FIL gave my 10month old cofffee

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I am absolutely raging ! My FIL gave my 10month old black coffee! Luckily I saw it an quickly grabbed DD away. I was very angry at the time so just stormed off with her because had I not I would've been very rude and didn't want to be.

AIBU?? How on earth is it ok to give a baby black coffee.

I have a feeling he has been doing this for a while. As he has said it before like "ooo let's have a sip of coffee Shal we" but I always thought he was joking and wouldn't give it. But after seeing today I think he's been giving it all along!

Is this now going to affect my child? What do I do?? I'm a first time mum so very worried

Totally agree with @Miljea. The hysteria on this site is something else these days. I honestly can't believe that people are suggesting calling a GP, talking about growth being stunted and all manner of gruesome outcomes. Seriously, it was a sip of coffee, not brilliant but not the end of the world.

Back in the day if this had happened, we would've said oh dear and carried on with our lives.

If you’re texting him then I presume you don’t live together. I’d be more worried she’s caught COVID from him if you’re meeting up with him and not distancing.

FIL is an idiot. Would the baby not spit it out, though? I'd think a baby would find the bitterness very unpleasant.

I think she'll be fine, just keep an eye on her for the next couple of days and tell your husband that it's his job to either talk some sense into his dad or just flat out tell him he can't do that again.

Presuming the OP is in A and E now. Once upon a time mothers would put a bit of whisky in a bottle for niggly babies, they all survived. Oh and gripe water once had alcohol in it

I’d be fuming too, it indicates he is prepared to give your child other dangerous stuff or has no common sense and can’t be trusted

Seriously, calm down. Just make sure it doesn't happen again.

@Marnie76 we do actually live together which I have already stated. I would not be going out to meet anybody during this pandemic especially when I have a daughter. So don't assume and ask directly !

Left PFB with sister in law while I went for my six week check up. On my return she told me my EBF baby had been hungry so she had fed him sugar water.😱
She never babysat, ever again.

@HyacynthBucket No, we just have common sense. It's a small sip of coffee in a weaned 10mo which she might not even have ingested. What do you think a GP is going to suggest?

She’ll live :) chill out ask him not to do it again. No need for histrionics.

Did she like it?

Contact the GP?!! Seriously don’t do that. fGS.

@MuthaClucker - I do hope it wasn't instant. 😂😂😂
Now, that is the proper Mumsnet response 😀

My FIL gave mine tea before, not ideal I know. But I would suggest yours will be fine and just make sure you make it clear he will not be doing it again

Did he say sip but may be just made her smell it? My DH does that and my now 22 month old who typically refuses any milk drinks milk shots and calls them cappuccino.
If she had a sip, no harm done. Just have a cool sensible but stern talk with father in law. The meds we give little ones, the crap they put in their mouths are more "dangerous" than a sip of coffee. Please try not to overly stress. There is a lot that will happen and that others will do with your baby (am not talking abuse) that is imperfect and you won't like. If you blow your top each time your baby will have an overanxious, overwrought mum and that's no good. You might even find yourself with no support when you need it as people fear offending you. Am a ftm too. I know it was a heat of the moment reaction but try to chose what to blow up about

Massive overreaction. I would do nothing about this at all.

Calm down will you.

I would not let my teenagers drink black coffee let alone a 10 month old. You have every right to be upset. Even if there were no health issues the point is that it is your child and your wishes regarding diet should be respected.

Why are so many people on here going "He'll be fine"? Are you all doctors, do you know what you are talking about? If I was OP I would definitely phone GP surgery and ask advice at least. i cannot understand how glib some posters are about things they know nothing about

Well, my GP surgery wouldn't let me speak to a doctor on the phone if I called, so the only advice would be from an unqualified receptionist (not taking anything from receptionists, but they are not able to give medical advice).
And the child had a tiny sip, IF that. Most babies that age would struggle to drink from an adult cup, and would also most likely spit out the bitter coffee right away.
Of course, if it makes the OP feel better she can ask a medical professional.

Hyacinth you would phone your GP in the middle of a pandemic to ask about a sip of coffee ? I cannot believe you would seriously do that .... the hysteria on this thread is pathetic.

I drank tea and coffee as a young child. Not great. But it just was. I think your fil got the message op. I cannot imagine he is giving late quantities of the stuff.

I remember when my MIL couldn't understand why we weren't giving our daughter some chocolate buttons to suck on at Easter. She was 3 months old at the times!
I'm sorry OP, FIL is massively in the wrong and you need to tell him.

Sorry yes I missed that. I’m sure she will be fine if it was a tiny amount. But yes I would be very wary of him looking after her alone if his judgement is this off.

Years ago when dd1 was a baby she loved tea. My mum would give her tea in her bottle.

Poor child was deprived, my Mum would add whisky to my bottle

You've overreacted. I'm assuming she's your first.

And also if you live with him are you dependent on him for a home for yourself and your child?

If so I would watch your attitude.