Help! Anyone ! The local police just called me

[Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme]

Exactly that - my DH went out when I was washing up and have not heard from him since . That was about 830-9. Eight minutes ago a woman rang me and said that he was at the local police station , they couldn't say why and that he was fine. That he would call me in the morning . I can't speak to him he is asleep and no one is hurt and he is ok but they could not ring earlier as they have been busy . What does this even mean ??? Why would they call to say that ? Am panicked and thinking up alsorts and unlikely to sleep now . Can anyone help me ? Please xx

Oh op I'm so sorry your poor kids having a drunk driver as a father. I hope they throw the book at him and he gets a sentence this time and not just a driving ban. He could have killed someone it's disgusting .

@Chinchinatti You can contact my local police force too - I am in the midlands.

@Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme
What a crap night for you - hope you manage some sleep. People can be arseholes (as your Dh has proved if he did drink and drive) but you don’t have to live with that arsehole. Sending you peace and restful dreams

In any case, given that he was drunk when he left, police will probably leave him 12 hours to sober up. Then they'll have to get a duty solicitor and a police officer to interview him. So don't expect him home first thing in the morning.

The fact he left without telling me while
I was just washing up and this is normal would
be enough reason for me to question my marriage, never mind with an arrest on top. I hope you get some answers later today.

How long ago was the previous drink driving conviction?

A relative was told to prepare for a jail sentence with her second bout of drink driving, I think the fact she was a single mum was why it didn't happen.

Anyway, got put some relaxation tracks on and try to rest, your kids will need you tomorrow.

Chinchinatti you're making this up as you go along

I'm making this up? Lol

He picked a bad day to get arrested. Presuming he has done something (drunk driving or something), then he'll be held until he can be interviewed with police, unless of course he admits guilt. They don't just hold people overnight to let them sleep off the drink. He'll have committed some crime or another. If it's a second offence for drunk driving, then they may well keep him in police custody until courts open.

Depends what the CPS says and given that it's a bank holiday, I wouldn't expect a quick turnaround. Just saying.

she said he was fine and noone was hurt

That's the absolute best news in the world considering what the twat has done. There could have been other people on the roads. Thank goodness the worst is him being done for this.

All this guessing about what might happen doesn’t help. OP, I’d try to just get some rest now.

@Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme
Thought I remembered you from other threads.
I think he has put you through enough over the years dont you.
He is a deadweight and you are having to carry him,while he lurches from one disaster to another,all the while swanning around down the pub,leaving you to pick up the pieces.I am mad on your behalf.
He is not going to change,he is too arrogant for that.
Please think carefully why you are staying in this marriage that you are the only one pulling your weight.It is never going to get any better till you get rid of the deadweight

@Chinchinatti - drink driving isn't a CPS charging offence, it's a police charging one.
He is only likely to be remanded if he has previous for failing to attend.

As in, police make the decision to charge, not CPS.

Also he will only be interviewed if police have not witnessed him driving. If police stopped him driving and breathalysed him there is no need to interview, it will be a straight charge.

To be fair. Mistakes happen! My other half likes to own a lot of cars at once and swaps the plates for private ones, one time he was pulled over on the way to an mot for speeding and when they checked the vehicle it turns out he’s mistakenly put the wrong plates on the car (genuine mistake) but they decided he was off our to do something dodgy and threw him in a cell for the day!!!!

Saturns - we don't know what he was arrested for.

To be fair. Mistakes happen!

Driving drunk is not a mistake, it's a choice. Drinking so much that you become drunk is a choice. Mistake, my arse.

Op I hope you are managing some sleep

Namechangex10000, drink driving isn't a 'mistake'. Speeding isn't a mistake. Both can kill other people. If it's the person driving I couldn't care one way or the other, but it's usually an innocent party.

Saturns, why is he being kept overnight then?

Op I’ve pm’d you x

@Chinchinatti - no, we don't, I'm only giving advice on the drink driving element as that is what the IP believes it to be.
I'm pointing out that not everything is charged by CPS. So there's no point scaring her further with when you don't know the full story either.

I really don’t think this is helping the OP. She’s said that drink driving is wrong and is understandably stressed out. Some support for her would be better than arguing amongst yourselves. I imagine she’s feeling pretty shit, yet shes not actually done nothing wrong herself.