Reported neighbour now potential backlash, was Ibu?

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For context the house next door to me in a back to back, the one at the back is a housing association house who currently has a male tenant, he comes and goes. Last summer he was smoking weed in the garden whilst my children were playing and I asked if he could put it out which created some animosity.
He's currently having a party with 4 other people, loud music etc.
I reported it via the 101 website.
Police have been out and asked them to turn music down, they all said they lived there and the police left.
I could hear him once the police left something about 'stupid cunts next door' and 'I'll pop windows'.
I'm scared now! Wish I hadn't done it.
Wibu?

Sadly many people are nasty and unpleasant and consider it their right to break the law and make others lives a misery. The landlord should evict them report him to them

people who refer to snitches and grassers are part of the problem in areas where criminality has fucked over civic duty

100% true. Cowards keep quiet because they’re frightened - it’s not some kind of brave loyalty.

Is it really ‘bang out of order’ for people to have a party from time to time?

Yes, it’s an inconvenience if a neighbour has a noisy party but if it’s not a daily/weekly occurrence, can’t we live and let live.

You come across as a bit of a twat. I knew I was unlikely to agree with you the minute you mentioned ‘housing association’ as though that supports your argument that the neighbour must be trouble.

The landlord should evict them report him to them

The landlord is an HA. People saying "they should be evicted", we'll perhaps they should, but I'm sure anyone who actually works for an HA (I work with lots of HAs) will tell you, eviction is a lengthy process.

That’s fine candyfloss - that’s how you feel and it’s understandable.

On this one, I don’t feel compelled in that way myself. I don’t care about weed and occasional parties. Plenty of people aren’t really observing social distancing at work, in the supermarket, in public spaces, on the bus etc...there’s much flouting going on deliberate, careless and accidental.
It wouldn’t occur to me to pinpoint a neighbour to take a stand against.

Well its done now,I doub he will do anything.Personally I would not have reported him

You NC'd to comment on someone living in an HA property? Gosh that's original.

People saying smoking weed in your own garden. Hello, it stinks and the smell of smoke passes on as it blows in the wind. My neighbours smoked it like it was going out of fashion and the smell was horrendous. Now they have stopped and believe me, its better now as we could never have the windows open as it would even linger in our lounge.

You are definitely not being unreasonable. I would report them again if they come near your house. Are you on your own, do you have a partner at home with you who can pretty much tell them to get lost if they do come to the door. Hopefully he was all just mouth and no action!!!!!

Is it really ‘bang out of order’ for people to have a party from time to time?

Ordinarily no. In the middle of a lockdown that is a response to a pandemic that has cost over 30,000 deaths - hell yes. The more flouting of lockdown there is the harder it is to get cases down. A party under normal circumstances is annoying. Under present circumstances it’s potentially killing people.

You should report him to the HA. They will have a massive waiting list and if they have a log of anti-social behaviour from him they can make him forfeit his tenancy.

Exactly, there's a huge shortage of homes, why has a single man,( who displays anti social behaviour) got a HA flat when there are families in desperate need?

I think it was harsh telling him not to smoke in his garden. I think you need to move rural where neighbours are scatterd

Always choose your battles and forward plan if it's worth the battle should it turn nasty.

If it had been 3am, I might have had more sympathy, OP, but music at 11pm on a bank holiday weekend isn't a big deal, unless they've got a floor-shaking sound system or something.

Most police forces won't do anything about a bit of weed for personal use and reporting a group of 4 for breaching lockdown is a bit petty. I think YWBU.

Try not to worry about what he said, he was probably just venting.

Police have been out and asked them to turn music down, they all said they lived there and the police left.

How do you know what was said? Did the police contact you afterwards or were you standing in your garden listening?

If the weed smoking was a year ago, I'm not sure what the relevance is to the party.

Did they keep the music down after the police had gone?

Maybe if more people reported breaches of lockdown, we’d be out of this mess sooner

I doubt if the small fine people get (when they get fined at all) is that much of a deterrent, tbh.

I hate snitches and grassers.

And this is the attitude that allows bullies to carry on bullying. That allows criminals to keep on committing crimes. And, right now, that continues the spread of a virus that is actually killing vulnerable people.

I’ve come back to apologise for my earlier comment questioning whether a party is bang out of order. I had a momentary lapse and forgot about the lockdown situation and was thinking about parties in normal times

Nobody likes a grass, not sure what you expected.

A party under normal circumstances is annoying. Under present circumstances it’s potentially killing people.

Bit dramatic isn't it, it's hardly a party with 4 people. Op, choose your battles in future.

If the police were that bothered then they should have checked the id of the people to see where they actually lived.

It always makes me laugh when people say ‘why didn’t you ask them to turn the music down’ as if they are completely reasonable people who will say ‘oh I’m terribly sorry, I had no idea it was a problem. I shall turn it down instantly.’

Our neighbour over the road used to play music so loud it would make the windows at the back of the house rattle. If you asked him to turn it down he would threaten you.

The police knew they didn’t all live there. It wouldn’t have been hard for them to check. They just didn’t give a fuck because it’s petty

If he was partying every night and disturbing the peace then fair enough report him, but for a one off, I think you've been quite petty, and wasting police time. Noise is all part of urban/suburban living. If there is already animosity between you, he probably has a fair idea it was you, or maybes he know the people who actually live next door to him would speak to him before calling the police. I agree with the pp - what has the fact that he is a HA tenant got to do with anything?

I confront a neighbour smoking drugs in the garden without hesitation. It’s illegal and it makes me fell ill breathing in their fumes. When I lived in London I had a druggie living next door and during one of his crazies due to this he set a tree alight in the garden next to my house. I was alone that day with two toddlers and a baby on the way. Thanks to my previous reports they had a record of his behaviour and he was evicted immediately. Taking drugs in the UK is illegal and that some think it should be legal doesn’t change the fact.