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To worry when My friend says she's a light worker??

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sttropezlegs · 04/05/2020 08:50

Name changed, but frequent poster.

Close friend of mine has started a fbook group and invited me in. In this group she has started doing videos and appears to have a number of followers now. In this group and in videos she claims to speak to spirit guides (including princess diana!!) and calls herself a light worker

I have never heard her talk of any of this before. We live a far distance apart so granted, most interaction between us is virtual so it is fair to say, I don't know all that's going on with her and don't claim to. She's just never mentioned anything like this before. We speak weekly, sometimes more.

This area is something I know nothing about, and I'm worried by the videos.

Is this a real thing?

OP posts:
NewYearNewTwatName · 04/05/2020 09:33

When open mindedness means princess diana dead sole decides to picks a random to talk through, guide and fleese vulnerable people. That is when my open mindedness stops. My mind then recognises a Fool or a Fraud.

LuluBellaBlue ever heard the saying.

"So openminded your brains fall out" ?

BertiesLanding · 04/05/2020 09:33

Your friend has wholeheartedly embraced the New Age. It's a phase that lasts until the illusion that you can "love and light" your way out of everything stops, or is shattered.

NekoShiro · 04/05/2020 09:35

They're like teenage girls playing with aa ouiji board, I wouldn't mind them to much, she's probably looking for something that makes her feel safe right now aand this is where she's ended up.

I wouldn't say shes a con artist, it's true that there are con artists under the guise of mediums but some people genuinely believe they have aa gift, there's that magazine called psychic for like £1 that you can buy full of pick this card to see you future type stuff, tips and tricks on how to 'tap into your power' 'how to talk to your spirit guide' pages and pages of stories about people talking to their guides or how an angel helped them out of bad situations,

So I wouldn't say she was a con artist or mentally unwell (how rude btw, love how quick people on mumsnet are to say your crazy to each other and then complain about that the Karen meme is people calling them crazy) she's probably just experimenting with the occult which some people believe in and others don't,

If it's not something you believe in just leave her to it.

1555CC · 04/05/2020 09:36

Perhaps it’s because you don’t seem open minded

How open minded are you to the fact that she's a con artist?

MouthBreathingRage · 04/05/2020 09:39

I've seen a lot more 'Medium' type adverts pop up recently. People are getting fed up of MLMs, but worried about the future. What a great way to combine a 'home business' whilst praying on people's fears, it only takes a few naive folk who believe in this nonsense to make quite a bit of money.

PicsInRed · 04/05/2020 09:40

I thought this was going to be a thread about lazy people Grin

Sally872 · 04/05/2020 09:45

I would be worried for my friend. I would be careful not to offend her but try and make sure she is not being naive or giving more than she can comfortably afford to this group.

Sounds like she may be being conned at this point rather than a con-artist @1555CC

SliAnCroix · 04/05/2020 09:45

Is she trying to raise money to pay somebody else or is she looking for money to fund her ''channel'' or whatever?

It sounds a bit of a strange direction for a formerly pragmatic friend to take!

But some people are SO closed minded, I've had people react as though I'm regressing to a past life because I suggested listening to binaural beats or because I was open to hypnosis or the law of attraction or EFT.

So it's hard to know if she's ''lost it'' without seeing her channel!

NewYearNewTwatName · 04/05/2020 09:50

BTW I know people who have been going to spiritualist groups for 30+ years. (they usually just all sit around hoping one of them gets a obscure message to pass on to someone else. something like "i have guy called trevor wearing blue Jeans he tells me, you dorothy may at sometime in the future or it may have already happened (you know times funny in the spirit world) get an odd feeling like someone just flicked your forehead, it's just to let you know that spirits are there and looking out for you in hard times.

I leave them to it.

But given your last posts, I'd be worried by who is praying on your friends vulnerability and why.

SamVimesFavouriteDragon · 04/05/2020 09:51

It's always Diana, isn't it? She must be very busy Grin

Warsawa31 · 04/05/2020 09:52

To each their own, I do feel like this sort of new age spirituality gets mostly ridicule but mainstream religion which causes way more harm and dogmatic closed minded thinking is treated with kid gloves. If your friend found Jesus would you be posting on here embarrassed on her behalf? Does she have to live her life in A certain way in order to be worthy of you friendship ? Maybe she just thought fuck what people think I’ve found something that speaks to me. Your included in people, so she shouldn’t give a fuck what you think

MintyMabel · 04/05/2020 09:52

But some people are SO closed minded, I've had people react as though I'm regressing to a past life because I suggested listening to binaural beats or because I was open to hypnosis or the law of attraction or EFT.

