To report neighbours to 101

[Gwillow]

Since the lockdown my next door but one neighbours have had visitors to sit in the garden. They’re currently entertaining yet more people for lunch. I haven’t seen my parents or friends for over two months despite living nearby, I work in a hospital and am seeing first hand the results of this pandemic and putting myself at risk. We and so many others are making sacrifices every day and I’m furious that they’re acting as though everything is normal. My DP thinks we should stay out of it but I’ve had enough and I want to report them. I’m not sure that anything would be done however. AIBU?

Feel for you OP. It is really difficult when you are following the rules and neighbours are not. I personally find it very anti social and not considerate. I wouldn't bother having a word, I tried that with mine and they basically called me a nosey neighbour....erm you can't miss their full garden and the bloody noise volume. No change in their behaviour, but truthfully I've changed mine.

I've become an arsehat neighbour, who no longer gives a flying monkeys about being considerate. They can't be considerate then why should I. Also I do need to drown out their constant noise.

I never used to play music in the garden or light the BBQ when neighbours have their laundry out. I used to tell the DCs to be quiet on the stairs ........ you get the picture.... I also now save myself loads of time now by hollering for the DCs instead of hunting them down in the house... it's quite liberating & it makes me feel less of a doormat.

What are all the curtain twitching corona martyrs going to do next week when the lockdown is lifted further. This tattle tale snitchy culture is sick.

The Stasi would have loved you @Gwillow

Try your neighbours having a very loud street party when you're trying to WFH, can't see much social distancing going on, lots of boozing and kids shrieking.

@JinglingHellsBells

It was my idiotic statement. Or at least I posted one along the same lines.

My sister and mother had coronavirus. My sister was amongst the first after returning from Italy - you don’t need to wish me ill to teach me a lesson or be wanky enough to even suggest it.

Read my PP’s where I have said. I took the choice to break lockdown rules and see my family (apart from those who were isolated For three weeks when diagnosed And suffering with covid, I kept away from them for two weeks after negative test to be extra safe) so that I could keep myself well & Stop my bipolar relapse (My family were ill before lockdown and one of the reasons for my March relapse was isolation from them).
this rule breaking has meant I haven’t taken up a psych bed.
That I was only signed off work At my frontline NHS job for two weeks mid March. And that I’m still providing a good level of care for my patients and unborn child.
And before anyone gets their arse in their hands about me going to work and breaking the rules. I discussed my intent with the home treatment team, my trusts occupational health team and my manager and my family over a Skype meeting.

WorraLiberty Sun 24-May-20 15:47:46
And these posts always start with “I work for the NHS” or “I’m a keyworker”
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Too right! Nobody has to work for the NHS or be a 'keyworker'. The 'hero' haloes fall when they start curtain twitching and being resentful. There's nothing loving and giving about what you do if you feel like that
(I worked for the NHS for years before retiring btw).

When this is all over I want an efficient, caring, accessible NHS, not something run by 'heroes'.

highmarkingsnowbile Sun 24-May-20 15:48:51
What are all the curtain twitching corona martyrs going to do next week when the lockdown is lifted further. This tattle tale snitchy culture is sick.
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I quite agree. However it might all change by next week, we could be back on full lockdown for another four weeks for all we know. The guidelines change day to day.

A lot of people don't care about anyone but themselves. Five of my near neighbours either have people round or go to visit others and stay overnight (I'm not a curtain twitcher but it's impossible not to notice as I'm at home all the time!)
Just look after yourself and your own family like everyone else seems to do.

We’ve had this this week. Kids birthday party, grandparents round. It was last Thursday and in the evening they were all out clapping.
I felt pissed off but fact is it’s none of my business.

@Boomclaps I think that particular one was mine but so many of us have said the same thing that it's really not that relevant any more

@JinglingHellsBells what a sick thing to write. I hope you wake up to yourself at some point and realise just how sick and twisted that really is.

I reckon in a few months time oncologists for example will be seeing a lot of cancers that could have been treated if they’d been discovered earlier.

Possibly, on the other hand doctors could be seeing a lot of previously undiscovered cancers in patients that are doing quite well without aggressive medical and surgical treatment. Don't forget, sometimes the 'cure' is worse than the illness - and frequently doesn't cure!

