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Outraged

140 replies

Thepigeonsarecoming · 21/05/2020 03:30

Is this the most overused word on Mumsnet which isn’t heard in RL? What other words or expressions do you only hear on here? (Lighthearted)

OP posts:
Alsohuman · 22/05/2020 10:11

I want £1 for every use of “selfish” in the last two months. Nobody I actually know ever says it.

WorraLiberty · 22/05/2020 10:13

'Lighthearted'.

Literally no-one in my life has said "Worra, I'm going to tell you something now and I'm being lighthearted".

Thank God

Lily193 · 22/05/2020 10:15

'Give your head a wobble' along with snitch/snitching, spendy and judgy - no one I know has ever used any of these once.

overnightangel · 22/05/2020 10:21

Narcissist. Everyone knows one even though it’s very rare.
Gaslighting. It’s usually nothing like gaslighting

Exactly this

reallythislong · 22/05/2020 10:22

slightly off point but there are quite a few reactions/thought processes that only exist on MNs.

So it's outrageous to accidentally not pay for something eg cashier doesn't scan an item & if you don't march back & pay the cashier could lose her job & it's your fault if she ends up in poverty.

However never ever report a benefit cheat as that makes you scum.

Expecting any help from grandparents with childcare is entitled & rude & you shouldn't even moan about it.

Offering under asking price of a house is worse then murder.

Things like a poster says she's putting out her washing at 6pm & sees a weird shadow in the garden. Poster is "called out" for putting washing out at 6pm so clearly a disgusting person.

MarshaBradyo · 22/05/2020 10:27

Screamed
Everyone’s ‘screaming’ for things to happen, apparently.
That’s just overuse rather than only on here

I only see here ‘gaslighting’ on here

Emetophobia used a lot

ThisNameisaKeeper · 22/05/2020 10:27

"This. With bells on", "Give your head a wobble" and "entitled"

SerendipityJane · 22/05/2020 10:32

Can't believe 108 posts and only one mention of fuming !

Did you mean to be so rude ?

Even since I discovered the world of Mumsnet, I have been patiently waiting to be asked that (I don't suffer fools gladly. Life's too short.) just so I could answer a calm, measured "Yes" - possibly after a slight pause to emphasise I'd really thought about it.

But sadly, that day has yet to come.

OohThatCat · 22/05/2020 10:36

I cannot stand "fuming" or "raging" - the latter conjures up images of me in a mosh pit aged 17

Kraejka · 22/05/2020 10:38

I can't stand it when a poster comes on asking for advice and someone writes:
"What did they say when you talked to them about it?" knowing full well the OP hasn't talked to the person about it and it's probably not that easy to do so.

I also can't stand all the "If I were you I would"... type of posts. We all know the person posting wouldn't take a hammer to the DH's playstation or chuck him out on the street for some minor wrong-doing.

Can't stand all the "I've got anxiety" posts either. I hate the way so many people self-diagnose themselves with anxiety. It is a serious mental health issue. It's not just being a bit worried or nervous about something. It takes away from those who are really struggling.
Ditto "I'm a bit autistic". "I'm a bit OCD" etc.

Alsohuman · 22/05/2020 10:38

Same here @SerendipityJane. I’m longing to assure someone that rudeness was indeed my intention.

PorridgeStoat · 22/05/2020 11:04

@Kraejka yy to the "I would have" (or even "I would of"). So you'd leave a partner of 10 years over one argument would you? Or shout at a guy who leers at you when you're 8 months pregnant? Hmm

Cruddles · 22/05/2020 11:39

Anxiety. There's a lot of anxiety sufferers on here

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 22/05/2020 12:36

There are usually no surprises on these threads. But to find a PP - or anyone anywhere, for that matter - who has a problem with establishing healthy adult boundaries says more about themselves than anyone else.

Maryjane3227 · 22/05/2020 12:41

Haha. Yeah. Teachers are not good enough. Nor are the government. Neighbours are even worse, and don't get me started on the in laws. Friends... can't trust them.. Everyone is totally inadequate for failing to live up to my standards (other than me of course). Grin

Godzillasonice · 22/05/2020 12:44

I use “vile” but say it in the style of a posh actor. I never use it seriously.

I know loads of people who say they are fuming.

Fuss · 22/05/2020 13:34

Every time I read 'Outraged" I go straight to Boosh and Tony Harrington:

SerendipityJane · 22/05/2020 15:02

The technological marvel that is Facebook has a group I stumbled into called "Angry People In Local Newspapers" that seems to be some sort of proving ground for MN posting keywords. But certainly people are left by turn "fuming", "disgusted", "shocked" and "outraged".

People seem unduly excised by potholes too.

Jen4813 · 22/05/2020 16:28

“What did you expect posting on AIBU?!” Maybe not have abuse hurled at you for asking a question? Blush

Jen4813 · 22/05/2020 16:39

Got called “an old fishwife” on a post today for joking that OP should kick out her DH for being a cock - still giggling at FISHWIFE Grin

ThisIsHappening · 22/05/2020 17:08

This one isn't really lighthearted, but;

'Abuse', that term is thrown around far too readily on here!

'DP said he wasn't keen on the beef stir-fry I made for dinner last night'

  • WHAT AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE ARSEHOLE, HE'S TRYING TO MAKE YOU FEEL INADEQUATE. LTB!

'DH had a go at me for spending £1000 from our joint savings on a designer handbag without discussing it with him'

  • HE'S FINANCIALLY ABUSING YOU, HOW DARE HE HAVE AN OPINION ON HOW FAMILY MONEY IS SPENT, HE DOESN'T OWN YOU. LTB!

'DH has told me that he's not comfortable with me texting my ex and that he'd like me to stop'

  • HE'S TRYING TO CONTROL YOU, THAT'S ABUSE. LTB!
WaterOffADucksCrack · 22/05/2020 17:26

People replying to someome with a husband who forgot to wash the pots with "he's a narc".

Competitiveness about who's wedding was the shittest.

"Wow just wow" makes the writer look like a wanker.

"Are you very young" instantly makes me think they're old and bitter!

"You sound....." always followed by an insult!

WaterOffADucksCrack · 22/05/2020 17:28

Oh and posters thinking they're hilariously witty for saying "are you on glue" and calling people "covidiots". It makes me embarrased for them.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 22/05/2020 17:36

Lily - Judgey is very much used in our house m usually when describing the cats Grin

Under my breath I use I so don't think so CuntyChops usually when I'm driving and hoping the other driver cannot lipread . (Until I meet someone who can)

Alsohuman · 22/05/2020 17:46

Got called “an old fishwife” on a post today for joking that OP should kick out her DH for being a cock

That wasn’t why I called you a fishwife. Nor was the word “old” mentioned.