How closed minded of you not to understand some people just aren’t interested in all that bollocks. Or is an open mind only important to you when people are being asked to accept your shit?

gamerchick · 04/05/2020 09:53

If she's not asking for money and they're happy enough then it sounds peaceful enough and I'm all for whatever brings peace in the mind in these times.

Nearlyalmost50 · 04/05/2020 09:58

Just leave her to it. I have a friend into woo that doesn't make any sense to me, but it does to her and it's not hurting anyone, in fact, it's all quite peaceful and calming. I have other friends into dog clubs, fan fiction, conspiracy theories, religious postings, all types of things that aren't my thing. Leave them to it, you don't have to like her posts!

acatcalledjohn · 04/05/2020 09:58

If she's not asking for money and they're happy enough then it sounds peaceful enough and I'm all for whatever brings peace in the mind in these times.

False hope is a pretty cruel thing to give to people, especially in times where a lot of people are mentally fragile.

Con artist.

Princess Diana and Ghandi Grin

GoatyGoatyMingeMinge · 04/05/2020 09:59

My first instinct is it's a load of bollocks. But wanted to get some more opinions before I raised this point of view with her

It's obviously a load of bollocks. But is she just harmlessly nutty, or is she a con artist, making money from the gullible? To my mind any belief in gods, spirits or the supernatural is a load of bollocks, but I wouldn't cut someone off as a friend for that reason alone.

MouthBreathingRage · 04/05/2020 10:04

If she's not asking for money and they're happy enough then it sounds peaceful enough and I'm all for whatever brings peace in the mind in these times.

It doesn't always start with asking for money though. It starts with talking about it, weeding out who's 'supportive', free samples, 'message me for a chat', etc. A smarter person wouldn't just jump in with 'pay for my bullshit', especially during these financially difficult times.

Always be cynical of a friend's new-found lifestyle, especially one they're going on about on social media. More likely than not, eventually they'll be looking for money.

ravenmum · 04/05/2020 10:05

I've had someone dismiss me as closed-minded because I said politely that I don't believe in ghosts.
A sudden, drastic personality change can be a sign of mental health issues, if that's your worry, but if you voice doubts then she might well cut you off entirely. Maybe keep quiet about your opinions and be ready to speak to someone physically closer to her if she does appear to be struggling in future.

Smellbellina · 04/05/2020 10:06

Leave her be, you don’t need to challenge her, people are allowed to believe in shit you don’t.
Don’t encourage her either, just be her friend.

Pixiefringe · 04/05/2020 10:08

Steer WELL clear OP.

Not everything spiritual is good.

Lynda07 · 04/05/2020 10:09

It would worry me though I'm all for people believing what they want to believe. However I wouldn't particularly want to to be friends with someone who thought as she does - especially if she was drawing others into it and maybe (not saying she is), makes money from it.

1555CC · 04/05/2020 10:11

But some people are SO closed minded, I've had people react as though I'm regressing to a past life because I suggested listening to binaural beats or because I was open to hypnosis or the law of attraction or EFT.

The Law of Attraction is a vile, victim blaming scam. Shame on you for giving it any credence at all. But I guess you're too closed minded to see that.

GigiLamour · 04/05/2020 10:13

If she's not trying to exploit people, and nobody's trying to exploit her, then I would leave her to do what makes her happy.

Personally I'm very sceptical about this stuff, but there are plenty of people who are into it and they aren't all con artists or victims. Two of my friends (separately - they don't know each other) believe that they have mediumistic powers. Neither charges for any "work" they do in this field. One is a SENCO and the other is a computer programmer. I don't really know much about their woo stuff because I don't ask them. But they're very nice people and it doesn't seem to do them any harm.

1555CC · 04/05/2020 10:13

people are allowed to believe in shit you don’t. Don’t encourage her either, just be her friend.

People are allowed to kick friends into touch for believing in harmful shit.

thedancingbear · 04/05/2020 10:16

I normally hate the kind of post that I'm writing, but please, please OP don't listen to the posters rattling on about how 'closed minded' you are.

People can't read other people's minds, or see the future, or any of that shit. They just can't.

She is either genuinely delusional, or a con artist.

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