Best CF Stories

[CupcakesAndCastles]

Lockdown sucks, what’s the best CF stories you’ve read?

[CostaDelCovid]

@Notquitenorthern

These have really entertained me over the last couple of days! Mines nowhere near as bad but Dsis has a CFer habit of being generous but with other people's time and money. I dont think shes deliberately taking advantage, shes just always been immature for her age and a bit thoughtless. Shes also charming and charismatic so her behaviour gets overlooked/enabled. Anyway favourite examples...

Dsis comes to visit me at uni, she obliterates my student budget raiding the fridge and dropping half eaten packets of crisps in bin but I'm happy to see her. Plan a fun day of activities but she insists we go to this out of town mall. Spend the day feeling poor and trailing after her whilst she goes on an absolute spree. When she leaves the day later she smiles sweetly and presses a fiver and some change into my hand "From mum". When I call to thank mum for the fiver it turns out Dsis had actually been given a sealed envelope containing £80 from parents to top me up till the end of term.

Some years on, we're both working, Dsis living at home but earning reasonable NHS wage. Me living 5+ hours away on crap charity wage. Dads bday, we arrange to have a nice weekend, I'll drive down and cook nice meal one night and parents will treat us to meal out the next night. So I spend 70 odd on petrol, spend ages picking out gifts and making a really nice dinner, generally try to spoil dad. Dsis gets him nothing. Head out to restaurant next night, and Dsis announces "Me and NotquiteNorthern will pay! As a birthday present!" I dont want to be the tight git that points out I've already spent a lot on presents so I cough up, particularly annoying as I'm the only one not drinking and Dsis ordered steak!

Living in a touristy area popular for outdoor sports. Dsis says she will be passing my way to see a friend, could she visit? Only a couple of days notice and Im going to be working but I say would be lovely to see her and shes welcome to the futon for a night if needed. "Great, we'll be there for dinner". Hang on who's 'we'? She turns up at MIDNIGHT with new bf and random friend I have never met, all set for a sporty weekend away together. She proceeds to fanny about setting up extra bed and asking for more towels etc. Next morning I find her in the kitchen packing up the dinner we'd made the night before and raiding the kitchen like its bloody Tesco. "Your spare room is too small, we didnt sleep well at all so we will have to go to a hostel. Self catered so we're just getting a few bits". DH wisely distracts her with breakfast before shepherding them out the door with a (much reduced) care package.

she smiles sweetly and presses a fiver and some change into my hand "From mum". When I call to thank mum for the fiver it turns out Dsis had actually been given a sealed envelope containing £80 from parents

PLEASE tell me you confronted your sister!?!?

[glasgow357]

@wishfull888

A "best friend" setting me up with her husbands best friend on a blind date & preparing me for how blown away I'd be by this perfect guy. He was bisexual ( leaning more towards gay ) she knew & didn't tell me. CF.

Eh? Why?

[Oreservoir]

@Gillings. Tbh I think your dh over reacted. I’m surprised you agreed to moving.
My dm was terrible when df left, took od’s etc.
Nobody moved home for her. She had to learn to cope and did. Eventually your mil did the same and would have done whatever.

[Shoxfordian]

@Notquitenorthern
Your sister was stealing from you, I hope you didn’t just shrug all this off as her being immature and that she’s not still taking advantage of your good nature

[Gillings]

[quote Oreservoir]@Gillings. Tbh I think your dh over reacted. I’m surprised you agreed to moving.
My dm was terrible when df left, took od’s etc.
Nobody moved home for her. She had to learn to cope and did. Eventually your mil did the same and would have done whatever.[/quote]
I completely agree. I wasn't in the right frame of mind and thought if we didn't support her then she would genuinely take her life, she had suffered from depression before. In hindsight, the move wasn't necessary.

[KihoBebiluPute]

@Gillings it might be that your DH said things like "it will be so helpful if you can do a bit of childcare" and "ah we were planning to move out of the big city anyway, it's not a great place to raise kids" - minimising the magnitude of what you both were doing for her. I have definitely seen this in action in equivalent kinds of situations.

