FIL gave my 10month old cofffee

[Louisana]

I am absolutely raging ! My FIL gave my 10month old black coffee! Luckily I saw it an quickly grabbed DD away. I was very angry at the time so just stormed off with her because had I not I would've been very rude and didn't want to be.

AIBU?? How on earth is it ok to give a baby black coffee.

I have a feeling he has been doing this for a while. As he has said it before like "ooo let's have a sip of coffee Shal we" but I always thought he was joking and wouldn't give it. But after seeing today I think he's been giving it all along!

Is this now going to affect my child? What do I do?? I'm a first time mum so very worried

Even if it was a joke he knows I don't find stuff like that funny.

Maybe you should lighten up a bit then.
Seriously the hysteria on MN always is the case, not just now) is ridiculous. It's a fucking sip of coffee, can't believe people think medical attention is required 😂 Im certain all the children of mumsnetters will thrive very well in the bubble wrap they are wrapped in.

What bollocks

@Louisana you certainly are very angry and are being quote vile to other posters. I've also searched your name and your story doesn't add up, if you are gonna lie maybe name change first

Mid C20th my grandmother babysat my older cousin and told the parents afterwards that the baby had slept fine due to a bit of gin slipped in with the milk in the bottle. Never trusted to babysit again!

If you catch the two of them playing cards with the whiskey and fags on the table I would say definitely no more babysitting for him.

Meh. As soon as your child is mobile she'll be putting a lot worse than that into her mouth.

I do hope it wasn’t instant. lol

This thread is hilarious! Unclench and breathe OP. It's is lick of coffee, not crack.

Imagine if it was Kopi Luwak coffee.

Not only coffee but coffee shat out by a monkey.

I see your froth and I raise you a meltdown.

Op lives next door to FIL, very much alive MIL and also a SIL.

This thread is too funny. But the mad lies have put the icing on it.

Op lives next door to FIL, very much alive MIL and also a SIL.

Naughty naughty OP. Have you forgotten we are not supposed to mix with other households or wish our MILs dead ?

But in your other thread you talk about your DH saying he will talk to his mum.

And they live next door.

So actually you have been visiting ILS throughout lockdown, yes?

Why? Aside from the virus issues, they are arseholes and this would have been the perfect chance to distance yourself......

It's not a big deal. When my first born was around 10 months old my DF gave him a sip of coffee from a tea spoon. Babies are like that. They try and taste everything. My Dc hated it and never asked again for coffee. That's how they learn..

Black coffee's just the start, it's like a gateway drug really. If you're not careful she'll be necking 20 espressos a day before she's 2.

Why are you mixing households during lockdown? And a sip of coffee isn't going to do any lasting damage, for goodness sake. Calm down. Maybe stop breaching lockdown regulations and then your FIL won't be able to treat your child to a daily caffeine shot.

Mid C20th my grandmother babysat my older cousin and told the parents afterwards that the baby had slept fine due to a bit of gin slipped in with the milk in the bottle

DH's grandad used to put whisky in warm milk for him at bedtime. There's a story in our family that my dad put a teat on a bottle of babycham when I was teething. I'm pretty sure it's made up. I hope so anyway!

Please don’t phone already stressed/overworked medical staff about this, please don’t.

I'm sure baby will be fine, I remember when DC was 7 months old, PIL gave him a heaped spoon of marmite and I went through the roof. Spent the evening giving him sips of water, couldn't sleep at all.

oh you absolute drama queen, !!!!. A little bit of coffee on her lips, WOW daughter in law from hell comes to mind.

What’s wrong with marmite? The salt? Mine were pretty much weaned on marmite sandwiches. They’ve made it to near adulthood unscathed.

@Louisana Perfect answer to your problem, just don’t leave your child alone with FIL! That way he will actually be unable to do the things you are accusing him of. If he is such a shit father and grandfather why on earth would you allow him to move in with you?

However you do say that he moved in when MIL died, long before you got together with your DH!

Your answer when someone pointed out that your MIL was alive in February - “So if my DH takes her over to MIL” - was that ‘MIL’ wasn’t actually MIL, but FIL’s DP! Okay, possible! However on same thread (remember, less than 3 months ago) you also said “I have just spoke to DH about this and he just said let's do it a step at a time. He said he's going to have the conversation with his mum first and then see how she responds and we can take it from there.”!! So now you are telling us that not only is MIL not actually MIL, but DH’s mum isn’t actually his DM, she’s his DF’s DP. I don’t know many men who would refer to their DF’s partner as MUM! Or who would allow their father to move in when you tell us that “He never raised DH was never there for him as a father.” Plus on top of that you and DH then allowed him to move a new partner into your house as well!!!

You are either a saint or, shall we say, telling a few porky pies??
Will leave other pp’s to make their own judgement on that.

I do hope it wasn’t ...

... instant

Calm your tits down. It’s not cocaine.

how green was myvalley

Coal? If you wanted crunchy you should have tried cat biscuits like I did Bit of an odd after taste, but slightly more nourishing than coal .

• I do hope it wasn’t ...

... instant*

Or, even worse, Camp!