Anyone in their 40's have advice for anyone in their 30's

[Annamaria14]

You know they say that life begins at 40. I have been worrying and stressing quite alot in my thirties, I have been imagining myself in my forties, caring less about what people think, happier, wiser.

I am 36.

What advice would the 40+ year olds give to the the 30+ year olds on here?

When you're 30 you still feel one of the 20 something's :) and can just about hang with them.

When you are 40(s), you realise you r old enough to be the 20 something's parent and then not only do you realise you are now officially middle age/old, but you also gain some wisdom and sense of security that you actually do have some life knowledge and the youngsters (especially at work) could do with a bit of your support and guidance.

30 is in the middle of young and a proper adult! At 40 you become a proper adult!! And can start to let go of the search to be skinny and youthful!

Been thinking about this for ages.

Turned 50 in March.

I'd say:

1. Be kind to people. Judge less. Help more.

1. Use facial oil.

1. Accept your friends and family, flaws and all, and if you really can't, get rid. Trust your own judgment on this.

1. Exercise even if you hate it. it's so important and helps with your mental health no end.

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Be proactive to get what you want and need. Look after your teeth and eyes, teeth are expensive and painful if something goes wrong and your sight is precious so protect your eyes from the sun to prevent cataracts.

Grey rock dnyoneebo tries to treat you badly and don’t give 2nd chances as life is too short.

I love this thread! I’m 39 so paying attention to make the most of my last 6 months!

If you will want a career change, start the classes now.

Take no shit, definitely.

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Oh god and moisturise your hands!!! My hands look so so old.

Be truly happy with yourself, what ever that means to you. Relax about yourself and let go of what you think others think about you.

Save more into your pension.

Teach yourself that being alone is fine and relationships are overated

Start yoga or pilates so you can still touch your toes when you hit 40

This one surprised me - are there really 40 year olds who can’t do this? (Assuming no health problems / injuries etc)

I’m past 50 now, but I’d say, look after your skin (moisturise your body and face); give up alcohol; sunscreen-yes; pension- yes; keep learning and make keeping in touch a priority.

Also, if you still have your parents, spend time with them- they could be gone in a flash .

And yes to yoga!

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Start yoga or pilates so you can still touch your toes when you hit 40

This one surprised me - are there really 40 year olds who can’t do this? (Assuming no health problems / injuries etc)

Me too - surely not?

I wouldn’t put it all in a pension, I’d use half or two thirds to overpay my mortgage ....

Following, with interest. Great tipswich.

Take it easy on the alcohol.

Take care of your health NOW. As you get older, all the bad lifestyle choices you have made start to catch up with you.

Check your breasts, go for health checks, watch your alcohol intake, look at your diet and supplements. Your body stops being so forgiving after a certain age!

Arh, thanks for the reminder of the Sunscreen song, love that!

Sex on a first date, really can be a good thing.

Needed this thread today

It's ok to be yourself and don't change anything to please someone else

One other thing: don't regret your mistakes. A bad relationship teaches you what to look for in a good one. Or gives you kids you don't regret. Whatever you did 'wrong' is part of who you are now and how wise you become. So forgive yourself every cock-up you have made up to this point.

It’s true that now in my late 40s less shits are given about the small stuff. So ...

Prioritise health and fitness. If you’ve let it slide in your 30s, then take control in your 40s. You can definitely be way more attractive in your late 40s than when you were 15 years younger.

Get rid of excess weight by getting rid of the tosser you married and thought you should stay with for the kids or some such rubbish. You’ll be happier alone, and if you want to find someone new he’ll be 1000 times better than your ex.

Rediscover yourself. You’ll have time in your 40s as the kids are getting older. Learn a new craft or hobby, start on that career change, be the interesting person you remember from 20 years ago. Try new things.

When the world becomes big again, travel.