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To think little girls in the supermarket should mind their own business???

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fireflyfairy2 · 21/09/2007 21:35

There we were.

Stressed to the hilt in Tesco this evening.

DD had been OK all the way around, but it was chockers & I could hardly move the trolley.

Now, I'm not one of these parents who actually care what other people buy.. couldn't care less, it's their kids they are feeding, not mine.

Anyway, we stop by the cereal & I throw in a box of shreddies & a box of weetabix. dd asks if she can have 'special' cereal for the weekend. We do this, on the weekday mornings she can have sensible cereals such as shreddies or weetabix but at the weekend she can have something sugary that she wouldn't normally get.

So I said yes, she could have something different. She asked for coco pops. Just at that minute.. dd with cocopops suspended in mid air... we heard a screech..

"Ooooohhh mummy... that little girl is naughty! She is going to be so hyper! Loook mummy, she has that bad breakfast... she will be hyper!!!"

Her mummy said in a voice that I probably wasn't supposed to hear "It's ok pet, she's the one who's teeth is going to fall out!"

I swear.... why the hell do people think they can judge freely?? If they had dared to look at my trolley they would have saw the brown bread, the brown rice, the wholemeal pasta...

Anyway, I said, in as soft a voice as possible, while forcing a smile at the little girl "No, she isn't naughty, she likes this cereal at the weekend as she never eats sweeties. She won't get hyper & she has beautiful teeth"

The mother said flippantly "You're lucky!"

It put me in such a bad mood! And to top it all off, when dd heard the woman say her teeth would fall out, she refused to get the feckin coco pops!!!!

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Desiderata · 21/09/2007 22:06

Hmmm, from the description, I guess she fits the hyper brigade, which is more understandable, not nonetheless, still rude.

My kid is immune to hypo-foods (so far). I've got a lot of sympathy for the problem, though. I do bar work, and I see kids drink a glass of coke and go through the roof.

But, whatever her reasons for anti-coco-popping, a little restraint with regards to other people's choices wouldn't be a bad thing.

nightowl · 21/09/2007 22:07

ha! well you see that makes you the better person...i would have scrutinised her trolley

bubblerock · 21/09/2007 22:09

God, I can identify with the male/female thing - my neighbour is trans gender and DS2 still gets confused with him/her, boy/girl etc... (he says I'm a naughty boy ) so it can get a little tricky!

elesbells · 21/09/2007 22:10

i would have slipped a box of coco pops in her trolley when she wasnt looking

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fireflyfairy2 · 21/09/2007 22:10

See, my dd isn't allowed coke & the like. But we often go out with my family & my sisters' allow their kids to have sprite, fanta, coke etc... again, their choice. My dd has never once said anything about her cousins drinking fizzy stuff.

She knows it makes her sick (she had fizzy drinks 3 times at parties & was sick 3 times!) but also that her cousins are allowed it & it doesn't make them sick.

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Desiderata · 21/09/2007 22:11

sparkly, my guess is that Nestle have done much research into hyper-activity in children.

Whatever the political debate about the company, I doubt very much that they produce cereal that pushes the hyper buttons ..

lornaloo · 21/09/2007 22:11

That would have made my blood boil. What a snobby up her own arse bi*. These are the kind of comments you should take with a pinch of salt and try not to worry about, but its bloody hard. If that were me I'd probably be dwelling over it for weeks. I think the worst thing is that she made a judgment on you that you know is incorrect. The fact that she may have thought you were a bad parent feeding your dd rubbbish would have really upset me if I were you. Children can have treats from time to time, it won't kill them. And as far as treats go cocopops arnt that bad surely.

I can remember as a child I would get some pocket money on the weekend and I'd spend it all on sweets because I was never allowed them any other time. I'd have brown bread sarnys, a box of raisons and an apple in my lunch box at school while all my other friends had white bread, chocolate, crisps fizzy drinks. I thank my mum for it now but at the time I really envied them. When I got to secondary school and had money to spend on my cooked lunch I'd go mad and pick an incredibly unhealthy lunch. I gained quite a bit of weight too. I think there needs to be a definite balance with a healthy diet and treats from time to time. It's like the forbidden fruit.

sparklygothkat · 21/09/2007 22:12

It like my Ds and Dd1, fizzy makes them hyper to the hilt, but Dd2 doesn't, but they all are not allowed coke, fanta etc, they can have a diet lemonade as a treat sometimes.

mumfor1standfinaltime · 21/09/2007 22:13

That child sounds very hyper to me!

