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How many of you have broken lockdown rules?

465 replies

vulvic · 09/05/2020 17:27

I'm just wondering. I thought the vast majority had stuck to it but seeing more threads and hearing more stories, it seems there is a lot of people still seeing close family.

Anyway, I'm in the Channel Isles. Still in lockdown but slightly easing.

I'm not interested in shopping, garden centres or more exercise. I'm not even interested in socialising or catching up with friends.
I just want to see my mum.

I think it's badly affecting her mental health now as she was depressive anyway, and my DS is struggling having not seen her for 2 months.

So, I'm just wondering, have any of you still been seeing close family? Or were you sticking to it and now given up and started visiting? Or are you encouraging to stick firmly to it for as long as possible?

I've been a firm sticker to the rules but now starting to feel the negatives are outweighing the positives but still completely paranoid.

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Menora · 09/05/2020 19:49

@isabellerossignol

This is so ignorant. How do you think people in care homes manage to pick up the virus?

The staff usually.

Teddypops · 09/05/2020 19:49

@Luckylavendar. ODFOD

Tell me where the risk is on sitting on a beach? We walked there.

Apart from our friends who we sat approx 3 or 4 meters from we went near no one. Touched nothing. Tide had just gone out where we sat.

Many people drove to the beach from other towns. They were more in the wrong than us.

Elmerrrrrrrr · 09/05/2020 19:51

My opinions are based on the fact I am a former mental health professional, current domestic violence professional and also that several family members and friends work in frontline NHS services.

Genuinely though - if you think anyone who breaks lockdown rules should be denied a ventilator if required, why would you not also think that smokers, alcoholics and the obese should be denied treatment?

Elmerrrrrrrr · 09/05/2020 19:52

And i don't see how that is goady tbh.

longtimecomin · 09/05/2020 19:52

I drove 30 miles to see my mum, I sat in her garden a safe distance away, had some essentials in my car in case I got stopped ie toilet roll bread milk etc. It was lovely, I've done it twice now

Thebearsbunny · 09/05/2020 19:53

There aren’t many decent walks where I live, plus they are always very busy so have occasionally driven to another area to exercise. Probably drove too far today though.

StoutDrinker2019 · 09/05/2020 19:53

We have so far but next weekend my parents will drive two hours and stay at our house for the weekend. We've got genuine family reasons for this but also we've been isolating separately for 6 weeks and so the only risk we pose is to each other. We are, as a family, prepared to take that risk. Its time for us all to start coming to terms with living with the risk of covid as individuals and families. This is our first step in doing that.

isabellerossignol · 09/05/2020 19:55

@isabellerossignol

This is so ignorant. How do you think people in care homes manage to pick up the virus?

The staff usually.

No, it's not. It's simple maths. If hardly anyone in a particular area has the virus then very few people have it. People can't spread a virus that they're not actually carrying.

I did say that I'm not suggesting it's fine to just go about your business as normal. We still need to stick to the rules for the greater good. But there is no point having sleepless nights worrying ourselves sick because we need to go food shopping when in reality we're very unlikely to catch it.

LipsyGirl · 09/05/2020 19:55

I shop twice a week instead of one. I could shop once a week but it gets me out for 30 mins.

I also walk past my parents house so they can wave & my DS, I’m not sure if that’s breaking lockdown rules.

I’ve also been taking 2 hour walks instead of 1 sometimes. I’m finding this pretty hard

Littlecaf · 09/05/2020 19:55

Stuck to them 90% of the time. The only thing I have done is taken the DCs our for their scoot/bike ride as their exercise but it’s not really enough for me so later on I’ve gone for a run/cycle to actually get some exercise. We live in a large village so it’s easy to socially distance.

Whenwillthisbeover · 09/05/2020 19:56

I go to my mums a few times a week & sit in the garden, she sits in the house with the windows open and we talk. She Lives two streets away so I combine it with my daily walk. She lives with my Alzheimer’s dad and brother with LD. Her life is shit, so I don’t think half an hour from fifteen feet away is a life changer, except from a positive perspective.

PhilCornwall1 · 09/05/2020 19:58

and what if everyone did that? I suppose you feel you have a right to a ventilator.

Oh what is it with a right to a ventilator business, it's not done on a fucking scoring system on how good you have been!!

You're fucking right I do and make no bones about it. You have no more right than me, or anyone else, just because you think you've done your penance so much better than anyone else.

xQueenMabx · 09/05/2020 19:58

I've been to drop things off to my parents 3 times I think. They are not shielded but are in their 60s so I'd rather they weren't going out to pick up prescriptions and things. I usually do have a chat from the end of the driveway though while I'm there.

Other than this I'm sticking to the guidelines exactly, it's just not worth the risk.

VerticalHorizon · 09/05/2020 20:00

People can't spread a virus that they're not actually carrying.
Define 'carrying'?

People can transfer the virus without them being infected.

luckylavender · 09/05/2020 20:01

@Elmerrrrrrrr - the beach would be very crowded, the virus would spread & we would all be more at risk.

AnPo · 09/05/2020 20:01

I've stuck to them religiously, more than required really, but I intend on breaking them this week.

I'm going to travel more than two hours to see my mum.

TinRoofRusty · 09/05/2020 20:02

and the obese shouldn't receive treatment for cellulitis, gout and diabetes?

Or cancer, many types of cancer are correlated with obesity.

Badhairday101 · 09/05/2020 20:02

@Menora
The cases at care homes are mainly due to people being discharged from hospital back in to the community, which in this case is the care home.

Bugslydoo · 09/05/2020 20:03

I’ve been going to my nans- to help her change her duvet cover and cut her grass& deliver and put her shopping away, but this is classed as care for a vunerable person I think!? She’s 85, and has her eyesight isn’t great because of cataracts and she has mobility issues because of arthritis

VerticalHorizon · 09/05/2020 20:03

If hardly anyone in a particular area has the virus then very few people have it.

This is misleading too. We don't know how many have it, but we do know plenty have it without showing significant symptoms.
If you happened to live in an area with a predominantly young population, many of them could be carrying it, but be asymptomatic. Without testing, we wouldn't know.

luckylavender · 09/05/2020 20:04

@Teddypops - they were more in the wrong than us. Well that's ok then. Stay at home, means Stay at home. We need to get the 'r' number down so that we can start to live again. We've all made so much sacrifice but I guess you're just special. Makes me very angry actually.

TheMagiciansMewTwo · 09/05/2020 20:05

We've stuck to it. We've been out once since lockdown started to drop food at DM's and we dropped it and then waved at her from over 6 feet away. Otherwise, we've only been in our house and garden.

changeagainandagain · 09/05/2020 20:06

We have stuck to the rules, and I'm actually wondering why we've bothered. After this weekend on social media. It's making me sit on the fence, and join in the masses and say bolloks to this, but my other side is so stubborn and I'm thinking god no!!

VerticalHorizon · 09/05/2020 20:06

Transmission into care homes isn't any one thing. It can be brought in via staff, theoretically through materials, and definitely through patients returning to a care home having tested with a false negative, or not been tested at all.

VerticalHorizon · 09/05/2020 20:07

We have stuck to the rules, and I'm actually wondering why we've bothered. After this weekend on social media. It's making me sit on the fence, and join in the masses and say bolloks to this, but my other side is so stubborn and I'm thinking god no!!

Because what you have done HAS made a difference.