Not speaking to friend because she saw boyfriend.

[FeistyOne]

A bit peed off with my friend. Her and her boyfriend live seperately but the past week have been visiting each other's houses and going on walks.
I think this is a bit hypocritical since from March until now she has been moaning that people need to follow lockdown so life can go back to normal.
I messaged her saying cant believe people are breaking lockdown and using cummings as an excuse and she said that the past week she has been going on walks and seeing him because she hasnt seen him for 3 months and couldnt cope any longer.

I think it's selfish. They live 20 minutes away from each other and risking things just because they miss each other

With a friend like you, she won't need enemies. How selfish and judgey of you. Is that how you treat all your friends?

I haven't seen my partner for two and a half months and we've both had enough. We live an hour away from each other and usually spend weekends together so this has been really tough, especially fro him because he lives alone (I live with my DD). I'm going over to see him next week and I can't feel bad about about it because we've both been very careful to distance all through this.

What a shit friend you are. Get some empathy, and a grip too whilst you’re at it.

It is amazing how the tide has turned since Cummings. If the deaths spike he has a lot to answer for

WOW with a friend like you, who need enemies.

We were told initially it would be 3 weeks, we are now in week 9/10 and still no end in sight. Of course now people are going to access their own risks and make decisions based on that.

The only people who are going to benefit from lockdown are going to be solicitors and it's not their fault but you only have to look at the relationship/AIBU sections on here to see how relationships are falling apart because how we are living.

I would have given exactly the same response pre Cummings.

Grow up. You get to hug your dp every day. She hasn’t seen hers for months.

Instead of being horrible, you should have been pleased for her and happy she was strong for so long.

Are you a glass half empty kind of person.?

If they live in Scotland they are v much in the wrong
On Scotland the R rate is still high.

It is amazing how the tide has turned since Cummings Sorry I don't agree Cummings did what he did at the very start and height of the virus out break, but now when we have been staying inside and making sure that we do everything can ensure that our risks are minimal on catching and passing on the virus. Then I think we can make adult decisions as to what a risk or not.

The friend going to see her BF at his house and vice versa, is very different to sitting on beach were you can't socially distance and not knowing who around may be Ill.

They probably had sex as well, OP.
She's an adult and weighed up the risk to her physical health and mental health.!I'm sure she considered the families both of them live with too. I think you're over reacting. If both of them have followed lockdown so far then then the risk is really very small.

CLEARLY A REVERSE!!!

Yep, you're a shit friend and she's well rid of you. It's bloody difficult when you are with someone but can't live together for whatever reason and it has been cruel and inhumane to force couples into not seeing each other. It's easy for people who have always lived with their husband or partner to judge, but we've got our husbands here with us for when things get too hard and we need a hug.

She’s been allowed to see him for walks for the last week though. From May 15 we were allowed to meet someone not in our household in the park.

She's allowed to meet someone from a different household. Plus he's her partner. So yes she needs to see him!

Human contact and sex are 'wrong'. This is a new low for human society, and I don't just mean the fucking coronavirus.

@Snagscardies I have been saying the same things since the start of lockdown.

If, however, it means that other people are finally judging the risks for themselves, then the odious DC will have done us all a favour.

With a bit of luck, I might have a job to return to as well.

There have been so many of these threads, AIBU to despise my neighbours because they went to the park twice, AIBU to never speak to SIL ever again because she broke lockdown to see her grandma, etc etc. These situations of stress can bring out a meanness of spirit, it makes me think of WW2 in France when people spied on each other, reported Jews to the Gendarmes etc.

If you are worried, protect yourself and leave your friend alone. She's better off without you

God aren't you bored yet?

Maybe she’s looked at what Dominic Cummings did, combined with the way social distancing is bent to fit economic productivity, and came to the the conclusion that “the rules”
are absolute bollocks?

This fucking lockdown has brought out the sanctimonious busy-body worst in a depressingly large number of people. Get the fuck over yourself OP. You're not the police and she's your friend. Be kind FFS!

This 🙄

I was furious when that silly woman gave us the couple rules. She looked like she made it up on the spot. Me and my boyfriend have lots of reasons not to move in together including the fact it would upset my teenage son. The rule felt like something out of The Handmaids Tale. As soon as we were allowed to meet one other person we started seeing each other. I’m not letting some thoughtless government rule ruin my relationship.

Some rules are stupid, well done on your friend.

How much sex have you had during lockdown op?

Maybe you think that's none of my business?

If so, learn and apply to your interaction with your poor friend.

And apologise

@Plumplumbadum

So your partner lives with you. Perhaps an explanation for your lack of empathy for others.

This. Easy for you to say, OP.