Lorayn · 21/09/2007 22:15

I have a confession to make.
My cousin used to get really hyper on any fizzy drinks except r.whites diet lemonade so at parties we always hid with him and made him drink cherryade.

paolosgirl · 21/09/2007 22:15

Wait a wee mintey here - could it not have been that the mum doesn't like her child to have cocopops (can't say mine have them either, tbh), has told her that they'll make you hyper or you're teeth will fall out something, as you do to stop them pestering you for crap. Then you've said what you said about your child not having fillings and not getting hyper on them, and she's said 'you're lucky' as in 'mine does get hyper with too much sugar, and she's got a filling'?

Or was it your guilty conscience?????

Desiderata · 21/09/2007 22:18

" R Whites Lemon-haid-haid-haid .. I'm a secret lemon-haid-drinkuuuuuuuuur"

The best advert, in the world, ever.

Lorayn · 21/09/2007 22:20

ha, he loved it we were like the cherryade gods or something, the red moustache always gave it away though.

Doodledootoo · 21/09/2007 22:22

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Desiderata · 21/09/2007 22:23

Ah yes, the red moustache always does!

Doodledootoo · 21/09/2007 22:23

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Desiderata · 21/09/2007 22:24

Doodle .. I'm going to watch it, then retire to me quarters

fab, fab, fab!!

lornaloo · 21/09/2007 22:24

I defo don't think kids should have fizzy drinks full stop. My son had his friend over the other day he's 2 and half, ds has just turned 2. Ds friend is allowed to have fizzy drinks. He had a few sips of his mums diet coke and he turned into a monster. He is normally so lovely with ds but he just turned on him. Pushing him, not letting ds play with any of his own toys, screaming just totally uncontrollable. It was awful. I said to my friend for your own sanity don't give him fizzy drinks again. She agreed. Thank god.

sparklygothkat · 21/09/2007 22:25

hehehe I LOVE that ad... r whites,r whites!!!

Desiderata · 21/09/2007 22:25

ROFL

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fireflyfairy2 · 21/09/2007 22:26

paolosgirl, I don't have a guilty conscience.

(Or do I not get the joke?) It wouldn't be the first time if I didn't!

And Lorayn... you naughty girl!!!! I remember my nephew getting all loud & excited (didn't know it was probably hyperness in those days)when he had cadburys freddo! I remember him crawling around the floor & going in between legs of chairs like a bullet!

When my mam babysat him we used to beg her to feed him a freddo She wouldn't!

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edam · 21/09/2007 22:36

The best thing about that ad is that the secret lemonade drinker is Elvis Costello's dad.

Woman in supermarket was very rude, not shushing her daughter.

I got caught out the other day, though. Ds pointed out a car parked illegally with its hazards on and announced, loudly, 'look Mummy, that's a naughty car, they shouldn't be there'. I agreed quietly just to keep the peace. Then woman walking past us piped up: 'Oh, I'm just rushing into schoool, I wouldn't normally....'. I wasn't judging her, I was just trying to avoid ds making an even bigger, louder, fuss about it!

Desiderata · 21/09/2007 22:48

Edam I am hugging that factoid as I go off to my bed!

It make sense, though. God, it makes sense!

Elvis Costello's Dad .. and I'll be blowed !!

kidsrus · 21/09/2007 23:03

i think its funny when a child points out the rules to a adult who should know better.
yes i had the white lines one and the litter lout from ds .
adults get so defensive too because they are embarrassed that a child has to remind them.
as for coco pops what the hell a little of everything does no harm its the ones that allow the child to eat crap all day and drink fizz/squash out of baby bottles at 5yo that annoy me, then they wonder why they're dc has 8 teeth removed by the age of 6.
Proud to say my dc have lovely teeth

kidsrus · 21/09/2007 23:04

sorry wrong THEIR

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