AlexisCarringtonColbyDexter Sun 24-May-20 15:19:58
As for the hysterical bleating that (finally) having a few friends in your garden means that people are stupid / selfish / ignorant and are doing nothing to protect rhe NHS, don't be so utterly petulant and purile

The vast majority of people in this country have had their lives turned upside down and some people have lost everything in the course of protecting the NHS. If they now feel they can take stock and manage their own risk and lives then that's up to them

Well said! and I say that as someone who is a key worker in social care. I still have the common sense to recognise that not everything is black and white- there are some situations where staying away could actually do far more harm to someone than bloody corona virus but yet again, noone gives a toss about deaths that weren't from corona do they?

Only corona matters apparently- if you die or suffer from anything else its tough shit.

You are wrong, OP and YABVVVU
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Very well said. Will the NHS protect us when this pandemic is over? Plenty of people have had absolutely dire NHS treatment over the past few years; just because there are heroics now doesn't mean it won't go back to that again. Of course I hope not but can't say I have much faith in this government.

If the advisor to the PM can swan around doing what he likes I don't see why your neighbours can't.

Stressing about things like this impacts your immune system so best to let it go I reckon.

My neighbours were having different people over for bbq’s and had a houseful of people one night someone on our street reported them and my neighbour the other side of me said the local beat officer had paid them a visit

I’d be really annoyed too. I don’t know if I could be arsed phoning the police but I don’t think you’d be wrong to do so. It’s not “bothering” them, it is actually their job to enforce the lockdown measures is it not.

Fucking hell. I thought we had moved on from all this 'protect the NHS' crap.

More to the point when are the NHS going to extract their heads from their Coronavirus backsides and start treating all the people they unceremoniously dumped back in March in a blind panic?

Personally I have been waiting for a heart bypass since October. God knows when it will be scheduled now.

As soon as lockdown came in I was told 'all scheduled heart operations are cancelled for at least 3 months'.

And that is the best health service in the world. Allegedly.

Whilst I understand your feelings. Let the Police concentrate on catching muggers, burglars and dealing with DV.

Because I realise its not people have a chat and lunch in the garden that's going to raise R.Its the people being forced onto tubes/buses to go to work where its impossible to social distance.

No, there is limited wiggle room so choices needed to be made about where to relax the lockdown. Seeing family/friends only benefits the individuals, getting people back to work benefits the economy and the common good. I’m really really sick of this wilful obtuseness.

@JinglingHellsBells

Go and see your parent in their 90s and sit in the garden FFS. Guidelines were just that, and meant to impact on a population level and designed to avoid close, sustained contact with multiple other people.

You weren't doing the NHS or the country any favours by 'sacrificing' not seeing a very elderly parent with no risk to you, them or anyone else.

That doesn't mean you get to piss and moan about other people that had more sense than you.

My next door neighbour has multiple friends in the house and staying over frequently - different people the last two nights. It upsets me as actions like this potentially mean the situation is going to go on longer and it will be even longer till I can be with my loved ones

Sorry OP but saying your DP will die if he gets it is wrong on so many levels and is exactly why this lockdown and the scaremongering has been too successful. He won't probably die. He has a higher chance of dying and you have to understand the difference. No one will probably die. There isn't a group that are over 50% at risk of dying.

I despair at the lack of critical thinking and understanding of risk displayed on here and by many of my friends.

Why is the default on Mumsnet to “log everything with 101?”

What do you expect to happen?

@boomclaps

Ignore that vile poster- you did 100% the right thing.

Its disgusts me the poison people like her spew when she has no clue what your circumstances are. Its the height of ignorance and stupidity

My DP grandmother is in a bad way and isn't expected to last long. There is no way she could get to a green space as she doesn't drive and even if she could wouldn't have the strength.

Yesterday we made the decision to go to her garden with DS and his DM and DF were there. For us it was an opportunity for her to see My DS for possibly the last time. We socially distanced in the garden and didn't go anywhere near her. We got shouted at by the neighbour as we returned to the car.

I can't see any difference between meeting people socially distanced in a garden vs lots of strangers at a park. In our case none of the family at all have been out part from walks in the last 9 weeks this was our first trip out.

I don't regret it at all

How do you know they're not "staying alert" though?