Thanks all you lovely mumsnetters.
Thought I owed you all an update.
Lease has been extended for another 5 years. I'd wrote out emails to both of my old friends telling them they had 2 weeks notice but didn't send them as wanted to check on field condition further before doing so.
So up I went and who should drive past and stop but friend and her husband. First time we've seen each other for a year!
We ended up having a huge row! My old friend and I were shouting at each other and the husband trying to calm things down.
My friend said she was upset I'd not spoken to her, I was upset she had just been sending her husband to sort things out and making it worse.
To cut a very long argument short.. We were both crying and upset as well as angry. I didn't realise I hadn't been there for me when she needed me as I had so much going on. Husband was like 'sort it out - you've obviously both got the wrong end of the stick and miss each other'.
They agreed to everything I'd said about issues with the horses and me doing everything but said I'd only had to ask.
The other friend sold her horse the next day so that was one less thing to have to sort.
So we've agreed they can stay, I've sorted out another friend to put her horse in as company for old friends horse and they have said while I'm looking for a horse for myself I can use theirs if I so wish or in time take her over myself.
As I already know the horse really well and have missed her too this is a good solution as their daughter is meant to be going to university this year.
They have said they will replace what they took or broke and sort out the field however I want it.
So maybe if one of us hadn't off been so stubborn or I'd of been a bit stronger in our friendship it wouldn't of got so bad. I think they just didn't realise how much I was having to do and thought I was happy to do it. And I suppose I do have to admit to being a slight control freak and wanting everything done my way..
So it's a strange outcome perhaps.. But I've got my field back, I have a horse I can hang out with and ride that I already know and love and hopefully now I feel able to stand up for myself more when I'm treated wrongly. My friend and I can now start rebuilding our friendship on more equal terms.
They get to keep their horse where they wanted it and they know if they do decide to rehome or sell it I would give it a good home.
There were tears and appologies all round and I've finally been able to relax about the whole thing.
I hate drama and conflict which is why perhaps I tend to let people walk all over me.. But I've leant it's better to speak up and get it sorted at the time rather than let every thing thing fester.
So a happy outcome all round I think.
Much love and thanks to all of you who commented xx