How many of you have broken lockdown rules?

[vulvic]

I'm just wondering. I thought the vast majority had stuck to it but seeing more threads and hearing more stories, it seems there is a lot of people still seeing close family.

Anyway, I'm in the Channel Isles. Still in lockdown but slightly easing.

I'm not interested in shopping, garden centres or more exercise. I'm not even interested in socialising or catching up with friends.
I just want to see my mum.

I think it's badly affecting her mental health now as she was depressive anyway, and my DS is struggling having not seen her for 2 months.

So, I'm just wondering, have any of you still been seeing close family? Or were you sticking to it and now given up and started visiting? Or are you encouraging to stick firmly to it for as long as possible?

I've been a firm sticker to the rules but now starting to feel the negatives are outweighing the positives but still completely paranoid.

[ghostmouse]

I've broke them from day 1

Dp and I live in separate houses a mile from each other. He has spent most of his time at hours but goes home twice a week to sleep. He lives alone and doesn't see many people any way.

Been to the shop to get non essentials, the range is open so I got paint and paint brushes and also fence paint. I did however pick some food up from Iceland there which is in our local range.

I live in Wales and our lock down rules are different. We are not supposed to drive to exercise unless you have a disability or caring with someone with a disability or to prevent illness.

My daughter has autism so I drove to a local park and had a walk round with her as it's much quieter and remote there. The abuse I got from 2 women when I got back in the car was awful even when I pointed out that I wasn't breaking the rules there they still didn't listen. My daughter hasn't been out since because it scared her that much and now things are horrendous at home.

I don't think I can hold out much longer. I feel like jumping off the nearest bridge. Wales is going on for another 3 weeks.

I'm going to meet my mum later. Under Welsh guidelines of course. No more than 2 people accidentally meeting in a park.

[SallyB392]

I think we broke the. Rules since day 1, we go for a long walk with our dog in the morning which sometimes takes longer than an hour (I use crutches and sometimes I have to sit down before carrying on), and my DH takes her out for literally 5 mins in the evening.

Our justification. Is that we don't see anyone else so are neither at risk nor placing others at risk.

[luckylavender]

@cantata - no they're not. Your chances are reduced by passing at 2 metres, not eradicated. Sitting for a long period of time will greatly increase the risk.

[Notmyrealname855]

Totally stuck to it... at first it was a novelty, but then our area got really badly hit. I worry about peoples MH, because some are struggling with lockdown but we now have more MH issues with people unable to kick corona :( it’s a really, really hard and challenging slog. So that’s made all of us a bit stricter. We’re in Cumbria, assuming not all areas have such bad cases

[RosesandIris]

I’ve heard this from several elderly people. I know of one lady who is 71 and adores her grandchildren. They are here life. She’s been in isolation on her own since lockdown began but is begging to see her grandchildren. She says she would rather catch the virus than live as she is. I completely understand. It’s very hard for elderly people living alone anyway, to be completely alone for weeks and weeks and weeks when you are frail is just horrendously cruel.

[zigaziga]

To compound my treachery, I also visit my 84 year old father every Monday. I take him food and spend an hour, at the furthest past of his lounge, chatting to him. Tbis is the only contact he has with the 'outside world'. He is horrendously lonely and tbh, If I pass it on to him and he dies, at least he dies happier than he would be.

The only person I know who is completely breaking lockdown ie carrying on pretty much as before is a 90 year old. He still sees various different family members most days when they pop by (I think it adds up to about 4 “households”).
He can’t use the internet, isn’t good on the phone etc .. He’s very clear that he would rather die than cit himself off from those he loves.

Don’t blame him really.

[Comefromaway]

Dh went and say with his mum whilst his dad attended a vital medical appointment. She has dementia and cannot be left alone at all.

Dd drove us to collect the in laws shopping for them so mil could see her as we dropped it on the doorstep. It meant a lot to her.

I’ve been seeing my parents quite regularly as I just moved house and am part way through a kitchen refit so I have no freezer. I’m using a spare freezer in mum’s garage but I also work for my parents company, and although we are all trying to work from home we have had to meet occasionally to pass on files or sort out computer problems. We are in construction so technically we could all meet up at the office if we keep distant.

[Janaih]

Definitely a valid reason @Coulddowithanap sorry for your loss

[WaxOnFeckOff]

That was never a rule.

Depends on where you live I think.

[Coulddowithanap]

Broken then to spend time with my dad, my mum died so feel that is a valid reason.

[PrincessConsueIaBananaHammock]

been out for more then an hour for exercise

That was never a rule.

[Aloe6]

I’m seeing an attitude change amongst neighbours, starting to have friends over again. Even the people who were quite frothy at the suggestion of mixing a few weeks ago.

I’ve mixed with one other household too for various reasons, although kept 2m apart from each other.

[cantata]

I don't get why people think it's ok to sit 2m apart for a period of time with people. It's 2m apart if you're going to pass someone in a street or stand in a queue. Not sitting for a whole afternoon

That's because your chances of transmitting or picking something up are exactly the same in all these situations (assuming you were sitting 2m apart and in the garden/park/whatever).

We just need to apply common sense, really.

