Help! Anyone ! The local police just called me

[Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme]

Exactly that - my DH went out when I was washing up and have not heard from him since . That was about 830-9. Eight minutes ago a woman rang me and said that he was at the local police station , they couldn't say why and that he was fine. That he would call me in the morning . I can't speak to him he is asleep and no one is hurt and he is ok but they could not ring earlier as they have been busy . What does this even mean ??? Why would they call to say that ? Am panicked and thinking up alsorts and unlikely to sleep now . Can anyone help me ? Please xx

Very odd - but can you call your local police station to verify the call came from them?

It sounds like he's been arrested, is either too drunk/high to speak or isn't allowed to make his phone call due to ongoing investigation, so the police are letting you know where he is so you don't panic and report him missing. Hope the morning brings clarity.

My guess he's been nicked drink driving. If so, he's in for a lot of trouble. I think I'd kill him. I'm sorry op. This is awful.

At least you know he is safe.
Try to hang in there until morning.

Sorry just to be clear my 'as relatively minor' was in relation to suggestion he may have had a wee rather than the much more serious suggestion that he may have been drink-driving.

Agree with PP that you should call the station and confirm that it was actually them that phoned you. Sorry OP, how stressful

Try calling the station just to confirm that it's not a hoax. They won't tell you why he's there but only if he's there.

You said he was already a bit drunk? And the car is missing? Anything else?

He was drunk and his car has gone?
He's asleep in custody?

I guess you have your answer. But I would call the station back anyway to ask for more details, like when can you collect him etc.

02:03XDownwiththissortofthingX - charge him ?? Oh my god. Assuming he has not hurt anyone what the actual fuck ?? What do I do ? We can't afford solicitors or whatever ! Sparklesocks - we had wine with dinner - he drink most of it so I would say he had two pre dinner beers , 2/3 glasses of wine . Well over limit anyway. I put kids to bed , washed up ( back of house ) didn't hear him leave . Assumed he had gone to get wine , saw a mate , got chatting whatever. Called , messaged maybe half a dozen times before I went to bed around 11 ish . Assumed he ha popped around a mates for some stupid reason and stayed or whatever . ( I know it's lockdown but he can be an arrogant twat when drunk) and next thing a woman rings me saying she is from xthe police station . Really don't know what to make of it !

Ok going to find the number just to double check it's not a hoa xx. Hang on .

Sounds like he's had a pull.

Take s deep breath. Get some rest, drink some water and wait to bear from him in the morning. If he is under the influence he wouldn't be interviewed until the morning.

hope you are ok OP, you must be frantic. You know where he is, he is safe for now, try to get some sleep and deal with this in the morning. No point continuing to try to phone him or calling the police back, you're not likely to get any more info tonight. Get some rest as best as you can, so that you have a clear head to handle the situation tomorrow.

The good thing is he’s safe. That’s the most important thing.

It’s just a bit confusing that he popped out for wine and he didn’t return, and you didn’t hear from him from him for 5 hours and didn’t notice his car was gone until now. Did you try and get in touch and he didn’t reply/pick up? Sorry I know you must be very stressed, just trying to understand. Is this a common thing he does?

Like pp I also think ringing the station to confirm would be a good idea, just to verify what was said.

Ring the station to verify the call

Find the number for your local police station and confirm with them that he's there

If he's drunk and his car is gone then the logical explanation is that he's been stopped and been arrested for drink driving.

First things first. Put your mind at rest that he's there, then you can deal with anything else in the morning.

Oh just seen you’ve replied. How stressful, sorry what a nasty shock this must be ❤️

Rotten thing to happen, I'm so sorry. A few things spring to mind:

1. If the call came in on your land line, when you dial 1471 is there a number listed or is it with-held or Private Number or whatever?

1. If it was on your mobile, same question.

1. Have you called the police station to confirm he is actually there and that this isn't some hideous, malicious hoax? Did the WPC give her name or a contact number for you to call back on? They might not be able to say what he's being held for, if that is the correct explanation for the situation, but they might also be able to confirm what time you can call back in the morning.

And I know it's really hard, but if you can, try to get some sleep.

When he went out did he say anything atall OP?
Didn’t you here him drive away? Weren’t you suspicious before now? Or does he have form for just going out for hours on end!?

OP - try not to panic.
He has probably been arrested for drink driving.
It is very unlikely to be a hoax.
Prepare yourself for what that entails but it really won’t be as bad as you think.
Try to stay calm

God you must be frantic. Has he driven whilst drunk before?

If his cars gone,you knew he was over the limit,he's been gone for hours and now you've had a call from the police to say they have him overnight I'd say he's been arrested for drink driving.

Is the shop in walking distance?

If he's been arrested for drink driving serves him right op sorry.

It's you it will affect if he loses his licence.

Thank you everyone - ithankbyou for advice have phoned and got put through to custody suite and he is definitely there and asleep. So sadly not a hoax . After reading your messages I am sort of wishing it was. Iam not brilliant with tech but the original call number was withheld and the woman did not identify herself so after I put the phone down and actually woke up I panicked. Sorry. I don't have anyone to phone in RL before I know what is going on . So it is not looking good I don't think . They still acnt tell me what he is there for or if he has been arrested . I don't really worry about him going out as he was always a pub person - going out for hours on end and lots of friends so I assumed he was pissed , broke lockdown to spend time with one of his mates. Not condoning anything or defending anything. Did not notice car gone til just now. Bloody hell

Would they really detain overnight for something as relatively minor as that though, particularly given lockdown and social distancing etc? Hand hold here too op

I really really hope that you hadn't seen the drink-driving update when you posted this!

I'm really so sorry op. What a terrible shock. Try to rest and be comforted that you know he's not hurt and is safe. Hopefully, you will be able to get whatever happened sorted. Keep us updated.

Try and get some sleep if you can OP, i know that’s far easier said than done but it’ll be harder in the morning if you’ve been up all night. He’s safe, that’s the main thing. Everything else can wait until tomorrow.