FIL gave my 10month old cofffee

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I am absolutely raging ! My FIL gave my 10month old black coffee! Luckily I saw it an quickly grabbed DD away. I was very angry at the time so just stormed off with her because had I not I would've been very rude and didn't want to be.

AIBU?? How on earth is it ok to give a baby black coffee.

I have a feeling he has been doing this for a while. As he has said it before like "ooo let's have a sip of coffee Shal we" but I always thought he was joking and wouldn't give it. But after seeing today I think he's been giving it all along!

Is this now going to affect my child? What do I do?? I'm a first time mum so very worried

Was it coffee or crack he gave the baby? Baby will be fine, a sip of coffee will have hardy any caffeine in it, a Chocolate bar would have more.

Speak to your father and law, apologise about snatching and over reacting and explain you'd not like this to happen again.

Ask him not to do it again.

Don't choose this hill to die on.

My mum (former nurse) used to chop up half an adult aspirin and mix it Into a bit of jam if we had a temperature.

My granny's recipe for a child with a cold involved rum, hot water and jam (again) .

Nearly all babies were started on "solids" like baby rice and farleys rusks when they were about four or five months old. They were often "held out" over the toilet for a poo from a very early age, and would be plonked on a potty from the moment they could sit up.

Each generation changes they way they rear their children, each generation thinks they have the answers . The kids survive.

The past is a different country, even lucozade was something you had when you were really poorly, not something you drank if you thought you were an elite athlete running out of electrolytes.

It sounds like he was just joking/ play acting and wouldn't have actually given her coffee. Either way huge over reacting and once again why do people live with their in-laws only to complain and get irrationally worked up, I'm guessing it's their house you live in, rather than them living with you? You know the easiest thing to do, live in your own home.

Your FIL is a dick. Don't apologise to him.

I'm always surprised that people accuse mothers of babies of overreacting or being precious. It seems a particularly goady thing to do, especially on a parenting forum. Go poke a mother bear, see how that works out for you.

@Fedhimtotigers correction he's dependent on me and DH. He is living with us. So
I don't need to watch my attitude in the slightest. It's my child so it's my rules of what I'd like my child to have or not have. He should respect that.

I can't believe there's a 5 page thread on a sip of coffee! OP, there will be no minor or serious side effects from this. In the nicest possible way you need to chill out a bit or the toddler years will be hellish for you!

@DontStandSoCloseToMe you guessed wrong. Again don't assume just ask the damn question. FIL lives with us!!! He moved in when MIL passed away.

Not great but calm down everyone
People are reacting like dc was sitting there with her own cup of coffee! A sip, probably just a taste on her lips more than a sip won't have harmed her. It's idiotic behaviour though so just tell fil never to do that sgain

There is a significant amount of hysteria on this thread.

Fwiw, you would know about it if your dc had had any coffee.

I was in a coffee shop with ds when he was about one. He picked up and licked the spoon I had stirred my coffee with that had lots of coffee froth left on it. So had maybe a quarter of a teaspoon and was bouncing off the walls for a good couple of hours afterwards. Not unhappy, but very jittery.

He is six now and totally fine.

The issue here is not the coffee. It's the crossing of boundaries and disrespect of op's wishes in what goes into her dc's body at such a young age that is the issue.

In that respect, yanbu. It's small boundary pushing crap like this that leads to the total undermining of parents by gps, and holding firm on those small boundaries makes it easier in the long run to hold firm on the big ones.

viques, your post brought back some memories for me! I was always given lucozade when poorly (funnily enough, my mum was also a former nurse), and I have just remembered that the slogan used to be
“lucozade - aids recovery”. The past certainly is a different country

I haven’t accused the OP of being precious...just the posters who responded with overblown suggestions like ‘omg, go and bother busy medical staff with this bollocks’.

My first full sentence was ‘I want a cup of tea’
True story.

Maybe it was decaf?

I am going to drop a bomb:
There is caffeine in chocolate.
Most kids have had caffeine before they had coffee.
A generation of Costa heads in the making.

Presumably your FIL raised your DH with little problem?

Tell him you would rather she didn't drink coffee. End of.

*My mum (former nurse) used to chop up half an adult aspirin and mix it Into a bit of jam if we had a temperature

At one time, aspirin was all there was. That's what we had, even as small children. I used to sneak them sometimes because they were sweet-ish and fizzy. I alos remember 'babt aspirin' - they were small, orange and sweeter. I used to stral those along with my mum's 'sweeteners'; ghastly things that she used to put in tea and coffee to make her slim.

@cdtaylornats FIL never raises DH actually.

I imagine he was just playing and you've misread it.
I wasn't there so can't say but sounds like a typical grandad playing around to me.

I really doubt she was really drinking it but I can imagine my dad pretending to and probably making pretend slurping sounds all as a bit of fun.

Of course it's going to be hysterical.

On MN if you wean a day before 6 months or don't bother trying bf you will be going to hell...

@whyayepetal i was also given lucozade while ill by my mother (doctor). 😬

OP calm down
Its a tiny bit of coffee. Maybe don't be so nasty to your FIL as well, storming off and all that over this is ridiculous.

Just ask him nicely not to do it again anf if he winds you up about it say jaja very funny but seriously though, please dont.

@Raaaa haha very true.

Even if it was a joke he knows I don't find stuff like that funny.

Iv said this to him before it's not funny an it winds me up. He should jus respect that an not make them sort of jokes. He's very careless as it is. He never raised DH was never there for him as a father.

I think you need to calm down a bit OP. Baby will be fine, it was a tiny bit. Just say to FIL, I don't want baby to have anything except [whatever] until [whatever age] please.

But honestly, it isn't going to hurt. Only on mumsnet do people treat caffeine as though it's crack. And maybe it was decaf anyway?

My baby has had a cup of tea once a day since she was weaned. It's very weak, it's unsweetened, and it's just one. I can confirm she is completely normal... But apparently I'm Satan.