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[Gwillow]

Since the lockdown my next door but one neighbours have had visitors to sit in the garden. They’re currently entertaining yet more people for lunch. I haven’t seen my parents or friends for over two months despite living nearby, I work in a hospital and am seeing first hand the results of this pandemic and putting myself at risk. We and so many others are making sacrifices every day and I’m furious that they’re acting as though everything is normal. My DP thinks we should stay out of it but I’ve had enough and I want to report them. I’m not sure that anything would be done however. AIBU?

ludothedog - the virus spread in Germany started by one woman who was infected passing the salt to someone and so on. The Op said they are eating together (and different people in different days I think) and sharing plates etc. Being outside helps but if you are passing things to one another and less than 2m then that increases the potential.

Good point anxiousbean.

RoosterPie is spot on. R is an average and depends on what everyone is doing. We need to prioritise the interactions that benefit the country as a whole

I think that’s what I said. Maybe it’s just too nuanced for people to understand.

Instead we don't engage with them, no eye contact no hellos as we walk past, it's very obvious tmhat we're disappointed with them

This properly tickled me. The inflated sense of self importance.

Reminds me of the Mighty Boosh and turning your back

Risk of transmission outdoors is very low, I imagine your neighbours have weighed up the risks.

Perhaps your neighbours are entertaining Dominic Cummings and his wife. The rules don't apply to them.

@SallyLovesCheese is your husband working outside of your home at the moment? If he's currently furloughed or WFH I would say there would be very little risk to his parents of him visiting them and distancing in the garden. Maybe better if you don't accompany him though if they are elderly and not in good health.

shinynewapple2020

’Risk of transmission outdoors is very low, I imagine your neighbours have weighed up the risks.‘

This is right if you are at a 2m distance or just passing. I don’t think we can say this when people are sitting closer, for longer periods of time and passing things to each other. As I said a BBC documentary suggested that the virus started in Europe with a passed salt shaker.

Euclid

’Perhaps your neighbours are entertaining Dominic Cummings and his wife. The rules don't apply to them.‘

😂 funny - yet also hugely depressing and angry making because it’s true

What they’re doing is fine.

The govt were quite clear yesterday everything they said is only guidance and you can use your own judgement.

Msmcc12

I agree. It it an absolute disgrace and shows what the PM thinks of the electorate.

Both my next door neighbours have repeatedly broken the rules with family round. Every thurs they trot out the front door and stand in the garden and clap for the nhs. One of them had the nerve to say they’re surprised that I don’t come out and clap because I’m nhs worker and they thought I would. (I clap out my back bedroom window).

The govt were quite clear yesterday everything they said is only guidance and you can use your own judgement.
Only because Cummings got caught and they’re excusing it

Put a note through the door, telling them not to clap when they aren't adhering to the rules and write down the basic rules of seeing other people in very plain terms. And report them.

Just heard my neighbours planning to make scones for a visit to grandparents and other family with their little ones so hard to hear that when we are probably not going to see grandparents until next year. Feels so unfair. If we all did that the death rate would be so much worse. What gives some people that sense that they are entitled?

What gives some people that sense that they are entitled?

The government - and Johnson’s very public support for Cummings! Try getting anybody to take isolation seriously now when a man with the virus can drive hundreds of miles across country and go for walks in blue bell woods!

Put a note through the door, telling them not to clap when they aren't adhering to the rules

For goodness sake, listen to yourself.
This clapping thing needs to stop. It's been hijacked by twisted virtue signallers using it to try to pump up their already extraordinary sense of self virtue by tut tutting at others. It bears no resemblance to what it was the first few weeks and has frankly become hollow.

Just heard my neighbours planning to make scones for a visit to grandparents and other family with their little ones

What if they're going to deliver the scones and see the grandparents and other family from more than 2m away?

You know what OP, report them. If every single person had their attitude then things would be in a bad way.

Millions WOULD die because no one would be listening.

I can totally see why you're annoyed, as could anyone who has lost someone to covid.

People on here just love to fucking disagree with every poster on AIBU. these are the same people who tell you not to report neighbours for smoking weed in their gardens and allowing it to drift on your windows.

@PinkSparklyPussyCat and what if they're not? We could have this argument all day. Rules are rules

@ChocolateQuiltedShitPig we have made cupcakes and are going over to my parents today (they have made their own cupcakes) as it's DS 1st birthday tomorrow. I'm accessing the garden through the side gate which will be left open and going to the bottom of the garden and my parents will be inside the patio doors probably be 17ft away from each other.

They can't get to a local green space and even if they could it's ridiculously warm and we'd have no shade for DS.

May be they will stay 2m away. But, is it even possible to keep little ones at a 2m distance? Older children yes - but toddlers? And lockdown isn’t over here. Stay home unless essential. Scones with family is not essential.

Also - virtue signalling? Where had this phrase come from. Strikes me it’s grown in guilt hidden by self justification. Children are being orphaned, people are dying a horrible death without their loved ones close and many health and social care workers are being traumatised and burntout. If saying that you are doing everything in your power to keep the R rate low and calling out anyone who isn’t is virtue signalling, then I will proudly take that title.

Who honestly gives a fuck if neighbours are making scones? Seriously, have a word with yourself and ask yourself why you are even giving it thought if your neighbours kids stay more than two metres away from grandparents.

Who honestly gives a fuck if neighbours are making scones

Yup- they sound like utter monsters making scones for their grandparents. I really hope the police lock these animals away for a very long time. Must be terrifying that such evil deviants live next door shudder

It’s obviously not about scones or seeing family. It’s that for R rate to remain under 1 we all need to limit our contact with others and the fact that the rules should apply to us all not just those of us who feel more responsibility to our fellow humans. It makes me feel really sad that we are making these sacrifices for the greater good yet others feel their selfish wants and needs come first. If we all said ‘fuck it’ let’s go see family we would see more deaths, more loss and more trauma. Tell me what gives some people (eg Cummings, the OPs neighbours) the right to do what they want and say ‘sod it’ that more people will die, more children will be orphaned and more carers will die?