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Not speaking to friend because she saw boyfriend.

232 replies

FeistyOne · 28/05/2020 19:43

A bit peed off with my friend. Her and her boyfriend live seperately but the past week have been visiting each other's houses and going on walks.
I think this is a bit hypocritical since from March until now she has been moaning that people need to follow lockdown so life can go back to normal.
I messaged her saying cant believe people are breaking lockdown and using cummings as an excuse and she said that the past week she has been going on walks and seeing him because she hasnt seen him for 3 months and couldnt cope any longer.

I think it's selfish. They live 20 minutes away from each other and risking things just because they miss each other

OP posts:
Picklypickles · 28/05/2020 20:18

Have you really fallen out with your friend because of this? Seems a very silly reason to fall out with a friend, you know it is quite possible for people to not agree on all things and still be friends right? She's been meeting her partner, not skipping about Tescos licking the produce and coughing on people, stop being silly.

Needamanicure · 28/05/2020 20:18

Oh dear. I'm glad you aren't my 'friend'.

IAmLarge · 28/05/2020 20:19

What the fuck is this. Your a terrible friend and I bet she is glad to be rid of you. Can you imagine spending 2 months away from your partner and then when you give in and see him your 'friend' shits all over it. I'd fuck you right off!

Standupthisisnotateaparty · 28/05/2020 20:20

You just love being on that high horse don’t you!

letmethinkaboutitfornow · 28/05/2020 20:21

YABU - lockdown is eased, mental health is taking priority now

CocoR · 28/05/2020 20:21

I couldn't be bothered to be fussed about this.

highmarkingsnowbile · 28/05/2020 20:21

I have two friends who've been seeing their affair partners during all this, shagging them. Meh.

BirdieFriendReturns · 28/05/2020 20:21

DH has been working on another military base and comes home every weekend...I’m sure some people think he should stay on the base for 12 months and never see me. Tough! Not happening.

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 28/05/2020 20:22

If i had a boyfriend don't think I'd have waited this long to meet with them.

Ragwort · 28/05/2020 20:22

I'm glad my friends haven't fallen out with me for visiting my elderly parents once a week ...

You sound utterly judgemental.

2007Millie · 28/05/2020 20:22

I hope she has sacked you off as a friend. I couldn't stand being around someone like you

tartanbow · 28/05/2020 20:22

grow up, how controlling and weird are you

waaay too invested in your friends life, couldn't even imagine caring about if my friend went for a walk with her boyfriend

isitamapletree · 28/05/2020 20:23

YABU. They have done well not to see each other for so long so have obviously tried hard to follow the guidelines.

I think we can be trusted to use our best judgement in some cases now that lockdown is easing. She's not throwing parties or spitting at random strangers in the street, she's seeing her boyfriend. I'm sure they are both being cautious in other aspects but quite frankly, what's it got to do with you. If you think she's at higher risk now you're under no obligation to see her yourself. At least she's been upfront about it.

oblada · 28/05/2020 20:24

But going for a walk with 1 other person was allowed last week anyway so what's the issue?
Having said that in all honesty I wouldn't have not seen a long term partner for 2-3 months in those circumstances. It's a bit bonkers really.

TheRealShatParp · 28/05/2020 20:24

What do you want us to do about it?

ihatelockdown · 28/05/2020 20:28

I'm sure your certificate is in the post from Boris for doing lockdown so well 🙄

MarieQueenofScots · 28/05/2020 20:29

What’s your AIBU?

If it’s “AIBU to not speak to my friend” then yes, yes you are.

Not your business and not your place. Apologise and move on.

FlyAwayLikeABird · 28/05/2020 20:30

I've name changed as it's so outing. I've started meeting up with my bf, who I've been with for 5 years but don't live with (we have our own homes, separate kids, and it just works for us). We have been for some lovely walks and today he had a cup of tea in my garden (OMG). His brother who had terminal cancer died around 2 weeks ago and he's just a little bit upset so I thought fuck what the neighbours think (or my friends who may see us walking together).

FlyAwayLikeABird · 28/05/2020 20:32

Not going to lie OP he did use my toilet as well. Shocking.

thenamesarealltaken · 28/05/2020 20:32

Oh dear OP, I just think so many people have had enough. If we'd had a full lockdown, borders closed, no ministers flouting, etc., it'd be different. I've not lectured anyone despite not flouting the rules myself. Hopefully you'll make up.

Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 28/05/2020 20:32

Haven't read thread yet - but I hit the wrong button. YABU

PicsInRed · 28/05/2020 20:34

I think asking people not to see partners was unrealistic and unkind.

This. Not everyone was realistically in a position to move in together e.g. children to consider etc.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 28/05/2020 20:35

Sick to death of posts like this.

Canshopwillshop · 28/05/2020 20:36

YABU

sociallydistained · 28/05/2020 20:36

What a shit friend you are. I spoke to my close friends when I decided last week to see my partner after 11 weeks apart and no hint of partners being considered in the governments plan. Can you not see from their point of view, you being in the fortunate position to live with your partner and not have to be parted?

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