Now illegal to have sex with partner you don't live with?

[Sueannnnna]

Lots of newspapers/online articles announcing this today.
Being in a private place with partner and having sex can lead to a £100 fine if i've read correctly.

The world is going cuckoo.
But who cares about seeing my boyfriend, at least I can go shopping in Primark and go sit on a packed train (sarcasm)

This law is ridiculous. People need to be allowed to make their own decisions, based on their own situations.

I would say I couldn't imagine a neighbour reporting you, but by going on some posters at the moment...

It makes me think someone in authority is imposing their own private concerns on the rest of us...

Can't wait for the updated curtain twitchers threads "I know they had sex because I shinned up the drainpipe and looked through the window to check. And he'd parked outside my house." Go to it.

I’d argue you’re paying him. Less cliched than other way round. But still an issue due to 2m rule.

@bigchris

People in gardens still have to be 2 metres apart so good luck trying to have sex in your garden

They don't. There's no law stating that, it's guidance.

Everyone saying YABU obv live with their partners so of course they can take the moral high ground and dictate that you must be mad to think about seeing the person you love even though you dont live with them

Do what you need to do @StewPots - I doubt very much anyone will be going door to door to check this kind of thing

Same as you can't have tea with your Mum in her kitchen

Absolutely not the same thing. Weird that you would correlate it

This will've technically been the case all through lockdown, even now as we're supposed to keep 2m between us and anyone else who we don't live with.

Not really news.

I just find it crazy that we've entered a world were people are accepting this! Welcome to 1984.

I personally think stopping people dying is more important than people getting laid.

like the relationships of armed forces personnel, oil rig workers, deep sea fishermen, live in teachers at boarding schools, nannies, cruise ship employees

That's a bit different given there is an element of choice in all of those scenarios.

Bloody hell! What's Bozo going to do? This is his raison d'être. Will he get himself locked up?

@StewPots give your partner a hug, you both need it. I’m against rule breaking generally, but there has to be exceptions and I certainly wouldn’t judge you.
I really hope things get better for you soon, hold tight

The proposed change makes it illegal to spend time inside a house that is not part of your household apart from visiting the toilet or carrying out work (e.g. plumbers).

What about if it’s a separate building on your parents’ farm in Durham?

Its fun to try and paint us single people who live alone as being grubby and sex mad. Honestly if you have never gone 3 months in your adult life without touching another person, not a hug, not a friendly pat on the arm, not a handshake, not a cuddle, you won't have any idea how hard it can be. I feel ill from it.

[quote Sueannnnna]@StewPots Stay strong lovely

I suspect this has come about because with the easing of lockdown they realise that it’s likely people will just go back to how things were in terms of having friends over to their houses etc. If they bring in a law to say it’s not allowed then at least some people will take notice and won’t go against that.

I also don’t understand this idea that someone gets pissed off because they’ve followed the rules and others haven’t. Surely we’re all responsible for ourselves? I follow the rules because I don’t want to catch COVID. If other people go out there and don’t follow the rules then their actions aren’t going to affect me because I’m still at home.

I do think that children’s education and the economy is more important than sex though. And I haven’t seen my partner since early March and because I’m shielding and he lives over 100 miles away it’s not going to be any time soon.

Who would have thought it would be Boris as PM who brought in an emergency law that would enable all parts of UK to ban sex other than between cohabitees?

Yeah you can....Johnson said only last week that is was "natural to follow ones instincts" so go for it.

Its fun to try and paint us single people who live alone as being grubby and sex mad. Honestly if you have never gone 3 months in your adult life without touching another person, not a hug, not a friendly pat on the arm, not a handshake, not a cuddle, you won't have any idea how hard it can be. I feel ill from it.

Exactly this.
I'm not particularly interested in a grubby fuck.
I just want to sit close to him without loads of strangers in a park. Give him a hug because he's terrified of losing his job and flat.

I do actually live with my husband now, luckily, but a few years ago this would have been us as we were living apart due to work commitments. We weren't any less committed then and we aren't more committed now. We were, and remain, deeply in love with each other.

A lot of couples live apart for a myriad of reasons. All valid and none of which mean that the relationship is less than that of people who live in the same house.

A romantic relationship is different to all other relationships. My husband isn't my best friend, he's more than that. He's the person I want to be with when things go wrong and when things go right. He's literally the other half of me. That didn't change when we lived apart.

To all of those who live apart from their partner (and those who say it isn't a partner if you don't live together can fuck right off) I hope that you find a way of seeing each other or continuing to see each other.

Well the rules apply to partnered people who are having sex with someone they don't live with too. The more well publicised breaches of rules relating to sex with someone you don't live with have been from individuals who also had partners.

Honestly if this pandemic was happening when I was in my twenties and had a boyfriend I didn't live with, I'd have still seen them for sure.

The track & trace process will show up the mixing of households & other people

I was reading, that people can carry & spread the virus, but show no symptoms

Nobody will be able to prove "sex & relationships" unless there is DNA or a child 9 months lster

@Smilethoyourheartisbreaking

reference your post about treating your partner like the plumber that is allowed in your home - that is exactly why the rules are there - you are not likely to have any problem social distancing with a tradesperson or stranger in a shop - when it comes to a lover of course you will want to hug /kiss/ etc . That is why the rule is logical .

the risk is very REDUCED if you are social distancing - but IF either of you are Asymtomatic then as soon as you resume normal relations you will spread the virus.

Basically you will probably chose what you want to do and justify it - but please just stop with the blaming the government for everything and saying the rules are nonsense - because they are not .

This is about your choice about going against the scientific evidence , end of .

@Sueannnnna

Have you actually read the amendments to the Statutory Instruments or just the ridiculous stories that this is a ban on sex?

The main purpose of The SI is actually to remove a whole swathe of limitations that were previously covered in Regulation 6 - all of the ones that prohibited people from leaving their homes aside from some specific reasonable reasons. These previous regulations also, in effect, would prohibit having sex with someone not from your household, if that’s the childish way you whose to interpret the law.

So maybe you should be cheering the fact that the government have actually done what they said and removed these restrictions as soon as possible - whole adding a relatively minor amendment that means it’s still (for now) prohibited to meet with people not from your household inside their home, which is entirely consistent with what they have announced over the last few days.

Needless to say, the SI makes no mention of sexual intercourse and it is only the press that have adopted this as an attention-grabbing headline. For what it’s worth, it also effectively bans arm-wrestling, playing chess, and squeezing someone else’s zits inside their home, but that’s not as headline-grabbing, is it?

after all the recent criticism of a certain person ( you know who I mean ) all of a sudden it is ok to break the one rule he DID NOT break .

the one rule that helps minimise the spread of the virus .

yes can see the logic in that .