To report neighbours to 101

[Gwillow]

Since the lockdown my next door but one neighbours have had visitors to sit in the garden. They’re currently entertaining yet more people for lunch. I haven’t seen my parents or friends for over two months despite living nearby, I work in a hospital and am seeing first hand the results of this pandemic and putting myself at risk. We and so many others are making sacrifices every day and I’m furious that they’re acting as though everything is normal. My DP thinks we should stay out of it but I’ve had enough and I want to report them. I’m not sure that anything would be done however. AIBU?

YANBU but seriously, you need to gauge it: there may be come back and that can be far worse.

They ABVU but is it worth starting an all out war (possibly).

I am finding this very easy. The question to ask yourself is do I isolate and live or socialise and die

The lack of perspective here is absolutely mind boggling.

If you want to live in a police state!

Personally I think it’s awful that some folk just don’t give a monkeys. I would however maybe just keep yourselves out of it because at the end of the day they will just carry on regardless. xx

My Dad has died in this pandemic, couldn’t see him for a whole month whilst in hospital & the treatment he was given was shocking! (Another story) I would mind your own business for now as you are not aware of other people’s situations! I sit in my sisters garden social distancing as we as a whole family cannot grieve together!

I think if it’s a full blown group party then report if it’s just a handful of visitors then I would probably stay out of it because the police already have a lot to do. Not saying that it’s ok because I agree they shouldn’t be doing it but I just think the police have to concentrate on the more important problems.

So sorry for your loss @Gingercat86

I have neighbor's doing exactly the same, had their mother and father over just about every day in lockdown, drinking wine and playing with the grandchildren, but there they are on a Thursday evening clapping away for the nhs!! Mean while l'm stuck at home and my business has been shut since mid March and not going to open until after 4th July. It's an absolute joke!! And those who are saying Dominic Cummings has done it, well 2 wrongs don't make a right!! I'm 100% with you Op!! If l thought for one minute the police would be interested then yes l would call them but they aren't.

I doubt if the police will do anything even if you ring up 101 and if you did call them and they did miraculously go round to your neighbours then maybe this would cause a bad atmosphere between you and your neighbours? Yes a lot of people are hypocritical by clapping like seals every Thursday for the NHS and then completely ignoring the relaxed lockdown and social distancing rules. It seems that when a little bit of sun comes out people lose there common sense with regard to the lockdown rules!

Hi if you report them I was recently told you’re supposed to do it online not on 101. I recently had to ring 101 about a non covid 19 related incident and the woman who answered was hugely frustrated by people ringing 101 about neighbours breaking lock down rules. She thought I was ringing about a lockdown issue at first because the line was bad and she almost kicked off at me! Just thought I’d warn you as I would have totally have assumed it was 101 you had to ring but there is, apparently, a special reporting online page for covid 19 concerns. She also told me that the only fines her force had handed out to people meeting up had only been for large gatherings and house parties. (For anyone curious about the incident I was ringing about here’s the long story- I was out in the countryside when I rang and it was so windy we were talking at cross purposes, I was actually ringing about a suicidal ‘seeming’ person I had encountered acting slightly oddly in the middle of nowhere at a deep lake. I thought I was being over anxious about them and would look weird if I called the police but it turned out I was right and the police had to come and save the person! I ended up stood holding the poor person back from jumping by their coat, so by the time the police came I regretted not ringing 999 but it had just been a feeling I’d had about a person I’d spotted. I couldn’t tell whether it was a fisherman or just someone enjoying the view, turned out they were preparing to jump! They are ok now -thankgod- but I was totally useless in an emergency! Had no clue whether to ring 999/101/ grab the person or if the person was ok and I would scare the life out of them them climbing up and grabbing them I was shouting ‘are you ok?’ for ages. But the strong wind meant we couldn’t hear each other! Think when the police did come ( about 6 cars) they thought I was thick for only ringing 101. Cringe).

Entirely not your business. You're not at risk, they choose to be. Butt out.

@Gwillow absolutely grateful for the Herculean efforts of the combined NHS, postal workers, teachers etc etc.

Can EVERYONE who has used the “disrespectful to the NHS” in one argument or another please hold on to that feeling of frustration and anger.

Got it?! Good.

Then in 2 years’ time when all this is forgotten and the NHS and Tesco delivery drivers are no longer considers part of the emergency services, please bring that outrage back out of your pocket and look at it when you yourself so something that keeps the police, fire, and ambulance service in business. Who will be the hypocrites then?!

Anyway, how did your husband get on?

I've decided to just avoid my neighbours. I suspect many will have caught or passed on the virus as there were numerous parties going on yesterday.

OH! Well if your DP is going to speak to them they will surely listen to a bully boy whose wife has sent him round. mind your biz n think on when this is all over you will still live next to them.

The majority of people on here will never agree with you OP.

I’m frontline nhs and the way the majority of the public behave utterly disgusts me. I would feel the same as you. Same people misbehaving will be the ones complaining during any second wave.

Live and let live.

The outdoor transmission rate is very low, if not non-existent.

After this latest horror show with that c**t Cummings, I doubt the police will be able to do anything.

Mind your own business...there’s enough crappiness going on with us turning snitch on each other...

If you can safely go & sit in parents garden, go & see them. My dad died of a massive heart attack... life is too short to fall out with people & stress. Go see your parents, just keep a safe distance. We can’t control what others do unfortunately, but you could be closer to people in supermarkets/work/shops/garden centres now.
For me, family is too precious. Just be sensible.

If you don’t call the police, how about putting a letter, even if it’s anonymous, through their letterbox, telling them what you think instead?

I completely understand and feel your anger and frustration too. I get your point entirely; by not following rules then many others are going to impact others, like yourself, like me being highly vulnerable, so I get it.
The problem is the police are virtually guaranteed to do nothing. It could cause ongoing problems if they find out you reported. Also, it really is taking a huge toll on mental health and I believe most people are flouting the rules to some extent because of this.

Just mind your own business.Personally i am getting sick of people worrying about what others are doing,its not your business,its their life,their choice,All this sneaking on neighbours is nasty and unpleasant.

All over the world lockdown is getting lifted gradually,it is here remember cases are going down,we cannot lockdown for ever or wait till virus goes away it wont,or a vaccine is found,that could be years,If you want to lockdown indefinitely fine,your choice,do it,but dont expect the rest of us to.Life is for living not existing and i and many others want to start living ours again,yes we have to be careful, socially distance etc,and come out gradually and we are starting to do that thankfully.

I hope your ok OP x

Hello, you are not being unreasonable. The police probably won't do anything however. Our neighbours had a 3 day party starting Friday night and ending today. They even had a DJ. It has been a total nightmare, being kept awake for 2 days in a row (it has ended now). The police said lots of people had complained but they weren't going to attend because it was Eid and parties were going on for that. They literally had 2 van loads of people turn up, plus at least 7 car loads and taxis. If the police won't attend that I can't see them being interested in your neighbours. They had birthday balloons so I assume they were celebrating a birthday.

It is our business because this affects us all

People just need to do whatever they need to do to protect your own family. I am so sick of people putting there noses into other peoples business. I live alone in a flat. I normally work 46 hours per week have my grandkids at weekends. So my life is horrible at the moment. When the sun comes out. I do go along to sit with my sister in her garden. Social distance is in place and I am sure people are talking about us. But I dont care.Im not going to apologise for it. My mental health will be shredded if this goes on any longer. When all these restrictions are lifted. That virus is still there. All we need to do is stay distant from each other for the near future and let us live our lives. So just don't let yourself be bothered by what people are doing in their homes. Just deal with your own