.

YANBU

ledodgy · 21/09/2007 21:53
CantSleepWontSleep · 21/09/2007 21:54

PSCMUM - I was trying not to mention that Shreddies are made by Nestle .

kama · 21/09/2007 21:55

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nightowl · 21/09/2007 21:56

the mother must have spent so much time teaching her dd about good/bad foods she forgot to teach her manners. my kids would not dream of doing that.

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fireflyfairy2 · 21/09/2007 21:57

She was tall, wih dyed blonde hair & she had roots showing (does this matter?) She was wearing a pair of jogging bottoms & a nike jumper (or something like that, a grey baggy jumper anyway)

Does she fit the no coco pops brigade then

It deffo seemed that the child stressed the hyper so unless the mum had ishoos with the child's hyperactivity & used this to get out of buying foods she thought may be linked to that?

I have no idea. But I know it made me feel like I was going to spoon feed my almost 6 yr old rat poisin.

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Lorayn · 21/09/2007 21:57

I agree that the girl was just doing as her mum said, but regardless of the eating cocopops thing surely her mum should teach her manners.
My reply would have been, 'oh, its ok dear, we have toothpaste and toothbrushes in our house, we keep them next to our manners'
or something along those lines.

chankins · 21/09/2007 21:58

lol - kids kill me - We had an awful situation recently at an ice cream stand, where the guy serving had a deformed hand - we had six kids between me and my sister and they knew not to say anything too loud but started whispering and nudging each other and giggling - MORTIFIED - hope he didn't notice as he was too busy seeing to out mammoth order!

Doodledootoo · 21/09/2007 21:58

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nightowl · 21/09/2007 21:59

ooh what did she have in her trolley? did you look?

Lorayn · 21/09/2007 22:00

Ah, there is a guy that works at tescos that has some kind of SN or something (not sure exactly what so please dont take offense anyone) but he talks different and counts the money about a million times, the first time he served me with my daughter I kept a firm hand on her shoulder and gave her 'the look' just so she knew not to ask me anything til we were outside.

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fireflyfairy2 · 21/09/2007 22:00

It was a you're lucky. I thought it sounded sarcastic, as if she thought I was boasting when I said dd didn't get hyper. But I wasn't.

She has lots of faults... but hyperness isn't one of them. [as far as I know]

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nightowl · 21/09/2007 22:01

but what did she have in her trolley?!!

Desiderata · 21/09/2007 22:01

I like that, Lorayn

That's word for word what I might have said.

southeatsastras · 21/09/2007 22:02

they love shreddies! what can i do.

i've just realised i shouldn't buy nestle.

Original poster
fireflyfairy2 · 21/09/2007 22:02

I have no idea what was in her trolley, or indeed what box of cereal she was studying in her hand. I was just there to get groceries & get out again... I think that's what pissed me off tbh.

I am never interested in other people's trolleys, yet she had to comment on what I was buying.

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sparklygothkat · 21/09/2007 22:03

Dd1 gets hyper on certain foods, but cocopops surprisely isn't one of them

milliways · 21/09/2007 22:03

My DS & DH like Coco Rocks! He usually has Cheerios or toast with Peanut butter.

We even bought Chocolate Pop Tarts for a Sunday treat this week.

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