Anyone in their 40's have advice for anyone in their 30's

[Annamaria14]

You know they say that life begins at 40. I have been worrying and stressing quite alot in my thirties, I have been imagining myself in my forties, caring less about what people think, happier, wiser.

I am 36.

What advice would the 40+ year olds give to the the 30+ year olds on here?

Look after your teeth, and if you already do, look after them more.

Stop caring about what other people think if you. It’s fine for people not to like you, and it’s fine not to like everyone.

Thank you everyone 💕💕💕

Be mindful about the way you spend your time and money
Do the things you want to do now /asap

I’m happily turning 38 this month and this thread is great! Lots of lovely positivity!

Love love love this thread!

I'm 35 and feel like I'm hurtling towards 40.

Nurture the people who love and support you, those who let you thrive. Withdraw from those who don’t. Realising this was a life changer.

We’re not rich at all, but comfortable. 🤞. There has come a time where I have realised that I would rather have more time than more money. I applied fir a promotion recentjy, didn’t get it, and my overwhelming reaction was “phew! I can stay part time”. I’m far from lazy, but am realising that my tween children need me as much now as they did when they were babies.

There has come a time where I have realised that I would rather have more time than more money

Yes, yes, yes

Start valuing your time more if you don’t already. You might feel it’s easy enough to do things for people but you can easily slip into the trap of using all your time making other people’s lives easier and better while sacrificing your own. Don’t be taken for granted.

Also, go here! Why am I only just finding out about places like this now...

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Yes, there are 40 somethings who can’t touch your toes - or at least I couldn’t with straight legs until I started daily lockdown yoga :)

Start saving if you! Be it for a pension, house deposit, whatever, it is best to save rather than spend as soon as possible. More importantly, do whatever it takes to be happy. Your 40-something you will really envy the 30-something you, so enjoy it as it goes very quickly!

*If you can

Enjoy your life and let go of hurt and pain. Forgive and love. All the crap (hurt) that holds you back just steals from you. Before long you realise you are old and you can’t go back. Life goes too quickly. If you have kids love them and know they will grow up and leave. They don’t remember much of being young. Embrace them while you can. Move forward. Let go of people that hurt you. You don’t need them and they waste your time and energy. Get outside and soak up the beauty of our world - before it’s destroyed anymore. Learn to love you. In fact this is the first thing you do, then all else follows. Love being you. You only get one chance in life. Let all the other crap if how to be and what to own and have just go. No one really cares about materials.

Your body is probably the best it’s going to be so realise how attractive and confident you are. Cherish your friends and cultivate your relationships.

Exactly what @ButterflyWitch said. To the letter.

Plus: nobody owes you anything, and nobody is coming to save you. Both of these may sound negative, but are in fact excellent news.

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/global/2019/feb/13/people-are-happiest-at-ages-of-16-and-70-in-uk-says-study

Interesting UK survey based on ONS data.

Suggests that subjective “happiness” declines from early 20s until 60s!

My main issues in 30s were sleep deprivation, work and parenting tiny DC, relationship issues.

In 40s am in much, much better physical and mental health (have prioritised this, also no pregnancy/birth/fertility issues now!). Still find work/parenting FT v hard, parenting older DC much easier but haven’t yet hit the harder teen years! Poor social life in both decades, which worry about for the future.

New challenges to do with ill health of parents etc.

Exfoliate & moisturise everywhere at least once a day (including your feet).
Lose your weight now, keep it off develop healthy routines.
Reduce your red meat consumption
Don't stay in a relationship if you're not happy.
Stop worrying about what other people are doing.
Make a 5, 10, 15 year plan for career, health and travel.
If you want a baby do it now don't wait for "the one".
Don't be afraid to start all over again.

I couldn’t touch my toes with straight legs at 18 (I’m long in the leg and fairly short in the arms)...I can roll up from flat in Pilates without using my hands though so heigh-ho.

Yoga might be a good plan regardless.

I’m almost 40 and I would echo:

• have DC with someone who’s at least a nice bloke;
• sort your pension;
• if you have DC get life insurance and write your will.

A month or so after I turned 40, a friend that I had known since primary school died; she was born later in the year than me- and so didn't make it to 40. It made me realise every day is a gift - and who cares if my roots are showing or my house isn't the one I envisaged myself living in, my career isn't going as smoothly as I hoped. I have a family I love, a roof over my head, I earn enough that I can afford what I need (food, bills etc). That's enough!

I’m pretty flexible but can’t run for toffee. Apparently the main problem as folk age is not being able to get up after a fall. So practice that when you’re older!

I am loving this thread and saving it to come back to I the future.

I agree @StripyHorse