FIL gave my 10month old cofffee

[Louisana]

I am absolutely raging ! My FIL gave my 10month old black coffee! Luckily I saw it an quickly grabbed DD away. I was very angry at the time so just stormed off with her because had I not I would've been very rude and didn't want to be.

AIBU?? How on earth is it ok to give a baby black coffee.

I have a feeling he has been doing this for a while. As he has said it before like "ooo let's have a sip of coffee Shal we" but I always thought he was joking and wouldn't give it. But after seeing today I think he's been giving it all along!

Is this now going to affect my child? What do I do?? I'm a first time mum so very worried

There’s a lot of hysteria here for a sip of coffee. Ring the health visitor or GP for advice? What a waste of their time.

And snatching your baby and storming off? That’s also pretty rude and an overreaction.

If you don’t want the baby having sips of coffee just say so: “please don’t give her coffee, she’s too young, she can have it when she’s older.” It doesn’t need to be a huge drama.

Has anyone suggested logging it with 101 yet?

Slackers.

It sounds a bit like he needs to be the boss. If he wants to continu living with you he should keep to your rules. End of.

I was brought up abroad in the tropics as an older child and it was regular practice there to give small babies whisky in their milk to make them sleep all night, even as a child I was amazed none of them died!!

I'm not surprised he's offended you're being completely over the top. I'm more up tight than most but even by my standards this seems barmy

spartacus oh I had forgotten baby aspirin, a great step forward for the pharmaceutical industry and home medication . I used to sneak the odd one too - bless the days before child proof containers eh?

Yes, you knew you were ill when your parents splashed out on a bottle of lucozade. The cellophane wrapper had a very distinctive taste when you licked it too - because playing with the wrapping , looking through it, folding it up, trying to make glasses for your teddy, and licking it was a necessary part of the cure.

Exactly eveyone is missing the point. At no point did I say I was going to contact GP or any of the sort.

It's his attitude in this matter. If he was joking which I'm not sure he was it's the fact that he's disrespecting the things I ask of him for my daughter. Why do it if it winds me up jus to be horrible ?

My husband was given whisky on a teaspoon when he was a baby, apparently. It doesn’t seem to have done him much harm.

It sounds like you're a bit at the end of your tether with him @Louisana. Is there other stuff he's doing that's winding you up?

What a storm in a coffee teacup.

Jeez, it was a sip of coffee, tbh baby probably didn’t like the taste anyway and will have just dribbled it out - ridiculous to waste the time of a health visitor or GP for this 🙄

I know you weren’t planning to do this OP but others were suggesting it

I had to fend my FIL off from giving my four month old wine and beer. He thought it was funny to give babies alcohol and that I was 'boring'.

Could that be a thing? I've never had a sweet tooth either

I don't know. But they do keep saying that make a child like something awful like vegetables, you have to keep giving it them multiple times and they'll learn to like it.

As I was so small, I don't know what came first (but going by my mother's recommendations for feeding babies when I had mine, it was likely to be Farley's Rusks, Heinz Baby Apple Sauce and Chocolate Pudding, Chocolate Readybrek and mashed up tinned carrots/marrowfat peas in potato) - for her to be giving me tea and coffee so young, I can't see why she would think 'Hmm, babies need sweet stuff all the time. I'll give her bitter drinks' unless I'd repeatedly tried to get my hands on them and liked them instantly.

MN does make me understand why it’s impossible to get a GP appointment. (I know you aren’t going to contact one OP but it was suggested to you at least twice on the first page).

He offered a sip of coffee to 10 month old and your now saying you would never leave baby alone unsupervised with him again??? I bet baby has eaten worse of the floor. Or sucked some unclean toy. YABU.

Many moons ago, when DC was a baby DM put her finger in her whisky and let DC lick it.

Naturally, he's a raging alcoholic at 10.

Seriously, it's not ideal but it's not the worst. Did you never get the froth of your dad's beer as a child?

you knew you were ill when your parents splashed out on a bottle of lucozade

Ha! Yes. And baby aspirin was all there was for kids. And my mum rubbed brandy on my gums when I was teething. Older babies and toddlers had milky tea (plenty of caffeine in that) in their bottles too. I remember one being left for me (as a teenaged babysitter) to warm and give to the baby if he woke up.

OP we know that you weren't considering calling the doctor. The comments about that are aimed at the worrying number of batshit posters who seem to think you should.

If you don't relax then you'll have a tough number of years to come... you'll end up making yourself ill over the smallest things. Learn to let go, and don't hang up on the small things. You're coming across very intense.

Yabu. You over reacted even if he did give her a tiny sip. He was teasing you. Now you have made it clear you don’t like it, hopefully he won’t do it again. Let it go.

*Louisana

@DontStandSoCloseToMe you guessed wrong. Again don't assume just ask the damn question. FIL lives with us!!! He moved in when MIL passed away.

Poor man not only are you overreacting but he's a very recent widow too.

@louisana

Well if he was being honest that she was only putting her lips on the rim of a 3/4 empty cup and that she's never drunk it, then it's no big deal, is it? My 8-month-old is obsessed with anyone drinking from a cup or bottle and will put her lips on any bottle or cup she can get hold of. Doesn't mean she'd actually drink what's inside though. I don't mind letting her suck on the rim of a nearly empty bottle I'm drinking from.

So it really boils down to what you believe. You know him better than we do so none of us can tell you whether he's telling the truth or not!

@DontStandSoCloseToMe again don't assume just ask the damn question!!!!! He is not recent widow his wife died well before I even got with DH. God sake