ABU to put a note on my very rural door telling randoms to eff off.

[KnickersandGnomes]

Possibly outing but I'm a bit freaked out. Nearest neighbours are over a mile away, they really are - I live in the middle of nowhere. Couriers wont deliver because they swear they can't find the place blah blah etc etc.

I have some pretty horrid health issues, mostly Lyme Disease based and they leave me so tired and wrung out.

This afternoon I had some unexpected knocking at my door which I ignored followed up by a woman's voice in my garden and banging on my living room, bedroom and porch windows.

There was nothing put though my letter box and my garden gate was left wide open (mahoosive no no as I have five dogs) and it's left me both angry and scared.

I don't like or want to be angry and scared but I am both now so I'm hoping that the Mumsnet wisdom can help?

I have no recent partner that I have parted with on bad terms and because of my illness I live a very quiet life these days so I am utterly lost?

@Namechangex10000 - I wouldn't believe her for one second - no one would remove a tag at 2am. It was probably someone to do with your ex checking up on you/seeing if he was with you.

I often think the response by those who say “emergency” means they have never been targeted.

I agree with this. Some people are too trusting. There are such things as criminals, scammers, twats - doesn't mean you have to live life in fear it just means to be a bit cautious.

Clearly there are those who don't or can't open the door for any number of reasons. Some of those reasons are perfectly reasonable and valid. Some of the reasons may be a little overly precautious, paranoid, odd, whatever. But nonetheless, these people have their reasons, and they're just as entitled to their way of living as you are

You do realise that OP posted asking 'am I being unreasonable' on a discussion forum for that very purpose, don't you?

Are you expecting everyone to pretend this behaviour is not paranoid and unusual when asked? Why?

This afternoon I had some unexpected knocking at my door which I ignored followed up by a woman's voice in my garden and banging on my living room, bedroom and porch windows.

Sounds like they knew you were home and got pissed off you wouldn't answer the door, so kept on knocking.

I was knocking on a neighbour’s door last year and I know they were inside yet they didn’t answer. All I was trying to say was they had left their keys in the front door. I gave up and walked away.

I saw a sign recently which said 'trespassers will be shit. Survivors will be fed to the dogs'. This would suit the OP. I don't get why you wouldn't at least call from a window as not knowing surely makes you more anxious. Each to their own though but I hope OP never needs help from her nearest neighbours.

I saw a sign recently which said 'trespassers will be shit.

Bit daft, some trespassers could be brilliant.

I saw a sign recently which said 'trespassers will be shit.

Bit daft, some trespassers could be brilliant.

Hahahahahah!!!!

Why did you not just go to a window and see what she wanted?!

How are you managing to look after 5 doggies...maybe the caller was going to offer some help !

OP, it would’ve freaked me out too but then due to that I could never live as isolated as you. I love rural and live in a rural village...of 300 houses so I don’t feel worried if DH has to go away for work or whatever.

We also have a Ring doorbell and security cameras which are an absolute godsend and I couldn’t be without them. Definitely invest in a ring if you can and then you never need to worry. You can just answer (if you want) from your phone!

People who aren't from the countryside act like twats sometimes. My sister lives in a remote cottage in Wales. Walkers sometimes go into her garden and knock on her door. When she answers they literally say "Oh! Hello! We just thought we'd see if someone lived here"

You can TELL someone lives there, it's well kept!

They're nosey fuckers who want to see who lives in the picturesque cottage.

It's horrible and I'm scared they will come back because I do not know what they want
And you will never know unless you ask!!!
I think the sound of 5 barking dogs tend to scare even a determined burglar off and by not answering would suggest there are times you are not home!
What a bloody odd attitude.

Fortunes I’ve only got one friend who lives rurally and she gets the same, as if they think her home is available for visiting.

Oh no, only just seen my typo. Shit indeed.

Couldn’t you have asked what they wanted? Would have saved all the angst.

A “no solicitors” sign and a ring doorbell are a great combo.

Op are you ok?

Too harsh Worra. The OP herself is vulnerable.

Idk OP was posting on Monday that her post was slower than usual, her two cat igloos finally arrived but she had ordered various bits and bobs for her parents that were taking a while to arrive.. maybe it was just a delivery driver? I know OP said couriers can't find her but maybe this one did!

Oh come on...the woman knocking on her door in the middle of nowhere could've been far more vulnerable than the OP locked inside her safe, warm home.

Anyone with an ounce of compassion would've asked what she wanted through the safety of a closed door or slightly ajar window.

But the OP's instinctive reaction is to ask us all if she should put a note on her door telling 'randoms to fuck off'.

Just because someone is vulnerable, that does not mean they can't be a nasty individual too.

Oh the irony 🤣🤣
KnickersandGnomes
Are you at all familiar with the expression 'Drama Llama' OP?

@JKScot4

i would put the note on your gate as well, if they are leaving it open thats not on, your dogs could escape.

@Jenasaurus a note saying please shut the gate or a note saying fuck off?