FIL gave my 10month old cofffee

[Louisana]

I am absolutely raging ! My FIL gave my 10month old black coffee! Luckily I saw it an quickly grabbed DD away. I was very angry at the time so just stormed off with her because had I not I would've been very rude and didn't want to be.

AIBU?? How on earth is it ok to give a baby black coffee.

I have a feeling he has been doing this for a while. As he has said it before like "ooo let's have a sip of coffee Shal we" but I always thought he was joking and wouldn't give it. But after seeing today I think he's been giving it all along!

Is this now going to affect my child? What do I do?? I'm a first time mum so very worried

You’re being really confrontational OP. You asked the question. You either want to know or you don’t. Fair enough, people making assumptions is annoying, but you’re jumping on everyone who says something you don’t like. If this is how you are in real life then I’m not surprised you’re butting heads with your FIL tbh, and it’s also why this thread is going the way it is.

Was it caffeinated or decaf? Very important question. ☕️

Oh dear

When my 2 were little my DM would offer them the spoon she’d stirred her cappuccino with to lick the froth.

They’re teenagers now suffering no ill effects, over 6 foot and with cute memories of their lovely nan who they lost 5 years ago.

Chill out.

@DontStandSoCloseToMe loooool your actually hilarious 😂😂 he has a partner to whom I refer to as MIL. Is he not allowed to move on? 😂😂😂

I only read the first page... is this a joke? Are people joking? What’s a sip of coffee going to do to anyone? Relax OP. PFB, I assume?

Just ask your FIL not to give her coffee please as she’s too young. What a palaver over nothing.

After your recent posts, I'm starting to feel sorry for FIL. Are you always this angry, OP?

Meh. My in laws endlessly feed them all sorts of crap. A few years and kids down the line you kind of chill about this stuff. It's annoying sure but a bit of coffee won't do much.

Unless it was an espresso I'm sure all will be well. Not so many generations ago children of that age would have been drinking tea out of a sip cup - not joking! - and didn't come to any harm.

If you think about it there are plenty of young children seen drinking coke (even toddlers) which I'm sure is far worse for them in terms of caffeine hit not to mention the sugar....

@saraclara I must say yes I am. I feel
Sorry got FIL too what a nightmare he's living for free. Has a roof over his head and food to eat. Wow he must be living in hell 😂

Why are you texting your FIL, OP? Can't you just go and talk to him?

Has a roof over his head and food to eat

And coffee to drink!

still wondering if it’s decaf or not but doubt we’ll ever know

OMFG. A&E at the very least, possibly even an ambulance. Also SS for grandad. Actually, that's an under-reaction. I think you should call the police. Also cut contact for ever with your in-laws and possibly consider leaving your husband too.

Calm down dear!

I wouldn’t phone the GP or HV, black coffee isn’t a nice flavour for a baby I don’t think. She won’t have had more than a sip and I can’t see it would do any harm. Your FIL is a total arse though, what is he thinking?

You live with him but instead of going into the room he's in and speaking to him you texted him. He moved in with you when MIL died but she died long before you got with your partner. Get your story straight and stop being so angry.

why are you saving to move out if FIL and StepMIL (who your DH refers to as mom) moved in with you? Surely it would be FIL moving out?

We’ll talk about a rookie effort, this is shameful OP, shameful.

DO YOUR PREP IN FUTURE!

You really did fall at the first hurdle. I’m biting my knuckles for you 😬 off you pop! Name change and try again next week.

I don't know why you would be raging and your baby will almost certainly ingest a lot worse than a sip of coffee but I , too, would find your FIL's idea of a joke unfunny.

@Louisana OP you're not being truthful at all here, are you. I don't doubt the coffee story but the rest regarding your living arrangements is made up completely isn't it. FFS if you're going to lie, at least change your name.

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Fuck me the hysteria on this thread is hysterical.

Calm down huns. It’s coffee not cocaine.

calm down 'huns' 🤮

FIL living in hell?

I would say so.

Most children wouldn't take more than a sip - coffee has one of those flavours that children just don't like so I very much doubt your baby would have more than the tiniest amount.

Really no need to panic.

Sooo, FIL tells you dd has had a sip of his coffee, you say nothing about it, so obvs he thinks it's ok? Until today when you throw a mental at him.

Nothing to flip out about, just communicate better.

@Louisana sorry people are being shit.
He should not have done that. Of course he’s done that before and he’s not going to admit it in text, it’s human nature to deny it.

Sit down with him and DH and tell him he is not to give her anything you don’t know about or agree to, if not he can move out.