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AIBU?

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To report neighbours to 101

349 replies

Gwillow · 24/05/2020 12:17

Since the lockdown my next door but one neighbours have had visitors to sit in the garden. They’re currently entertaining yet more people for lunch. I haven’t seen my parents or friends for over two months despite living nearby, I work in a hospital and am seeing first hand the results of this pandemic and putting myself at risk. We and so many others are making sacrifices every day and I’m furious that they’re acting as though everything is normal. My DP thinks we should stay out of it but I’ve had enough and I want to report them. I’m not sure that anything would be done however. AIBU?

OP posts:
mylifestory · 25/05/2020 18:20

Our neighbours 2 doors away were totally anal, about this at the beginning, wdnt even come near the fence to talk, haven't said 1 word this whole time or left the house at all. The past week they seem to have set their garage nxt to ours up as a public gym!! Them and other ppl there all the time in a very small space going made looking like memes exercising. Today they are having a barbecue with loud voices and don't seem to care anymore. I'm still not going out ....

barbsbarbs · 25/05/2020 18:21

Have you anything better to do than count how many people are going inot your neighbours house. you need to get a hobby.

mylifestory · 25/05/2020 18:23

And Dominic Cummings is the unfortunate person on the end of a witch hunt. The Labour ppl who hate him for getting brexit thru and Boris into no.10. The conservatives who are remainers too. Leave the poor guy alone. Half of our school has done the same thing!

Bizawit · 25/05/2020 18:23

*Fucking hell. I thought we had moved on from all this 'protect the NHS' crap.

More to the point when are the NHS going to extract their heads from their Coronavirus backsides and start treating all the people they unceremoniously dumped back in March in a blind panic?*

THIS.

Msmcc1212 · 25/05/2020 18:25

Bizawit. Hello Troll. Go find other people to bother please.

beingmum39 · 25/05/2020 18:30

My neighbour has had members of her family over every week since lockdown started. They sit outside but not apart... Sometimes 7 or 8 of them at a time. I was surprised she decided to do this considering her husband is in the vulnerable category and she also cares for her very elderly mother but it's not my place to say..

Yes it's frustrating especially as my DS is only a year old and hasn't seen any of his grandparents, despite one lot being very nearby. But the grandparents are elderly and I don't want to risk anything especially as I am still working frontline.

Some people just don't care... Which is a shame Hmm

Bizawit · 25/05/2020 18:38

@Msmcc1212

Was expressing my agreement with the perfectly understandable (and imo spot on) frustration of a PP. don’t think that makes me a troll.

Delta1 · 25/05/2020 18:41

@Bizawit is not a troll. What a lazy reponse. She's referencing another poster who's been denied a heart bypass because of Covid. Read the thread.

Zoejj77 · 25/05/2020 18:41

Another week and this will be ok, I’d leave it tbh

mynameisbiggles · 25/05/2020 18:43

Grow up. This is not the Wermacht.

Bizawit · 25/05/2020 18:43

@Delta1 thank you

ktp100 · 25/05/2020 18:44

You'll get a lot of defensive remarks on here, OP. LOTS of people know they've broken rules themselves so defend other doing it.

It must feel like a real kick in the teeth to NHS workers to witness stuff like that.

jwpetal · 25/05/2020 18:46

This must be so frustrating for you and I understand. To be honest, there have always been people, who are not following the rules or taking care of their health. You must be so tired and stressed and this heightens the issue.

what I would ask is what are you doing to take care of your needs? When we are tired and stressed this leads to burnout. Before you do anything thing about what you hope to gain from it? Will they change theirs ways? Will it cause more stress in the home and with your neighbours? Will they actually change? There may be more productive ways to change people in a more positive way.

I suppose this comes from having living in a place where neighbours reported their neighbours to police. It isn't nice and not an environment to live in.

Whatever you do, make you will not live with guilt or anger. Just decide and be done with it.

Delta1 · 25/05/2020 18:46

That was to @Msmcc1212
Anyway troll hunting is against your beloved rules

MsTSwift · 25/05/2020 18:48

“Do you have your own beeswax? Well mind it” may have been watching too much Katy and Kim 😁

MsTSwift · 25/05/2020 18:49

Kath

JaneEB · 25/05/2020 18:51

They have been after Dominic Cummings forever.

He has stated that he went to a separate building on his parents grounds, shouted at his parents from a distance etc. The main reason for this is that he is constantly harassed by press etc as they know his home address with it having been featured on TV. So whose fault is it?

DJTanner · 25/05/2020 18:55

Our next door neighbours have had a bbq today, with in excess of 20 people attending! I wouldn't mind as much if the woman who lives there hadnt been kicking off at people in our road that she thought were going on too many walks per day. She also repeatedly puts statuses on social media about how you should stay home! Such a hypocrite!

patricia1959 · 25/05/2020 19:02

As long as you're doing what you think is right re isolating, I'd let them get on with it. Poor police have enough to contend with. Loads of neighbours near me have gatherings in their gardens. They aren't harming me, so no problem.

Delta1 · 25/05/2020 19:03

Ok well that's ridiculous @DJTanner - and for all my disdain of people calling the police on their neighbours, I'd be pretty shocked if I saw that at the moment.

Delta1 · 25/05/2020 19:08

*for

Mafuta · 25/05/2020 19:28

Perhaps put a note through the door letting them know how disappointed you are and that it's about time the rest of the street knew what hypocrites they are clapping on thursday night. I would report them to the police and say that you have. If this virus gets worse, they are the people who are the prime suspects for helping to spread it.
Stand your ground and let them know how you feel.

promrs · 25/05/2020 19:39

Gwillow,

Yanbu, but unfortunately unless someone close to these non believers has died, they will never see the seriouness of isolating themselves. The are all totally selfish and ignorant.
I am finding this very easy. The question to ask yourself is do I isolate and live or socialise and die.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 25/05/2020 19:43

I am finding this very easy. The question to ask yourself is do I isolate and live or socialise and die.

Bully for you, I’m happy that you find it so easy but not everyone does.

You do realise that it’s not as straightforward as isolate and live or socialise and die don’t you?

LoveIslandVirgin · 25/05/2020 19:43

Same with our neighbours but no point in reporting them because one of them is a police officer. Their visitors just park up and go into the house. Two car loads yesterday. They have NHS posters in their window and even typed instructions for deliveries on display!

I hope these friends are there for them if they become ill. I’ll not be helping them out.