[LovelyIssues]

Everyone I know had broken it. Met people outside, been in friends or families gardens, been out for more then an hour for exercise, been to the shop for non essentials, drove somewhere more picturesque for "exercise" etc

[RosesandIris]

My son has just ranted at me because OH and daughter have gone out to get me a birthday present. Apparently it’s non essential!

[Ablemaybel]

DH gets the shopping. I went to Tesco a couple of days ago, 1st time since 21st March. Strange experience.

I speak to DM daily on the phone, as she can't face time. She was 87 back in April. I drove to her house approx 20 miles, with present and card, dropped them at her door, knocked then sang happy birthday from the end of her drive. She's shielding so the only people she sees are neighbours dropping shopping. She was so happy to see me, I'm glad I did it.

That's the closest I've come to breaking the rules, but I never at any time came into contact with anyone, I was far more than 2 meters away from DM for the 15 minutes or so that I was there.

[Scruffyoak]

Stuck to the rules and it won't work unless people do.

[Calm33]

I have not.
It has been very hard and like some I lost a dear friend who was dying from cancer, I wanted so much to jump in the car and go and give her a hug, she was closer than family.
In being forced to stay at home I do feel as though I have gained an inner peace without the hustle and bustle of daily life.

I have had very slight symptoms that seem to be getting better then return, my doctor informed me that he has had a lot of his patients have the same and it has lasted more than 4 wks. I was told when the last symptom has gone count 7days. Its been a nightmare trying to get food but it is not for me that I have stayed in. I realised after talking to my doctor that there may be people that carry Covid19 and do not know, or maybe ignoring their slight symptoms, so yes I have obeyed the rules just to keep others safe.

The young girl in Scotland that seemly had a kidney infection after going to the doctor and went to the hospital that night, was kept in for observation and the following day her kidneys and heart were failing and she tested positive for Covid19.
Perhaps they should inform us of all the 20-40 year olds that have been admitted to hospital and how they leave in a wheelchair and have to learn how to speak or walk again. When Covid19 attacks the young it is not so easy to recover from and leaves scar tissue on organs.

On a lighter note my hair has to be kept up with a scarf around to hide the roots as it is looking UGH...

[InTheShadowOfTheMushroomCloud]

Until yesterday morning I haven't been out of the house except to walk 5 mins to my allotment.

Yesterday my DH drove me to get our click and collect shopping. I didn't need to go but I fancied a five minute escape. I didn't get out of the car until we got home.

I realized I hadn't been in the car for over seven weeks. I had a panic attack....

I haven't been to see any of my relatives ...they haven't been to me. Not even sat outside or a wave as passing by.

My DH is a keyworker and will still strip off tonight when he gets in, he will put his clothes in his bucket and go straight up to shower. No kiss hello or cuddle until he has done so.

When we are allowed to socialize I think I am going to find it difficult...


So no....I haven't gone against any rules.and I think I will be continuing the original rules for a while longer. My business has collapsed and is one that will be the last to be reinstated so I have nothing to lose now...

[IceCreamAndCandyfloss]

FrenchFancie, I wish we’d had the same lockdown. It would have been so much better for our numbers and maybe then people would have taken it seriously rather than what we have now were many aren’t following lockdown.

[sunnybean60]

The people who don't care are simply selfish and they actions speak louder. If they were trying to protect a vulnerable family member they probably would care enough to behave responsibly. They don't care about the NHS workers who are on their knees and they don't care about those who this virus is a killer to either. My aging mother is lonely too but she understands and comes from a tougher generation who lived through some pretty hard times.

[Bluesheep8]

I don't get why people think it's ok to sit 2m apart for a period of time with people. It's 2m apart if you're going to pass someone in a street or stand in a queue. Not sitting for a whole afternoon

[Bluesheep8]

Stuck to it. Only go out once per day for a walk and pick up shopping at the same time if needed. Haven't seen my 70+ mother who lives 2 hrs away.or my father in a care home. It's hard but it's what I have to do.

[FrenchFancie]

For those saying it’s unworkable you should try living abroad where the rules are stricter and there’s huge fines for breaking them!!
Until last week I had to get text message authorisation from the government to leave my house, €300 fine for not having this authorisation. Only one text a day will be authorised so you have to plan your ‘trips out’ carefully. There’s little to no supermarket etc deliveries so if you go to the supermarket you can’t go somewhere else. Curfew at night. Everything (parks beaches churches schools etc) shut. Oh and my family are back in the uk and we’ve had to come to the realisation that we won’t see any of them in person for months on end.
But.... it’s worked. Our infection rate is way way down (under 10 new cases a day, only 10 deaths in total). If you scale up for population to the size of the U.K., had lockdown been as fast and as strict, you’d have had maybe 650 deaths in total and only about 5,000 - 6,000 total cases.
Yes it’s been hard but as we don’t have a spare €300 kicking about for the fines, we have stayed the hell at home except for once weekly supermarket trips. I have an only child who is doing her but being at home but 🤷‍♀️

[Poliann]

I've sat in my mum and sons garden a few times over the hot weather, never in the house and always 2mtrs apart for about half an hour each time. It was for my own mental health and helped me a lot, sorry, not sorry.