To think this woman is being ridiculous re ‘ruined’ gender reveal

[Bouncingbelle]

Just that really. I obviously don’t have much else going on in my life cos her attitude has really riled me!

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I clearly missed a trick when the sonographer accidentally revealed DD's sex 10 years ago at my anomaly scan! Although to be fair it was NHS so I wouldn't have been able to demand any money back.

Seriously, they're milking it for all it's worth and some of the post above of actual real devastating news at scans are heartbreaking. It didn't even occur to me to say anything to my sonographer at the time, I just thought 'Whoops' and carried on with my pregnancy.

[quote lovepickledlimes]@FeelingTheBurn you can these day go to someone who will bake the cake, blow up the balloon whatever you desire and hand them a sealed envelope and so the person who provides the service will but no one else will[/quote]
Thank you. I had no idea.

@bee222 I do agree that some have really gone ott but still can't see anything wrong with inviting both parents, and close family to a gathering and reveal the gender to everyone. It cuts out a lot of the hassle of one to one conversations with people that would want to know and everyone finds out at the same time etc. I probably would not want some lavish party but as someone that hates these kind of one to one moments and finds them too intense at times I would prefer there to be a small group and open the envelope so it's easier to deflect the the attention and not need to be part of the conversation as much. Plus it means that all grandparents got treated equally without either side throwing a fuss

I have had 3 pregnancies and have had bad news with all of them at scans. Pregnancy one I'm sorry your baby has congenital brain abnormalities (ended up having normal development), pregnancy two I'm sorry there's no heart beat, pregnancy three 20 week scan yesterday I'm sorry one of your baby's kidneys is abnormal. Waiting for an appointment with fetal medicine now. I don't know something goes wrong everytime I get pregnant, I wish all that happened to me at scans was a mild disappointment in the sex of the baby.

When our children were expected and born, we had told everyone we didn't want to know in advance or have any announcement in the delivery room, but find out for ourselves. Our firstborn twins turned out to be a pigeon pair, so that was a doubly lovely experience.

But this is 2020, so the upset mother can simply ignore what the scan and the evidence of her eyes when baby is born and just assign her child to her preferred gender, surely? After all, "Babies aren't born with a sex," as that Labour politician, what's her name, said during the leadership contest recently.

Tongue in cheek, obviously, before anyone thinks I'm recommending child abuse!

@Tigger85 sorry to hear they about this and I am sorry for your loss 😔

Gender reveal parties seem to me to be a self-obsessed grabby excuse for getting presents from people, but perhaps I've grown cynical.

How could you have a party on May 14th?

All silly.

@NearlyGranny I think it depends on the way it is done. A small family lunch where the couple just share the news or open the envelope together with just future grandparents uncles and aunts seems fine and not grabby

@MarshaBradyo I assume online and everyone video calling in

it cuts out a lot of the hassle of one to one conversations with people that would want to know

But why does everyone need to know? I don’t get it. Do people really find out the sex and the start ringing round to tell everyone? I’m not finding out the sex of my child, but if I did, it wouldn’t even occur to me to start ringing relatives to let them know. It’s private information for just me and my partner. I’m a ftm and I’m absolutely baffled by the fuss people make over this stuff. Maybe I’m the one that’s strange!

In Hindi gender reveal parties are only okay of you genuinely don't have a secret preference for one sex. I've known people to have them and you can tell they are disappointed - their reaction is then on film in front of all their family and friends and potentially the child one day, however hard they try to hide it. Once the baby was actually born, they were thrilled and wouldn't change them for the world, but nonetheless, that gender party footage still exists and could cause upset down the line.

I do understand being pissed off if you told the sonographer that you didn't want to know the sex and they told you anyway. But it isn't something you complain to a newspaper about because it was an accident. She can still have her party for her family.

Hindi? Where did that come from. Should have said imo

@bee222 I assume the future grandparents will want to know so depending on how many there are that could take 1-2 hours. Then there is the whole why did you call x or y first I should have been the first to know after you etc. In a way it could just help keep everyone happy and there is no accusation of favouring any family member

It goes without saying she shouldn't have called the Scanogropher a "stupid bitch".
However I'll be honest. It would have pissed me off too, in a major way.
I know gender reveals aren't everyone's thing, but They're obviously their thing
and their request should have been adhered to.

What would the banner, balloons and ribbons be? I thought they’d be the ‘reveal’ colour so they’d have to find out before everyone.

Or they spend weeks making neutral ones then open an envelope? Not sure how it works.

@MarshaBradyo from what I seen online the trend tends to be decor in both pink and blue or yellow if they wanted to go gender neutral. Then the couple will go to someone in charge of the reveal balloon or cake or whatever they wanted with the sealed envelope.

Oh I see. I’ve only seen one in MiC (ha) and lots of pink etc flying around after announcement.

Hard to do in a lockdown but I suppose they could get a cake made and cut it, or however they do it.

@MarshaBradyo it can be held anyway you like. It can be anything from fire works, to a cake with pink or blue in the middle, to just inviting immediate family to open the envelope together. It's like any type of party at the end.

Think she needs to get a grip, is she gunna be a one that is all about kitting the baby out in 'nice gear'

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My SIL is pregnant and there’s talk of a baby shower if we are out of lockdown. I’m genuinely hoping we aren’t. A gender reveal would make me take a long walk of a short pier.

There’s a lot about this story (the mother in law getting the result over the phone, the ‘heartbroken’ 11 year old that t doesn’t ring true. As for the scratch cards, SOMEONE would need to know so they could get them so no way did they not get their ‘health scan’ until just a few hours before the party.

She needs to meet someone who has lost a baby, especially one who has discovered the news during a scan. It has happened to me twice and it gives you a lot of perspective, the sex of a baby is hugely irrelevant.

I overheard a woman complaining about the fact the sonographer couldn’t see the genitals during the scan so she would have to pay for a private scan. Everything else was absolutely healthy but rather than being grateful for that, she was just sitting whinging about not knowing the sex. It made me very angry, I was just sitting there hoping and praying my baby would be healthy and alive.

Reads like she wants someone to reimburse her for her party

I agree - or that she wants more compensation than a free scan and a teddy bear.

No-win-no-fee waiting to happen.

One of the comments someone posted on the article is from the company. She ticked the box that was coming for a health scan and the motivation for it wasnt to find out the gender. Which from the sounds of it it was as party planned etc.
She also emailed ways she could be compensated..

The mum has also commented on the article saying she wants justice...
Not really coming across in a good light