[Notquitenorthern]

@costadelcovid @shoxfordian
No, I didnt confront her because I found out through my DM who laughed it off with "Oh she is such a naughty monkey, haha!" I was really upset but as I said DM does tend to enable her behaviour and always try to keep the peace, so she insisted I didnt say anything. DM very kindly sent me some more money and gave Dsis a gentle ticking off. I'm wiser to her behaviour now, and even parents are less tolerant as shes pushing 30 and her lack of consideration is not so easily glossed over with a bit of ditzy charm!

[Raindancer411]

Mine is when my sister was getting married she asked me to be a bridesmaid. She then took me and the bridesmaids shopping as she wanted to have the final say in what we all wore. None of us matched so looked more like normal guests. Then on the day she told me I had to do my own hair and makeup (although she had booked to someone to do this for her). Now I don't wear makeup so I had no clue so just did mascara. Was too late to go and find a place to have my hair done at this point.

Then when it came to my wedding this was all forgotten and she pleaded poverty over being able to afford her dress and hair etc to be done.

I even let them decide on the designs of the dresses and paid of alterations. I just asked they they stuck to my colour scheme.

I was the bigger person in the end and paid for their dresses and hair and make up to be done on the day to save any arguments as I can never do right in the family 🙄

Luckily my husband and friends all see this so it at least makes me pleased that I am not the issue and expect more than I should.

[Cheeseandlobster]

@Raindancer411

Mine is when my sister was getting married she asked me to be a bridesmaid. She then took me and the bridesmaids shopping as she wanted to have the final say in what we all wore. None of us matched so looked more like normal guests. Then on the day she told me I had to do my own hair and makeup (although she had booked to someone to do this for her). Now I don't wear makeup so I had no clue so just did mascara. Was too late to go and find a place to have my hair done at this point.

Then when it came to my wedding this was all forgotten and she pleaded poverty over being able to afford her dress and hair etc to be done.

I even let them decide on the designs of the dresses and paid of alterations. I just asked they they stuck to my colour scheme.

I was the bigger person in the end and paid for their dresses and hair and make up to be done on the day to save any arguments as I can never do right in the family 🙄

Luckily my husband and friends all see this so it at least makes me pleased that I am not the issue and expect more than I should.

I dont think its cf behaviour to expect bridesmaids to do their own hair and makeup though

[moanieleminx]

Do people really make bridesmaids pay for their own dresses? I would never do that.

[TurquoiseDragon]

@moanieleminx

Do people really make bridesmaids pay for their own dresses? I would never do that.

It's not normal in the UK, no.

[BashfulClam]

It’s CF to expect bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses!

[HarrysWife]

@BlueThistles no, apparently she wasnt and Im remembering wrong, she just left the thread :).

[billybagpuss]

[quote HarrysWife]@BlueThistles no, apparently she wasnt and Im remembering wrong, she just left the thread :).[/quote]
I’ve seen differing reports that she was and wasn’t a troll, impressive trolling if she was.

Does anyone want a new thread we better open on soon.

[Gillings]

[quote KihoBebiluPute]@Gillings it might be that your DH said things like "it will be so helpful if you can do a bit of childcare" and "ah we were planning to move out of the big city anyway, it's not a great place to raise kids" - minimising the magnitude of what you both were doing for her. I have definitely seen this in action in equivalent kinds of situations.[/quote]
Not to the best of my knowledge. However, even if that were the case, MIL did not make any significant contribution to childcare except doing the evening nursery run 10minutes round trip) on weekdays. We were certainly not planning to leave the city for the next 5-6 years at least. But I guess I can imagine why in her head she probably thought she was 'helping' us out. It wouldn't be too bad if she wasn't going around telling everyone that she was!

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

@moanieleminx

Do people really make bridesmaids pay for their own dresses? I would never do that.

Yes, they do.

I didn't mind paying half for the dress when I was bridesmaid for a good friend, but I was annoyed at having to pay for my own hair being done at the hairdressers, because that was basic torture for me. Dress - I was keeping it, it was nice, I could use it again - fine to pay towards. Hair - given the choice, I would have done my own and not paid. I did my own makeup.

