To think this woman is being ridiculous re ‘ruined’ gender reveal

[Bouncingbelle]

Just that really. I obviously don’t have much else going on in my life cos her attitude has really riled me!

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It was so stressful. I cried all the way home
I dont think this woman knows what the word "stressful" means.
I dont get the gender/sex reveal thing because there are only 2 options and an equal likelihood of both. So neither option is particularly surprising or exciting.

IMO it is much more exciting for other people to find out the sex at birth along with the name, weight etc.

I think people forget that the 20 week scan is a health scan and not a sex reveal scan. Our clinic has signs up saying please do not ask for the sex of your baby but people still do.

Maybe there should just be a blanket ban on hospitals and clinics telling the parents the sex of the baby. For nearly all of the history of the human race people have coped perfectly fine not knowing the sex of their baby until it is born.

@peperethecat it should be up to the parents to decide. There is nothing inherently wrong with wanting to know the gender of the baby or wanting to share the information with loved ones

If she was pretending not to know the gender of the baby and the gender wasn't actually on the piece of paper in the envelope, why didnt she just pretend it was, she already knew what it was. 🤦‍♀️

True, @lovepickledlimes, but it would put an end to this sort of nonsense.

@peperethecat again gender reveal parties are in themselves not tacky it's some people that chose to make them tacky. Just as birthdays, weddings, engagement parties are not inherently tacky unless the couple make them tacky by acting entitled and grabby

again gender reveal parties are in themselves not tacky
In your opinion. I beg to differ...

@Thisismytimetoshine so organizing a meal for both sets of future grandparents, together with siblings to tell the news together would be considered tacky? or is it the cake that makes it tacky? is it the colour scheme that offends you?

so organizing a meal for both sets of future grandparents, together with siblings to tell the news together would be considered tacky?
Slightly disingenuous there, lovepickledlimes
I doubt that's remotely the sort of party the devastated one had in mind

gender reveal parties are in themselves not tacky

Even if this were true (which I dispute tbh) the only people who seem to have them are extremely tacky people. Bit of a weird coincidence, no?

@Thisismytimetoshine my point is that a gender reveal party is as tacky as the couple that organize it

@peperethecat maybe it's more the ones you see on social media. I am sure there is also plenty of couples that just have a low key affair with immediate family only

Oh my goodness, what a total muppet

Well I guess nobody really knows for sure how many small, tasteful "gender reveal parties" are happening behind closed doors. It is theoretically possible that this happens all the time.

However, the whole idea of having a party for the express purpose of telling your family and friends which type of genitals your unborn baby has (I mean, let's face it, there are only really two possibilities here) is one that seems rather as though it was invented to be shared on social media. Especially if you're going to go to the trouble of doing something like cutting a cake to see whether it's pink or blue inside, or some other kind of gimmick for the big reveal moment. It would almost seem wasteful not to put it on Facebook so that your old classmates you haven't seen for 15 years and your old work colleagues and that girl you met at your friend's hen do can all see it and give you that validating thumbs up and a "congrats hunny!" on Facebook. It seems like the whole point of a gender reveal party is to draw attention to yourself and your pregnancy, so why wouldn't you put it on social media?

So colour me sceptical about there being a lot of low key ones which we don't know about because they're not being splashed all over social media.

@peperethecat true but let's think one couple and both have 2 parents. Then out of these two parents let's say both are divorced. Now news like this will likely get dragged into a 30 minute to one hour conversation that means the couple just had to spend 2-4 hours having a pretty much identical one on one conversation. Siblings would likely be another 15-30 minutes. So the couple have now spend half their day just sharing this news. This is putting aside the risk of arguments of 'why did you call his mum first', 'why did you call your dad first' , 'why was her family told first' etc

If your family are like that then quite honestly they should grow up. I wouldn't tell any of them if they were going to behave like that.

And I certainly wouldn't invite them all to a party together because there would probably be drama.

@peperethecat not my family but there are cases like that and doing it like that might be one way to keep the peace and if it was my family it would be my option as personally that is not the hill I want to die on

Yeah but anyone who is going to have a temper tantrum over not getting the first phone call is always going to have their knickers in a twist about something. If you invite them all to a party together all that will happen is that they'll find something else to engage in one upmanship over, like who is going to visit first, and which granny is going to provide childcare, and which granny has already set up a nursery in her house for when baby stays over, and chances are there'll be some kind of incident that will probably end up featuring in an episode of Jeremy Kyle.

Because those are the kinds of people who do this shit. Thick people who love drama.

What a melt

She's a cunt. My youngest DC died very suddenly last year and a few months later I discovered I was (unexpectedly!) pregnant. The scan I had a few weeks later where they told me I had miscarried was pretty devastating; she needs to give her head a fucking hard wobble

Idiots like this have always existed what's changed is the papers now engage with this rubbish! I think most people agree with you and this is why the paper prints it because it gets people talking about it and reading it. In the age of ever click makes money they will keep doing it

@RagamuffinAndFidget that's just awful, I'm so sorry for your losses.

@RagamuffinAndFidget I'm so sorry I don't know where that face emoji came from