[ladymary86]

Not as bad as others but...
Years ago we had a small house party for my brothers 21st. Just family and my brothers and a couple of close friends. Beteeen my sis, me and my mum n dad we put our party food etc but drinks were BYOB.
One of my bros friends from school rocked up with his new gf with a bottle of Stivy's Kola Kube and gave this to my DB as his bday gift. The pair of them then took the bottle back and started to drink it. When that was finished, they then went into the kitchen and started helping themselves to cans of cider and other drinks that others had brought.
They knew fine well it was BYOB. My Bro in law pulled him aside and pointed him in the direction of the nearest off license where he could get drinks for him and his gf if he wanted any more. My DB was so embarrassed.
This was all before he suddenly developed Tourette's half was through the evening and then started "ticking" the most foul, random sexual comments while sat next to my DGran.

[HepLaurenceLB]

New thread for Cf stories part 2.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4151131-Best-CF-stories-part-2?watched=1

[Andylion]

Think about this for a moment. What was your neighbour supposed to do - knock on each door to show them the card? And, whatever her reasons for not contributing (which might have been that she was hard up) she could hardly say to the old lady's grieving daughter, when thanked for the flowers 'Oh, those were nothing to do with me.'

She could have said, "Oh lovely mn neighbour organized the flowers. I'll be sure to pass on your thanks and the card".

[BlueThistles]

[quote HarrysWife]@BlueThistles no, apparently she wasnt and Im remembering wrong, she just left the thread :).[/quote]


aaww thank goodness.... I followed SoftZilla right up until the Police got heavily involved ... I do hope she and her family are doing well and are safe 🌺

[Notimeforaname]

Theres a second thread going on for this BlueThistles this one is almost full.

[LittleSilverBird]

@Notquitenorthern

These have really entertained me over the last couple of days! Mines nowhere near as bad but Dsis has a CFer habit of being generous but with other people's time and money. I dont think shes deliberately taking advantage, shes just always been immature for her age and a bit thoughtless. Shes also charming and charismatic so her behaviour gets overlooked/enabled. Anyway favourite examples...

Dsis comes to visit me at uni, she obliterates my student budget raiding the fridge and dropping half eaten packets of crisps in bin but I'm happy to see her. Plan a fun day of activities but she insists we go to this out of town mall. Spend the day feeling poor and trailing after her whilst she goes on an absolute spree. When she leaves the day later she smiles sweetly and presses a fiver and some change into my hand "From mum". When I call to thank mum for the fiver it turns out Dsis had actually been given a sealed envelope containing £80 from parents to top me up till the end of term.

Some years on, we're both working, Dsis living at home but earning reasonable NHS wage. Me living 5+ hours away on crap charity wage. Dads bday, we arrange to have a nice weekend, I'll drive down and cook nice meal one night and parents will treat us to meal out the next night. So I spend 70 odd on petrol, spend ages picking out gifts and making a really nice dinner, generally try to spoil dad. Dsis gets him nothing. Head out to restaurant next night, and Dsis announces "Me and NotquiteNorthern will pay! As a birthday present!" I dont want to be the tight git that points out I've already spent a lot on presents so I cough up, particularly annoying as I'm the only one not drinking and Dsis ordered steak!

Living in a touristy area popular for outdoor sports. Dsis says she will be passing my way to see a friend, could she visit? Only a couple of days notice and Im going to be working but I say would be lovely to see her and shes welcome to the futon for a night if needed. "Great, we'll be there for dinner". Hang on who's 'we'? She turns up at MIDNIGHT with new bf and random friend I have never met, all set for a sporty weekend away together. She proceeds to fanny about setting up extra bed and asking for more towels etc. Next morning I find her in the kitchen packing up the dinner we'd made the night before and raiding the kitchen like its bloody Tesco. "Your spare room is too small, we didnt sleep well at all so we will have to go to a hostel. Self catered so we're just getting a few bits". DH wisely distracts her with breakfast before shepherding them out the door with a (much reduced) care package.

DH wisely distracts her with breakfast before shepherding them out the door with a (much reduced) care package. Brilliant

[tinyme77]

To keep the post going...very minor. Social smokers. Maybe a thing of the past but it would really annoy me that on a night out when I would splash out on cigarettes, rather than roll ups, that people would ask for one. They would never offer anything in return and would never buy any. It clearly isn't about the value. It is putting you in a situation where you can't say no but you know that you will never get anything back. Used to give me the rage.

[Lorddenning1]

Never had the last line on a thread before